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Here’s why Moby’s controversial plan for food stamps wouldn’t work

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Moby is under fire for critiquing the U.S. food stamps program. (Photo: Getty Images)

Moby is taking heat for criticizing the U.S. food stamp program in an op-ed titled, “Food Stamps Shouldn’t Pay for Junk Food.”

On Tuesday, the musician wrote in the Wall Street Journal that the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP), formerly the Food Stamp Program, a federal effort that helps 40 million Americans buy food via a payment card, does not promote health.

“Even though SNAP is generally well-intentioned, what it puts on shelves is not always helpful or healthy,” wrote Moby. “SNAP rules allow stores to distribute candy, soda, cheese products, energy drinks, processed meats and lots of other items that end up seriously compromising the health of SNAP recipients.”

Moby disclosed that while he was growing up in Darien, Conn., his mother relied on food stamps to feed him. He also noted that research shows people collecting SNAP have worse diets than others and are more likely to be obese when compared with people at the same income level who don’t participate in the program.

Arguing that the solution isn’t to end SNAP but rather to reform it, Moby writes, “A better approach would be to focus the program on cheap, healthy foods like beans, vegetables, fruit and whole grains.” He says, “Congress should fix SNAP, not gut it. The U.S. can have healthier people, lower health-care costs, and a trimmer budget at the same time.”

In February, President Trump suggested revamping SNAP as “America’s Harvest Box” and offering shelf-stable (processed) food selected by the government in lieu of people purchasing their own food with payment cards. The proposed plan would slash SNAP benefits by $17.2 billion in 2019 and was criticized for being highly impractical and inefficient.

“What we do is propose that, for folks who are on food stamps, part — not all, part — of their benefits come in the actual sort of — and I don’t want to steal somebody’s copyright — but a Blue Apron-type program where you actually receive the food instead of receive the cash,” Mick Mulvaney, director of the Office of Management and Budget, told reporters, according to NBC.

Moby’s suggestion was met with equal disdain — many called him names such as a “vegan millionaire” and labeled him out of touch.

Moby’s plan is problematic, according to Craig Gundersen, a professor in the Department of Agricultural and Consumer Economics at the University of Illinois. “The reason SNAP works so well is that it gives dignity and autonomy to families,” he tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “The notion of the government telling people what to feed themselves is insulting and could cause SNAP participants to drop out of the program altogether.”

Noting that Moby, a long-time vegan, follows his own unique diet, Gundersen says there’s an inherent danger in imposing specific menus on the public. “By his theory, how would SNAP cater to people with specific dietary needs stemming from allergies, religious beliefs, or medical issues?” says Gundersen. “It’s a slippery slope.”

There’s also a financial downside to Moby’s plan, he says, including rising food prices. “Companies would also have to label or categorize food either SNAP approved or not,” he notes. “And while that may be feasible for large organizations, it would be a massive undertaking for mom-and-pop companies, some of whom may opt out altogether.”

Gundersen added, “Being poor is stigmatizing enough — do we really want to embarrass people in the checkout line? We owe poor people dignity.”

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People are upset that Melania Trump hasn’t appeared on a magazine cover since becoming first lady

Melania Trump fans are calling for the first lady to become a magazine cover star, with some tweeting her most glamorous photos.

The issue was raised on Saturday when actor James Woods tweeted, “If the Trumps were Democrats, Melania would be on every cover of every chic women’s magazine in the world every month,” alongside a photo of the first lady wearing a strapless blue gown.

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Melania Trump isn’t landing magazine covers, and her fan base isn’t pleased. (Photo: Getty Images)

His comment echoed across Twitter in the form of 18,500 retweets and more than 58,000 likes.

On the surface, the first lady has enough cred to cover every fashion magazine on the newsstand. The former model from communist Slovenia worked in Milan and Paris before moving to the United States in 1996, where she scored covers for Sports Illustrated, Vanity Fair, Harper’s Bazaar, and GQ.

After meeting Donald Trump at a fashion party in 1998 and marrying him in 2005, Melania retreated into private life to care for the couple’s now 12-year-old son, Barron. However, her classic beauty and position in society remained a focal point for mainstream publications, blogs, and Instagram accounts.

Back in February, NBC explored Melania’s absence on magazine covers, comparing her to first lady Michelle Obama, who covered Vogue on three different occasions. One magazine editor who spoke to NBC anonymously said, “For some people, it’s a moral issue,” referring to that fact that some readers feel the administration is steeped in racist policies. “There is no way to do the Trumps without infuriating either the base or the resistance. It is a no-win.”

