Is the Fear of Being Alone Keeping You in a Bad Relationship?















By Kelli Cooper for BounceBack.com

It is natural to want to share your life with someone. Romantic relationships contain unique elements that you really cannot get from those with your family or friends. You build a life with this person in a way that you just do not with other people. Being single is often thought of as a fate worse than death and the thought of not being able to find someone to spend your life with can be a te...

It is natural to want to share your life with someone. Romantic relationships contain unique elements that you really cannot get from those with your family or friends. You build a life with this person in a way that you just do not with other people. Being single is often thought of as a fate worse than death and the thought of not being able to find someone to spend your life with can be a terrifying prospect for many. Women especially feel the pressure because their fertility has a much shorter shelf life than men, who have the luxury of putting off fatherhood until their 40's and beyond.

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Because the urge to couple up is so strong, many may find themselves in less than ideal relationships because the idea of being alone seems much worse by comparison. They rationalize away all the red flags and try to convince themselves everything is fine. How many relationships consist of one or both parties settling? Far too many from what I have observed. These people know the relationship is not so great but they stay in it anyway, thinking that this is the only option.

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If you have read any of my past articles on this site, you probably know I am a huge believer in the idea that our thoughts, intentions and expectations play a massive role in creating our reality. The fear of being alone, the resignation that you will not be able to find the type of partner you really want, the idea that there is no one good out there, the idea that you must settle, the idea that you are not good enough to get someone better, the idea that we must compromise in life and be happy to take what we can get - these are all simply beliefs, not facts, and if you choose to believe something different, your reality will change. Some may scoff at that and have a hard time believing it is really that simple, but guess what? It really is. The hard part is making the effort to let these new beliefs take root.

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You can have whatever type of person you want, whatever type of relationship you want. There is absolutely no reason to stay in a bad relationship simply because you fear that you will not be able to find anyone else. That will only be true for you if you believe it to be so. If you reject that idea, it will not be your reality. You deserve to be happy and have whatever you want in this lifetime, including a healthy, happy, loving relationship with someone who treats you well and is well-suited to you.


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Kelli Cooper is a freelance writer who runs the personal development blog Life Made to Order . She is also the author of Passing on Parenthood: A Childfree Woman Speaks Out . She has a passion for personal development and sharing what she has learned in her own journey to help others improve their lives as well.