The silent struggle: Addressing anxiety and depression in mothers
In the rush of anticipation that surrounds the arrival of a new baby, the mental health of expectant and new mothers can sometimes be overshadowed. This period should be one of joy and connection, but for many, it's also a time riddled with anxiety and depression. These feelings are often brushed aside and attributed to just another part of the pregnancy journey or the overwhelming change that comes with a new baby. It’s a delicate balance, teetering between society’s celebration of new life and the internal struggle some mothers face.
The reality is, anxiety and depression during the perinatal period are more common than we might think, yet they remain among the least talked about aspects of motherhood. Perhaps it's because the excitement of a baby’s arrival can cast a long shadow, making it difficult for mothers to voice their struggles for fear of dampening the celebratory mood. Or maybe it's the pressure to embody the perfect parent, always composed and radiating happiness, that makes admitting to these feelings seem like a failure.
Empathy and understanding are crucial. Anxiety in the perinatal period isn't just the occasional worry; it can be a constant, overwhelming dread that something might go wrong, or that one might not be up to the monumental task of parenting. Depression can steal the joy of this unique time, leaving mothers feeling disconnected from their baby, themselves, and the world around them.
If not addressed, the ripple effects extend far beyond the individual, potentially impacting the baby’s developmental and emotional well-being. Yet, amidst the whirlwind of new life, these signs can be easily missed or misunderstood by loved ones and even healthcare professionals.
The journey to recognizing and addressing perinatal anxiety and depression starts with a conversation—one that acknowledges without judgment or stigma. It’s about creating a space where mothers feel seen and heard, even when their experiences don’t align with societal expectations of joyous motherhood.
Understanding comes from recognizing that beneath the surface of many mothers’ outward happiness, there may be anxiety and depression. Addressing these feelings early, through mental health treatment, can change the course for many mothers, allowing them to fully embrace the joys of motherhood while managing the challenges.
Let’s shift the narrative to one that holds space for all aspects of the perinatal experience, recognizing that acknowledging and treating perinatal mental health is immensely important. It is not only an act of self-care but a profound expression of love for one’s child and family.
Cynthia Lassiter, LCSW, is a Clinician II at UCFS Healthcare.
This article originally appeared on Gardner News: Mental health awareness month: addressing anxiety and depression in mothers