Another possible reason Melania doesn’t appear on covers stems from personal politics, according to Samir Husni, director of the Magazine Innovation Center at the University of Mississippi. “Some magazine editors may be putting politics ahead of money and vice versa,” he told NBC. For example, in October 2016, Vogue publicly supported Hillary Clinton for president, writing that the former secretary of state was the “perfect” presidential candidate.

And when Wintour did mull over the possibility of putting Melania on the cover of Vogue, telling the Wall Street Journal in February 2017, “We have a tradition of always covering whoever is the first lady at Vogue, and I can’t imagine that this time would be any different,” that lead to threats to boycott the publication. In the previous month, when Vanity Fair’s Mexico edition ran a cover photo of Melania posing with a plate of jewels (from a year-old issue of GQ), the magazine took heat for projecting materialism and “a lack of sensitivity.”

NBC pointed out that Melania’s avoidance of interviews is another factor. Plus, her silence — on policy, her personal platform, her husband’s alleged extramarital affairs — wouldn’t amount to compelling cover stories. There’s also the fact that, while Tommy Hilfiger and Mark Badgley and James Mischka of Badgley Mischka have made supportive statements about dressing Melania, many fashion designers, such as Tom Ford, Zac Posen, Christian Siriano, and Marc Jacobs, have refused to dress her.

Even if Melania has aspirations to be a cover star, the first couple’s distrust of certain media outlets might be problematic. In November, Melania criticized Vanity Fair for suggesting that she didn’t enjoy her role as first lady, and her communications director issued this statement:

“Once again, part of the liberal media, this time Vanity Fair, has written a story riddled with unnamed sources and false assertions. As a magazine tailored to women, it is shameful that they continue to write salacious and false stories meant to demean Mrs. Trump, rather than focus on her positive work as First Lady as a supportive wife and mother.”

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Ivanka Trump’s tweet about healthy-children programs backfires

A tweet from Ivanka Trump emphasizing healthy lifestyles for children initiated backlash over the administration’s approach to health care.

On Sunday the first daughter tweeted, “We need to promote healthy lifestyles for America’s youth. In a recent survey, 9.5 million U.S. children reported that they did NOT once participate in any of over 100 sports or activities listed.”

Mark Hertling, a retired 37-year Army general, tweeted back, ”Ummm…there’s this thing called the President’s Council on Fitness, Sport, and Nutrition. Been around 60 years. Used to have 25 appointees…I was one of them. @MichelleObama helped & generated momentum in this area. No one is on the Council now. @FitnessGov. Check it out.”

Hertling’s comments were in reference to Trump’s various changes to the Obama administration’s children’s health programs.

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Ivanka Trump’s tweet to promote healthier living for children wasn’t well received. (Photo: Getty Images)

In February the president reworded the title of the President’s Council on Fitness, Sports, and Nutrition, swapping the order of “Fitness” and “Sports” to emphasize team sports. On the website for the modified initiative, not only are the council co-chairs and members omitted (the page states, “To be announced”), its content was last reviewed on March 21, 2017, suggesting its low priority on the Trump agenda.

And in May 2017, according to Reuters, Sonny Perdue, Trump’s secretary of agriculture, announced changes to school lunch programs, such as serving fewer whole grains and fattier milk. Under Obama, the 2010 Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act required schools to serve more produce, cut sodium, and set maximum calorie limits, as part of Michelle Obama’s “Let’s Move” campaign.

Hertling also tweeted, “One more thing…it falls under @HHSGov Ask their secretary…oh, never mind.”

He may have been referring to recent chaos in the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services — Secretary Tom Price resigned in September after criticism about his use of expensive private jets and was replaced by Alex Azar, a former pharmaceutical rep.

Ivanka’s tweet also earned criticism from those opposing the dismantling of the Affordable Care Act (Obamacare), one of the current president’s long-term goals.

And some found Ivanka’s message hypocritical because of the president’s love of fast food and his current weight, which experts say is nearing obesity, despite the White House physician noting his “excellent” health.

One remaining Obama effort is the White House Kitchen Garden, which Melania Trump used in September, inviting local schoolchildren to plant vegetables. “I’m a big believer in healthy eating because it reflects on your mind and your body,” Melania said, according to Politico. “I encourage you to continue to eat a lot of vegetables and fruits, so you grow up healthy and take care of yourself.”

