Let's be honest, there is such a thing as too honest. Or too blunt, or aggressive, and the last thing you want to be called is a bridezilla. While wedding planning, dealing with others can get overwhelming and stressful, but it definitely pays to keep your cool. If you're not quite sure how to do that, read on for some possible scenarios and how to handle them with grace!
"But this vendor is cheaper..."
There may potentially be vendors who price outside of your ideal budget. There is a way to go about negotiating with them, and it does not include comparing their prices to other vendors or complaining that they are not worth the price. Instead, explain the budget you have set (and plan to stick to) and ask if there is anyway you can adjust the package to accommodate. Make sure you let them know that you would really like to have them as part of your wedding, and why!
"Are you going to give us cash or pay the bill directly?'
Your family is a big part of your wedding planning process, and may even be the monetary source paying for the wedding. Don't take them for granted, and definitely don't assume that they're going to offer help. Communicate clearly and effectively; don't ask whether they prefer to pay cash or card. Additionally, make sure their help is appreciated, and say thank you early and often to show you see their value.
"This is our wedding, not yours."
Your in-laws will want to play a role in your big day just as much as your parents will! Your mother-in-law may also want to be included in important moments, such as deciding on a venue or a wedding gown. You may feel stifled by all of the opinions whirling around you, and that's okay, just stay calm before it becomes overwhelming. Instead of sending a passive-aggressive text, set boundaries early and explain in detail the level of involvement you would appreciate.
"I don't want you in my wedding!"
Ideally, you'll want those standing up next to you in your ceremony to be integral people in your life. However, sometimes these friends and family members can butt heads and begin to cause tension and you may want someone out of your wedding party. Although your feelings may be hurt and there may already be a lot going on in your life that you feel out of control, try not to just out-right fire your friend from the wedding party. This can end friendships, which ideally, we're trying to avoid. Enlist someone to mediate, and find a way to ease the tension.
Style Me Pretty Contributor - Goli Parvinian is a bridal enthusiast and masters student living in Melbourne, Australia. Over the past few years, she has worked for bridal brands in her hometown of Chicago, New Zealand and New York City. You can typically find her in a cafe, face-timing her nieces or out on a long run.