Bride’s Evil Co-Worker Wants to Ruin Her Wedding Day
Do you really want this guy at your wedding? NOPE. (Photo: Getty Images)
When it comes to making a wedding guest list, sometimes it feels like you have to be part United Nations delegate, part 19th-century etiquette instructor, and part kindergarten teacher. Sometimes even that’s not enough. One bride posting on Reddit this week thought she had come up with the perfect solution for not offending any of her co-workers: invite all of them! In order to do so, she had to refrain from giving them any plus-ones, and it looks like that is seriously backfiring.
“A co-worker, let’s call him Justin, has been up in arms that he doesn’t get a plus-one,“ bringbackhack wrote. “My good friend here approached me to let me know that he’s been telling many people that he is bringing a date regardless and I’ll ‘have to deal with it.’”
Justin told his co-workers he felt not being allowed to bring a date was “offensively tacky.” Now the bride is cornered into feeling she has no options outside of letting him bully her into allowing him to bring a guest.
“Uninvite that tool” is currently the most popular of the comments on this post, and another asked if she’d have security at the door to turn him away. There’s also the high-road suggestion: “Let him show up and be a jerk. It will reflect badly on him.”
Kellee Khalil, founder and CEO of wedding planning site and app Lover.ly, offered up some expert advice on the tricky nature of bringing the office to your wedding.
“When it comes to inviting co-workers, you need to proceed with caution and consistency to make the guest-list guessing easier to navigate,” Khalil told Yahoo Style. She recommends inviting your immediate supervisor, the department head (if you’re on friendly terms), and your assistant (if you have one), in addition to any genuinely close work friends. “Don’t feel obligated to invite everyone you see commiserating around the office Keurig in the morning.”
People are going to feel left out no matter what you do, so Khalil emphasized one big rule: “Don’t distribute your invites in the office.”
While bringbackhack may have thought inviting everyone while eliminating plus-ones was a path to happier guests, Khalil thinks the opposite might be true. “I would say that inviting fewer people [and giving them a plus-one] would always have the happier outcome,” she said. “Yes, some people may get upset if they aren’t invited, but it is a total ‘get out of jail free’ pass to tell them that you are having a small, intimate occasion and are only inviting your closest friends and family.”
In this case, you might be best off not inviting co-workers at all. “An alternative is to have a little work party in honor of your wedding or to celebrate your engagement,” she suggested.
Regardless of whom you choose to invite, there’s basically no nice way to get out of it, even if they turn into “Justins.”
“Uninviting someone is just not an option,” Khalil said. “If you’re feel iffy about someone from the get-go, it’s not worth it to send them an invite and then try to retract it later. Unless he or she has done something terribly wrong — e.g., cheated with your soon-to-be hubby or wife — there is no reason to uninvite someone.”
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