Michelle Obama planted the garden in 2009, to provide fresh vegetables to the staff, and it ultimately triggered the idea for “Let’s Move.”

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Melania Trump in the White House Kitchen Garden in September, planting vegetables with local schoolchildren. (Photo: Getty Images)

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Transgender student, 19, wins dress code fight and can wear makeup, heels, and a wig in yearbook photo

A transgender teen whose high school principal threatened to cut her photo from the yearbook because of the student’s “too feminine” attire has won the right to dress how she pleases.

On Tuesday, the Caddo Parish School District in Shreveport, La., released a statement that said, “Caddo Parish stands by the First Amendment right of students to express themselves, and that belief is supported within the [school board’s] approved dress code policy.”

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Transgender teen Kami Pham won the right to wear makeup and heels in her yearbook photo. (Photo: Courtesy of Tatjana Cotton)

The victory was well-deserved for Kami Pham, 19, a senior at Southwood High School who fought to wear makeup, a wig, and heels in her school photo and at her graduation ceremony May 9.

After Pham had submitted her yearbook photo — which featured her wearing a bright pink shirt, jeans, a black wig, and makeup — her yearbook adviser informed her that Principal Jeff Roberts said the pictures were “too feminine.” Pham was given the option of finding a new photographer and paying for a new picture in one business day.

“I was given no notice to redo a photo someone else had a problem with,” Pham tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “Plus, I took those photos almost one year ago. No one said anything to me until last month.”

What’s more, Pham’s friend Tatjana Cotton tells Yahoo Lifestyle that teachers are accustomed to Pham’s look. “She wears nail polish and bright colors to class,” she says.

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A group of Pham’s friends launched a petition to fight for her rights. (Photo: Courtesy of Tatjana Cotton)

A few days later, Pham intercepted Roberts in the hallway and asked if she could wear heels, a wig, and makeup to her graduation ceremony. She was told her request went against the school dress code.

However, when Pham and Cotton reviewed their dress code on the school website, it was clear Pham hadn’t violated any rules.

In late March, Cotton and a group of friends launched a petition, “Stop LGBT+ discrimination in North Louisiana schools,” that contained an open letter to Roberts and acquired almost 5,000 signatures.

“Our principal since 2010, Jeff Roberts … believes in a bigoted ideology that those in the LGBT community are not welcome here, and will not be able to find a place at Southwood,” the petition stated. “Roberts, citing a nonexistent rule in the Caddo Parish Student Handbook and Southwood High School Dress Code, claimed that Kami’s photographs were not to be printed in our yearbook or displayed on our senior wall, because she chose to wear a wig and ‘feminine’ attire, which Roberts went on to deem ‘inappropriate’ for someone whose birth certificate identifies them as male.

“We also demand that Kami be allowed in our yearbook, as well as on our senior wall, as well as a formal apology from Jeff Roberts for discriminating and violating the first amendment rights of a student and abusing his authority as principal.”

A representative from the school did not return Yahoo Lifestyle’s request for comment.

“I thought we were going to get around 100 signatures,” says Pham. “It felt good to get that much support and made me push harder.”

On Tuesday, Pham was granted a meeting with the student council president and brought along a former employee of the American Civil Liberties Union for backup. “We pretended she was my grandmother,” Pham says.

A few hours later, Pham received an email confirming that her chosen photo will run in the yearbook. She’s also looking forward to wearing heels, makeup, a wig — and a tuxedo — to her graduation ceremony.

“What I did was good for LGBT people,” Pham says. “They shouldn’t be afraid to be themselves.”

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A healthy 43-year-old woman had a heart attack ‘out of nowhere’ — how is that even possible?

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Women are more at risk than men of dying from cardiovascular disease. (Photo: Getty Images)

A young, healthy woman is sharing her experience of having a heart attack “that came out of nowhere” in a viral Facebook post.

On Wednesday, Beth Shelburne, a journalist in Birmingham, Ala., who works for local news station WBRC, wrote in a post that got 1,400 reactions, “I had a heart attack Monday night. I know, it’s still hard for me to process. I am currently in good hands at UAB, undergoing tests on what may have caused it. I am 43 with no known health problems, other than a large load of anxiety I carry around in an already stressful but fantastic life. Still, this came out of nowhere.”

