By Lauren Le Vine
Suzi, 36, and her husband Mark, 40, have been married for 11 years. Ever since Suzi got a cell phone plan with unlimited texting, she sends Mark multiple text messages a day. He'd prefer she checked in by phone to convey only important information. Who's right?
She says: "We're both really busy at work, but I like to keep him posted on what I'm up to throughout the day and let him know I'm thinking about him. If it's not an urgent question that needs answering-and let's be honest, the only 'urgent' questions we have for each other are ones like 'What's for dinner?' and 'Are you picking [our daughter] up from soccer?,' what's wrong with sending him a text he can read when he has a spare second?"
He says: "I appreciate Suzi thinking of me, but don't you agree that 10 or more texts per day while both of us are working (she is working, right?) is a little excessive? I honestly don't have time to respond to them all (or even read them sometimes), do my job, and get out of work on time to pick up the kids. If she really needs to talk to me, she should call. I have no problem with her calling me two or three times a day for the 'Hey babe, Just calling to say hi. What were you thinking for dinner?' check-in...you know the drill. But the constant texting makes me feel like I'm in middle school, and I start feeling bad that I can't respond. Plus, I think Suzi actually gets upset when I don't write back."
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