Younger Men, Older Women

On Dating Younger Men

If you listen to "guy talk," you'll usually hear topics that are completely irrelevant to women. You never hear men complain to other men about lack of communication in the relationship, a desire to share their feelings, or anything remotely related to issues between them and their significant other.

You will, however, hear that their women nag and bug them for things that are of little importance and relevance. For example, you will hear that the sex life is not up to par, and their "honey" has gotten old. Especially in midlife, men seem to lose sight of what is really significant and concentrate on one thing that they regard as sacred, such as keeping up with their sex drive.

It's funny, and sometimes even pathetic, to watch middle-age men chase after 20-year old girls, making complete fools of themselves. The only thing worse, in my opinion, is watching younger guys chasing older women. Now, I will be the first to say that younger men and older women in love is a great thing, but only if the younger man has no ulterior motives.

Lately, it seems like more and more men are positioning themselves as "studs." They let their "mother-figure" women take care of them financially, emotionally and anything else they desire. In their minds, they consider themselves a great catch. Yet, I find that most of these men are conceited, condescending and sometimes downright abusive.

It saddens me to watch women fall victims to such creatures. While I can understand a woman's need to have someone in her life as she approaches midlife, it's much more important to practice self-honesty and be fully aware of the relationships she gets in.

If you find yourself attracted to a much younger man, keep an open mind. Ask for advice from the people you love and trust. It's healthier to have your options open and your calendar blank than to share a bed with a young hunk that is grossly mistaken about his abilities to perform.

There's more to life than sexual gratification, especially for us Fabulously 40's. So love yourself enough to have what you want and demand what you deserve. And if you happen to find a cute young guy who truly loves you, adores you and worships the ground you walk on, by all means enjoy the ride.

Yana Berlin- Founder of Fabulously40.com