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At first, Shelburne thought the early symptoms of lightheadedness and shortness of breath were actually a panic attack. “But what got my attention was radiating dull pain and pressure in my chest, throat & jaw, and down my arms,” she wrote. “That was something I had never experienced, so we went to the E.R. Turns out, that was the right thing to do…for now, I am incredibly grateful to JUST BE ALIVE. That is an amazing gift.”

A Facebook commenter chimed in that her friend, also Shelburne’s age, had suffered a heart attack recently. Another wrote, “I had a heart attack at 43. Had a personal trainer and no risk factors. Turned out mine was caused by severe spasms in 2 of my coronary arteries. Unfortunately, I had open heart surgery before they figured out the true cause.” 

Heart attacks often evoke images of overweight middle-aged folks (the average age of men having a first-time attack is 65; for women, 72), but according to Sam Kalioundji, MD, an interventional cardiologist at Dignity Health Northridge Hospital in California, young women — even in their 30s — are at risk.

“Cardiovascular disease, of which heart attacks are one type, is the leading cause of death among women for two reasons,” he tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “Heart attacks have long been viewed as a male concern, so women aren’t educated about them as much. And women tend to present with atypical symptoms, which are easier to overlook.”

Factors that put women at risk are diabetes, high blood pressure and blood sugar, stress, family history, smoking (that includes vaping), depression, and lack of sleep and physical activity. “Ideally, women should get 40-60 minutes of exercise per day — not necessarily through tracking daily steps but actual, self-focused exercise,” says Kalioundji, adding that not being overweight isn’t a pass for unhealthy habits. “We often treat physically fit people who had heart attacks.”

Other areas of concern are trendy high-protein diets that include generous servings of red meat, which increase the risk for heart disease, as well as diet supplements.

Kalioundji notes that while some heart attacks are sudden, women tend to experience a gradual onset of discomfort, such as shortness of breath, fatigue, neck and abdominal pain — all signs that point to calling 911. “Oftentimes, a heart attack can feel like indigestion,” he says, adding that if the pain worsens with activity, it’s a red flag. “Never delay getting medical care.”

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2-year-old cries after discovering Target doesn’t sell Spider-Man shoes for girls

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A little girl who wanted Spider-Man shoes triggered a debate about gender stereotypes.(Photo: Getty Images)

One dad is challenging Target to be more gender-inclusive by sharing a common parenting gripe.

On Friday, Qasim Rashid, attorney and human rights activist, tweeted the following:

“Hey @Target I bought my 4-year-old son Spider-Man shoes & now my 2-year-old daughter wants Spider-Man shoes too. But you don’t sell Spider-Man shoes that fit 2-year-old girls. Even when I search for them — boys shoes are the only result. She’s crying now. It’s heartbreaking. Thx.”

On Thursday, the father of three kids, ages 9, 4, and 2 made a trip to Target in their home state of Virginia to buy shoes for the two youngest children. However, after purchasing a pair of Spider-Man light-up shoes for his son and plain blue light-up sneakers for his daughter, the siblings started arguing.

“When my daughter saw her brother’s shoes, she scampered over to him and stole them when he wasn’t looking,” Rashid tells Yahoo Lifestyle.

Later that night, the dad visited Target’s website to search for Spider-Man sneakers for girls, to no avail, so he appealed to the retail giant for answers. In the process, Rashid inspired many to express their feelings about gender stereotypical kids’ clothing and toys.

“Even before my daughter was born, it was important to me that I raise her believing she is equal to the opposite sex,” says Rashid. “That’s driven by my faith as a Muslim and a result of living in a patriarchal society.”

He adds, “If I don’t teach her the concept of equality at home, she won’t expect equal treatment out in the world.”

Target has actually been making progress on this front — in July, the retailer released a gender-neutral back-to-school collection in sizes 4 to 16 and in 2015, eradicated gender-based signage in response to “families to feel frustrated or limited by the way things are presented.” For example, per a press release, in kids’ bedding and toy aisles, Target removed any suggestion of gender, including the use of pink, blue, yellow, and green.

While Target hasn’t responded to Rashid’s comment, his daughter is a happy customer. He shared a follow-up video of the toddler stomping down the hallway wearing her new shoes. Rashid tweeted, “Update: She took her brothers shoes and I’m just gonna let it fly like this.”

