Woman Highlights the Text Messages That Brought Her Comfort After Her Mother's Death
"It’s not always the big, grand gestures that really matter when someone is coping with loss," podcaster Imogen Carn said
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A woman sending a text message (stock image)Condolence text messages can go a long way, according to one woman who recently lost her mom.
Imogen Carn, a co-creator of the Good Mourning podcast, shared a post on Instagram last month in which she highlighted text messages that brought her comfort after her mother died.
"What did someone say to you that was comforting? 💖," Carn wrote in her caption, adding, "Here are some of the messages my friends sent me after my mum died."
"It’s not always the big, grand gestures that really matter when someone is coping with loss — the small, regular texts and check-ins can REALLY help. ❤️," she continued.
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A woman placing flowers at a grave (stock image)Some of the texts that Carn said consoled her include, "One day at a time. xx," “Did you sleep? What needs to happen today and how can I help?” and "How are you doing today? X."
Another message that the podcaster said comforted her read, "Call me whenever you want some company. We can watch trashy movies on the couch and eat chocolate. Love you so much."
One other, meanwhile, said, "Asking how you are feels almost stupid. I wouldn't be OK and don't expect you to be ... but tell me how you're doing OK? X."
Carn also said that a simple text message reading “I am so sorry" provided her comfort during her time of need.
Speaking with Today.com, Carn said people find it hard to have conversations surrounding death and grief.
“People don’t want to confront the fact that death will happen to us and those we love, so it’s easier to brush it aside by not talking about it," she told the outlet.
“As a supporter, be proactive. Offer specific help and follow through. Don’t just ask what you can do. Think about what tasks you can take off their plate — getting help with practical tasks can be a godsend when you’re grieving,” Carn continued.
She added, "Grief is an ongoing experience with no set end."
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