Skylar Astin Is a Libra Who Eats in Bed and Holds the Door Open for Women

Some people’s fantasies feature rippling muscles, four-poster beds, chocolate dripping in unsanitary places. Others fixate on leather, bad boys, the satisfying feeling of doing something a little bit wrong.

And some of us just want to see Skylar Astin in a crewneck sweater, soulfully belting Kelly Clarkson a cappella with his eyes closed.

Astin, who starred in the Pitch Perfect movies and Crazy Ex Girlfriend, will once again bring to the screen his specific skill set of looking and sounding as smooth and comforting as a spoonful of peanut butter, straight from the jar. In the new NBC musical TV show Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist, Zoey (Jane Levy) gains the ability to hear people's thoughts...expressed through musical numbers. Astin, as Zoey’s best friend, plays the role he’s perfected: He’s not a “nice guy,” that creepy archetype every woman has experienced, a dude who secretly feels like you owe him sex because he half-listens to your problems. He’s more like a “good person guy,” a genuinely nice man who encourages his female colleague to go for the promotion and expresses his innermost thoughts through Jonas Brothers songs.

That’s hot. So we invited Skylar to answer our Inappropriate Questions, Glamour’s column that asks all the cheeky, slightly off-kilter stuff best saved for a second (or better yet, third) date. Read on for his take on who should pay for dates, his extreme glow-up, and the messiest thing he does in bed…

Glamour: You stop by a convenience store on your way to a party. What are you buying to bring?

Skylar Astin: Probably booze, right? Definitely tequila if they have it, or if not, a 12-pack of beer, probably Dos Equis.

What was the worst thing you’ve ever done on a date?

I forgot my wallet once. I’d made the person come to my side of town, and we’d been making jokes about how I would definitely pay. I knew she would pay, but I was so embarrassed. I had to say, “I’m mortified about this, but is there any chance you’ll stay here for 20 minutes and I’ll just go back and get it?” Thank God, I was very close to my house.

What is the most inappropriate thing a fan has ever said to you?

Oh, comments like, “You look better on camera,” or, “You look better in person.” Either of those is like…Well, what are you saying about the other thing? Also mistaking me for someone else, that happens a lot. I’ve gotten Joseph Gordon-Levitt, the guy from How I Met Your Mother, Zachary Levi, Dane Cook. But really, I tend to be just fine!

What’s something that everyone seems to love but you dislike?

I never got into the Kardashians. But I really understand why people do! But it never struck me.

What’s the sexiest thing about yourself?

I like to think that I don’t take myself too seriously, and I have a pretty healthy balance of drive and humor. I’m a Libra, through and through.

You believe in astrology?

I do! I do. I don’t live my life by it completely, but I think it’s fascinating. There’s definitely many truths to it. I felt more compatible with certain friendships. Even in some relationships, I’ve felt like, “Oh that’s weird, I’ve dated the most of this kind of sign.” And like, “Oh, my mother and my brother are both this sign.” It’s little stuff like that.

What’s your type?

I’m open to any kind of connection. But generally I don’t really like anyone who has any narcissistic tendencies. Someone who is open, friendly, kind, but also self-assured, without being cocky. Someone who’s got their own thing going on. And someone who I respect and admire. That, generally, is a turn-on for me.

What’s the weirdest thing you do in your alone time?

I watch wrestling. I dance a lot. A lot. To anything. Reggaeton music, pop, or classic. I have a big vinyl collection, so I will dance around my house. I was cleaning my apartment yesterday and literally dancing the whole time, sweating.

What’s the messiest thing you’ve ever eaten in your bed?

I’m recalling like blueberry pie, like a compote. Something you reach over and grab. Honestly I eat in bed all the time, especially when I’m in a hotel. That’s my inner Kevin McCallister.

Is there a dating or relationship rule that you think is B.S.?

I think chivalry isn’t dead. In this modern age, a man definitely shouldn’t be expected to pay, but it’s a nice offer. It’s nice to have the door held open for you. I think there’s a fine line—there’s a difference between chivalry and being disrespectful of someone’s independence. It’s not that I think the “chivalry is dead” thing is bullshit, but I don’t like to get too intense with absolutes in relationships, and I think people cling to hard-and-fast rules.

Do you think it goes both ways? Can women be chivalrous too?
Women should absolutely also run ahead to open the door for men! Absolutely! I just think kindness is key in any relationship. Everyone wants to feel safe and secure and taken care of. I’m just a bit more of a caregiver.

This is a question I’ve been wanting to ask you for almost 10 years: You costarred in Spring Awakening on Broadway in 2006. When I saw you on Girls on HBO in 2012, you had experienced the most intense glow-up I’ve ever seen in my life. What happened?

[Laughs.] I remember Michael Mayer [the Spring Awakening director] showing me a drawing of how he wanted my hair to look, and I thought he was pranking me. They cut into my hair in such a severe way and made me look so crazy with the glasses and the haircut, that I got a reaction even when I stood up in the first scene. I had to keep that style for about two years, and it was so brutal. It was such a great experience, but that hair will haunt me forever.

Jenny Singer is a staff writer for Glamour.

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