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Blended families, like Kate Hudson’s, are challenging — but they’re also unique

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Kate Hudson, shown with boyfriend Danny Fujikawa, is expecting her third child and her first with him. (Photo: Getty Images)

Kate Hudson surprised everyone with news that she’s expecting her third child, a baby girl.

The actress, 38, made the announcement via Instagram with footage of her gender reveal party, complete with hot-pink balloons, confetti, and a euphoric reaction from Hudson and her loved ones.

“Surprise! If you’ve wondered why I’ve been so absent on my social channels it’s because I have never been more sick!” Hudson wrote in the video’s caption. “It was the most sick first trimester of all my children…We have been trying to keep this pregnancy under the radar for as long as possible but I’m a poppin now! And it’s too darn challenging to hide, and frankly hiding is more exhausting than just coming out with it! My kids, Danny, myself and the entire family are crazy excited! A little girl on the way.”

SURPRISE!!! If you’ve wondered why I’ve been so absent on my social channels it’s because I have never been more sick! It was the most sick first trimester of all my children. Boomerangs have made me nauseous, Superzoom is an easy way to have my head in the toilet, food instagrams make me queezy and thinking too much about insta stories made me even more exhausted than I already had been. If you’ve seen me out and about smiling and pretending like everything is amazing…I was lying! BUT! I have broken through on the other end of that and rediscovering the joys of insta/snap. We have been trying to keep this pregnancy under the radar for as long as possible but I’m a poppin now! And it’s too darn challenging to hide, and frankly hiding is more exhausting then just coming out with it! My kids, Danny, myself and the entire family are crazy excited! A little girl on the way

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Hudson already has two sons: Bingham Hawn, 6, with ex-fiancé Matt Bellamy, and Ryder Russell, 14, with ex-husband and Black Crowes lead singer Chris Robinson.

Hudson and boyfriend Danny Fujikawa, her unborn baby’s father, went public with their relationship last May at the Hollywood premiere of Snatched, starring Hudson’s mother, Goldie Hawn. In March 2017, a source told People of the romance, “Kate’s a free spirit who has always been attracted to musicians. But Danny also appeals to her because he is talented, bright, and cosmopolitan like she is.”

The source added, “Kate’s enjoying herself. At this point it’s not serious.”

Of course, that’s different now. Going forward, Hudson’s family life will be even more wonderful — and full of unexpected challenges.

Hudson is part of the growing trend of blended families, which is on the rise, according to 2014 data compiled by the Pew Research Center. Not only are two-parent households declining, but divorce, remarriage, and cohabitation are increasingly common. “There is no longer one dominant family form in the U.S,” per Pew. “Parents today are raising their children against a backdrop of increasingly diverse and, for many, constantly evolving family forms.”

Those families often encounter a set of emotional and logistical challenges, says Deborah Gilboa, MD., a parenting and youth development expert. “One big hurdle is that daily schedules get more complex because each child has his or her own needs, passions, and abilities,” she tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “That requires parents to be super-organized, clear, and draw boundaries.”

Because children rarely distinguish between siblings that are half, step, or biological, Gilboa says, parents should be mindful of each other’s unique circumstances in regard to finances and availability. So, she notes, “that way, you’ll help prevent situations in which a child feels excluded because, for example, only one sibling received a gift.”

Also, adults in blended families have the added pressure of managing their own emotions — in maintaining positive relationships with their ex-partners, they must often do the same with extended families and, in some cases, new romantic partners. At family events like birthday parties and graduations, emotions can get complicated.

However, there are many advantages to any type of growing family. “Kids in large or unconventional households usually have more diverse life experiences and flexibility,” says Gilboa. “And because their own families are unique, they become more open-minded and accepting of others.”

She adds, “At face value, it’s easy to see how blended families could be problematic, but handled positively, they’re great opportunities for kids.”

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There’s a reason Carrie Underwood’s ‘gruesome’ injury has kept her out of the spotlight

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We haven’t seen much of Carrie Underwood since she was reportedly hospitalized with facial injuries after an accident. (Photo: Getty Images)

Carrie Underwood is facing the camera again after what she called a “gruesome” accident that made her “look a bit different.”

On Friday, the country star Instagrammed a faraway shot of herself rehearsing for the April 15 Academy of Country Music Awards. On Wednesday, she had shared a black-and-white image in the studio, exposing only half her face.

Underwood, 35, has largely stayed out of the spotlight since November, when she fell on stairs and reportedly broke her wrist.

