Thieving Parents Plan To Steal Their Daughter’s Savings To Pay off Their Son’s Loans & Redditors Are Deep in the ‘Dumpster Fire'
Once again, we are hoping and praying that a story on the “Am I The A—hole? (AITA?)” subreddit is fake. I mean, it’s bound to happen, right? (Trolls, etc.) It would be such a relief if it were because the money messes really make our blood pressure skyrocket. Like when a “lying and leeching” mother-in-law stole $15 thousand from her kids. Or when a manipulative dad tried to get his grieving daughter to give away her inheritance. Or when these guilt-tripping parents tried to force their son to cosign their mortgage.
*Deep breaths*
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The latest financial fiasco on Reddit involves a 15-year-old girl and her hard-earned college fund.
Dreams Of Flight
Ever since she was little, this teen has wanted to be a pilot. (How cool!) The training is “very costly,” so she’s been working two jobs — babysitting and at a local cafe — to prepare. “Every little piece of money I’ve made I’ve been putting into a bank account to save,” this teen who originally posted (the “OP”) said. It’s such an impressive and admirable thing to do, so we were pissed when we saw the question, “AITAH for screaming at my parents for trying to use my college funds to pay off my brother’s debt?”
Her Brother’s Situation
Two weeks ago, OP’s 19-year-old brother took out a loan to buy a new car. He reportedly doesn’t have a job and can’t pay it back. So he turned to his parents who OP said pay for his “college accommodation.” “When I heard this I didn’t think much about it and offered to bring his c.v. into a couple of places in town and see if he could get a job,” OP said.
“Last night my parents told me that they were going to take the money from my account to pay for his loan and I was furious with them. I screamed and called them a—holes and said that they didn’t care about me at all because they never supported my dreams (I am the only girl in my family with a younger and older brother).”
She said she knows they’re just trying to help her brother “get on his feet,” but she hasn’t spoken to them since. Her relationship with her brother had been good, and she knows he didn’t take out this poorly planned loan to harm her, but she’s still angry with everyone involved.
“I feel like all my hard work has gone down the drain and I will never get to accomplish my dream,” she said.
Reddit’s Reaction
Are you ready for the internet’s fury?
“Absolutely f*cking NOT THE A—HOLE,” said the top comment with 8.5 thousand upvotes. “What the actual fuck is wrong with your parents???? … I am SO SORRY and ashamed on your parents’ behalf. You are more mature than your brother and parent’s combined … You will go far, OP. This is a setback but with your determination you will rise above all these assholes in life. My heart goes out to you.”
Redditors agreed and then quickly descended into a conversation about how the American banking system (assuming that’s where OP is from) is a “dumpster fire,” as well as the flaws of FAFSA (AKA Free Application for Federal Student Aid) and how it requires parental involvement.
Side note: Someone from the UK tried to work out what FAFSA could mean and it gave us the laugh we needed when reading about this mess: “The only thing that comes into my head is ‘F*ck around and find stuff out’ I’m guessing it’s not that?”
AITAH for screaming at my parents for trying to use my college funds to pay off my brothers debt?
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“The idea that we can’t have a bank account as a teen without an adult on it is complete BS,” said someone who understood this is the reason OP could be f*cked over.
“Yeah, I feel like there is a massive difference between a parent being able to see and monitor their minor child’s spending and them actually being able to withdraw money from an account … I can see why a parent should be able to … see where and how they are spending … What I can’t find any justification for whatsoever is a parent being able to [withdraw].”
And, they said, it shouldn’t be OP who has to give up on her dream. It should be her brother who has to give up his car.
“The car needs to be repossessed so your brother learns to face the consequences of his terrible decisions. He clearly knew (or sensed) that he couldn’t afford the car when he bought it two weeks ago. and now your parents are trying to bail him out.”
“First things first — if the car is only 2 weeks out, it can probably be returned … I also question how your brother, with no job, got a car loan from a bank? Did your parents co-sign?”
Now what? Redditors are urging OP to find a way to stop this. Whether that be calling the bank to have them freeze the account, removing the money and putting it in a safe place (be that a safe or “burying it in the backyard”), and/or enlisting the help of a “trusted grandparent, uncle, or aunt.” Ultimately, the advice should probably come from the financial institution as they’ll know what can and can’t be done to OP’s account.
Above all, Redditors want OP to remember to “hold her ground,” even if that means cutting off contact with her parents, brother(s), and any relatives who support this.
“If your brother accepts this money he is just as much to blame as your parents. Do NOT let him off the hook … He’s victimizing you just as much as your parents by being part of this, and you need to make it clear to all of them that this will destroy your relationship with all of them going forward … You don’t deserve this.”
Before you go, check out some of Reddit’s most horrifying money disaster stories.
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