What to Say to Someone Going Into Surgery: 20 Messages of Support

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It can be scary getting ready for a major medical procedure, but knowing what to say to someone before surgery can help put a friend or family member at ease (or at least let them know you're with them). It's all about showing you care and offering your support in whatever way you can. Surgery is a deeply vulnerable experience, but it can feel a lot more doable when patients know their loved ones are there for them.

Things to Say Instead of "Good Luck" Before a Surgery

It's totally fine to say "good luck" in a lot of situations (like an upcoming job interview or a half-marathon), but saying "good luck" before surgery can imply that there's an element of chance when it comes to the outcome. While this might be true, it's not comforting when a friend or loved one is getting ready for a procedure.

  • You're right where you need to be and in capable hands.

  • Your strength is inspiring. I'm thinking of you.

  • Sending you positive thoughts and lots of love.

  • I'll be here when you're ready for company. You're amazing.

  • You've totally got this. Sending you healing thoughts.

You can say these messages on the phone or in person, but they're also great for including with a card or flowers. It doesn't take a lot of words to show someone you care.

What to Say to Someone Going Into Surgery Tomorrow (or Anytime)

The day before a surgery can be a little nerve-wracking, but there are some things you can say to make it a little easier. If the procedure isn't the next day, just adjust your words to reflect when it is.

  • Tomorrow is a big day, but you're awesome. I'll be here when you wake up.

  • I'll be with you tomorrow in my thoughts. You're not alone.

  • You'll do great tomorrow. If there's anything you need during your recovery, I'm here.

  • You'll be in great hands tomorrow. So grateful you're getting the care you need.

  • Even if I can't be by your side tomorrow during surgery, know I'm with you in my thoughts.

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Positive Text Messages for Someone Having Surgery

It's really nice to text someone some short positive wishes before surgery, especially if you can't be there in person. We've got some simple things to say that are sure to make them feel loved.

  • I'm with you in spirit.

  • You've got this.

  • I'm here if you need anything.

  • You're the strongest. I'm proud of you.

  • Sending you wishes for a quick recovery.

Text isn't the only way to show your support. You can also send them a DM on social media or just shoot them a quick email.

Funny Things to Say to Someone Going in for Surgery

If you know someone really well, you might want to say something funny that will make them laugh during this difficult time. These are some things you can say to close friends or family members (be sure you know their sense of humor super well, though).

  • Save me your hospital Jello, please.

  • I'd tell you good luck about tomorrow, but it's really the nursing staff I should be wishing good luck.

  • Having these flowers delivered because I'm a little freaked out by hospitals. You can tease me when you get home.

  • Pro tip for surgery recovery: Remember to keep your gown closed in back when you're up and walking in the hallway.

  • If I know you, you're going to be that one patient no one can keep up with.

Speed Their Recovery by Showing You Care

If you don't know what to say when someone is going into surgery, you can't go wrong with telling them you're thinking of them and are there to help. Just feeling supported by family and friends can speed their recovery and give their mental health a boost, too.