A few days after Christmas, Underwood surfaced in an Instagram selfie that showed her face concealed with a scarf. “When in 5 degree weather, wrap your @caliabycarrie scarf around your neck and face…you keep warm AND look like an awesome winter snow ninja!” she joked in the caption.

Then on New Years’ Day, in a private message to her fan club obtained by People magazine, Underwood said that along with breaking her wrist, she sustained injuries to her face that were serious, requiring “between 40 and 50 stitches.”

She wrote, “There is also another part of the story that I haven’t been ready to talk about since I have still been living it and there has been much uncertainty as to how things will end up. It’s crazy how a freak random accident can change your life.”

“In addition to breaking my wrist, I somehow managed to injure my face as well,” Underwood added. “I’ll spare you the gruesome details, but when I came out of surgery the night of my fall, the doctor told [Underwood’s husband] Mike that he had put between 40 and 50 stitches in.”

Admitting that she was “not quite looking the same,” she said: “I am determined to make 2018 amazing and I want to share things with you along the way. And when I am ready to get in front of a camera, I want you all to understand why I might look a bit different.”

Some fans have dismissed Underwood as being “shallow” for keeping a low profile, and talk show host Wendy Williams even suggested that the singer was hiding to recover from a face-lift, angering Underwood’s fans.

Whether you’re famous or not, facial injuries carry weight beyond the physical effects. People disfigured with facial scars or asymmetry score significantly higher for anxiety and depression, according to a study published in the Journal of International Oral Health. Other research shows that facial trauma patients experience body-image issues, posttraumatic stress disorder, marital problems, increased risk of alcoholism, and “lower satisfaction with life.”

“People with facial injuries often undergo what we call ‘cosmetic anxiety,’ and it can greatly affect one’s self-esteem,” Gerald Young, PhD., the founder and editor-in-chief of the journal Psychological Injury and Law, tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “For celebrities, the feelings can stem from not only a desire to preserve their aesthetic but also their public persona.”

Humans are driven to focus on the face. “Faces are salient markers of who we are physically, and our species inherently categorizes facial models — even babies do it according to race, gender, and attractiveness,” says Young. For the latter, facial symmetry is traditionally associated with beauty, and because women are often judged harshly for their appearance, injuries can result in traumatic feelings.

But cosmetic anxiety is not always about vanity — any changes to one’s face can feel deeply personal. “We often develop identities associated with our positive personality traits, and if one’s physical appearance changes, it can affect how they view themselves,” says Young. And that’s in addition to any psychological factors that accompany the injury, such as anxiety, shame, or posttraumatic stress.

Young says there are two common approaches to helping such people: Directly treat any psychological disorders that result from the injury or tailor coping mechanisms to the individual. However, he says: “The question is, how can one move forward looking different and still be themselves at the core?” 

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‘The most beautiful girl in the world’ just turned 17

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French model Thylane Blondeau is celebrating her 17th birthday on April 5. (Photo: Getty Images)

French model Thylane Blondeau, dubbed “the most beautiful girl in the world,” is feeling sentimental ahead of her 17th birthday on April 5, and is sharing a precious childhood photo.

The L’Oréal brand ambassador is already a modeling pro, having walked the runway for Jean Paul Gaultier when she was only 4 years old and appearing on the cover of Vogue Enfants, a supplement in Vogue Paris, at age 6,a job that earned her the title, “the most beautiful girl in the world.”

17 !!!!!!

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However, 10-year-old Blondeau went mainstream in 2011 when a photo shoot in Vogue Paris ignited controversy for being risqué. According to the Daily Mail, British Labour Party politician Helen Goodman, among others, called the magazine “disgraceful and totally irresponsible,” adding, “They have descended into the gutter by doing this.” 

The drama didn’t faze Blondeau — in September, the teen, who is represented by IMG Models, sat front row during New York Fashion Week at Michael Kors alongside Gabriel-Kane Day-Lewis. 

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Thylane Blondeau and Gabriel-Kane Day-Lewis. (Photo: Getty Images)

In October, she walked the runway at Le Defile L’Oréal Paris during Paris Fashion Week.

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Thylane Blondeau during Paris Fashion Week. (Photo: Getty Images)

And recently, French brand Juicy Couture announced that Blondeau will be the face of its SS18 campaign. 

