If you're Asian (like me), you've probably got plenty of your own stories of microaggressions to flat-out racism. In the past, when I've asked Asian readers to share the most outrageous things non-Asian people have said to them "romantically," many commented and shared their experiences even beyond the dating scene.
And as we know, anti-Asian hate is often minimized or downplayed despite being just as harmful and othering as any other — but it can validating to talk about and recognize.
So to platform these experiences, I want to know about a time you've experienced anti-Asian microaggressions.
If you're unfamiliar with microagression, Professor Kevin Nadal told NPR, "Microaggressions are defined as the everyday, subtle, intentional — and oftentimes unintentional — interactions or behaviors that communicate some sort of bias toward historically marginalized groups."
For instance, one person shared, "I had a not-so-good feeling yesterday when a coworker (who does not know me well) hit the button of the IT floor for me in the elevator. Not all of your Asian coworkers work in IT!"
Another commented, "A guy at my school was speaking Vietnamese. The people listening to him looked at me and asked if I could translate. I told them I'm not that type of Asian; I'm Filipino. Then one guy said, 'Well, can you speak Filipinese?' I said, 'No, that's not a language,' and told him to fuck off."
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And someone else revealed, "An Uber driver once asked if I was going to work because I put my destination as a massage therapy spa that has an Asian name."
Personally, when I was in middle school, my friend came up to me, upset, and revealed that another classmate had asked her 'if she could see in wide-screen.' My friend and I are both Korean, but I didn't understand the 'joke' until she — putting her distress aside for a moment — explained it to me: "Because my eyes are 'wide,' Victoria!"
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