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Twin sisters with ‘debilitating’ OCD dead in apparent suicide pact

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Twin sisters who struggled with OCD were found dead from gunshot wounds in what police are calling a double suicide or murder-suicide. (Photo: CBS)

Twin sisters who underwent revolutionary surgery to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder were found dead in what police are calling a “suicide pact.”

“It appears to be either a double suicide or a murder-suicide, according to investigators, the coroner, and pathology,” Sgt. Megan Richards of the Fremont County Sheriff’s Office in Canon City, Colo., tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “The scene did not show a struggle or that one woman was held against her will.” 

As teens, sisters Amanda and Sara Eldritch, 33, developed OCD, a mental health disorder that leads to intrusive thoughts and compulsive behavior. They became disgusted with the human body, even their own, and harbored various medical fears. “We would think we were poisoned,” Sara told Oklahoma City local station News 9 in 2016. “We would pick through our food to make sure it was OK.” The sisters also struggled with suicidal thoughts.

As adults living in Broomfield, Colo., they took 10-hour showers, washed their hands for 20 minutes at a time, and used up to five bottles of hand sanitizer a day. Before leaving the house (a rare occurrence), they underwent a preparation ritual of not eating or drinking until they were dehydrated, to avoid having to use public restrooms.

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The twins in their youth. (Photo: CBS)

“We had a serious rubbing alcohol problem,” Sara told News 9. “We could go through five bottles a day, each, and that was on our skin.” Amanda added, “There was one point when we were using so much hydrogen peroxide on our faces that it turned our eyebrows orange.”

The sisters also told the outlet that they wore gloves to clean, do laundry, and cook, the latter of which they did by rinsing produce in boiling hot water. “Blueberries change color because they’ve been rinsed for so long under hot water,” Sara said. “We cook our food pretty much by rinsing it.”

At the root of their anxiety was a fear of dirt and filth. According to the International OCD Foundation, the sisters’ behavior is known as “decontamination compulsions,” which involves an aversion to not only dirt and germs, but bodily fluids, garbage, certain chemicals, and even soap.

It’s common for those afflicted to excessively clean, disinfect, or avoid certain places altogether. Per the website, “‘Washers,’ as they are referred to, are probably the most visible among those with contamination obsessions. It is not unusual for them to wash their hands 50 or more times per day. In more extreme cases, hands may be washed up to 200 times per day. Showers can take an hour or longer, and in severe situations can last as long as eight hours.”

Over the years, Sara and Amanda tried various forms of therapy and medication, without success. Then, in the spring of 2015, they were offered a rare opportunity.

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Sara and Amanda became the first people in their state to undergo “deep brain stimulation” to control their OCD, a treatment typically used on people with Tourette’s syndrome and epilepsy, among other conditions. According to the Mayo Clinic, the process involves implanting electrodes in particular areas of the brain, which emit electrical impulses that control the abnormal ones.

While the surgery is generally considered safe, risks include complications like brain bleeding and, in the aftermath, stroke or seizure.

For the sisters, the treatment represented a major breakthrough — they stopped taking medication (which they called “Band-Aids”), and enrolled in cognitive therapy. They also became more comfortable with dirt and with shaking hands with people, shortened their showers to 30 minutes, and used rubbing alcohol only to clean their homes.

In an interview with a publication of the Littleton Adventist Hospital in Colorado, the sisters also said they enjoyed bike riding, cooking, and going on walks.

“We are currently surviving and striving for thriving,” Amanda told News 9. Her sister added, “We’re trying to feel like useful members of society. I want to be someone who could ever have a job, have their own home, friends, a social life.”

Their mother, Kathy Worland, also told News 9, “I’ve heard laughter from them, which I haven’t heard for years,” Worland said. “Even though they do have a debilitating depression at times, I’ve seen joy.”

Amanda told Littleton Adventist of post-surgery life, “We didn’t realize you didn’t have to be miserable all the time. The day is so much longer and brighter.” And they appeared on the television show The Doctors to share their experiences.

On Monday, the Fremont County Sheriff’s Office released a statement that Amanda and Sara Eldritch’s bodies were found Friday in a car parked near the Royal Gorge Bridge and Park, both with gunshot wounds.

A GoFundMe page that’s raised more than $10,000 was established on behalf of Worland, who described her daughters as “amazing young women with big smiles and even bigger hearts. … Sara and Amanda had an impact on everyone they met, and touched more people than they could have ever realized. While they will be missed so very much, Sara and Amanda will live on in the hearts and memories of everyone they left behind.”

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