Sex Parties, Frat Parties, and Family Parties: Why People Are *STILL* Going HAM Amid the Pandemic

Sara Li
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Photo credit: Getty Images

From Cosmopolitan

Even though the FDA has approved two coronavirus vaccines for emergency use in the U.S., it will be months before most Americans can become vaccinated. And in the meantime, it's clear the pandemic continues to rage on: we're in the midst of another wave of lockdowns, the COVID-19-related death toll surpassed 300,000, and holiday travel is robust, which will clearly lead to more infections.

Yet, folks are still continuing to put on their party pants and get together sans masks, indoors, without social distancing. Cosmopolitan spoke to five women, all of whom wished to remain anonymous but provided their ages and locations, to share why they're continuing to throw down at sex parties, frat parties, and family parties—despite the global pandemic.

"Everyone was making out and sharing drinks."

"I was invited to a friend of a friend's sex party on Halloween. It was definitely not a secret or as tiny as they made it out to be when they sent out the invite. A lot of influencers were there and we were all supposed to get tested beforehand but I know a lot of people, myself included, just… didn’t. We’re all healthy and so many of us already got COVID that we weren’t as careful as we should have been. Anyways, it wasn’t as big of a thing as it had been advertised. I think some people actually did end up f*cking but not everyone. But everyone was making out and sharing drinks. I don’t regret it, but I probably wouldn’t do it again." —California, 22

"My partner and I had an orgy among our friends."

"My partner and I had an orgy among our friends (around eight people, maybe ten) during the summer. I live with my partner, obviously, and the others are people close in our 'pod' who we see frequently when we can. We’ve all been feeling cooped up because of quarantine and we thought if we stayed safe and kept it to a limited amount of people, then we could have a release from the stress and grief we’ve all been feeling. So, yeah. We all got tested prior and to be honest, we’ve been thinking about doing it again. Guess it’s true that quarantine is making everyone hornier." —California, 26


"Obviously, there’s still a risk but to us, it was worth it."

"The biggest event I attended was a wedding in September. My boyfriend was a groomsman and he would have been really disappointed if I didn’t go. We quarantined after. My dad also had an outdoor retirement party with family and a few close friends.

There were a few other times I went to gatherings that had more than six people, some outside and some not. I also did Thanksgiving with my family of eight people but we all got tested beforehand.

Obviously, there’s still a risk but to us, it was worth it. I never feel 100 percent safe and I’m always anxious. I’ve had disagreements with family and my boyfriend because they don’t understand why I’m so worried. I often end up going to things even if I’d feel more comfortable staying at home. If I set stricter boundaries, they’d be more understanding so I feel like it’s my own fault. But now we are so far in, I don’t know what to do." — Missouri, 24

"All the frats are still throwing parties and none of my roommates are worried about COVID-19."

"I'm a freshman in college from out of town so I don’t know anyone except my roommates. All the frats are still throwing parties and none of my roommates are worried about COVID-19. I go back and forth on whether or not what we’re doing is wrong because all of us are young and I live in a college town where it’s mostly just students. As far as we know, no one has gotten the coronavirus. [Editor's note: Approximately 40 to 45 percent of COVID-19 infections can be asymptomatic, per Annals of Internal Medical Journal.] I know all of us are pretty bummed to be missing out on the college experience so when we have an opportunity to actually be real students, we take it." — Kansas, 18


"After a certain point it just seemed ridiculous to keep putting such a momentous event on hold when all of us have been missing our families so much."

"I went to a pretty big wedding over the summer because the couple, my sister and her now-husband, already postponed it so much when it was supposed to be in the spring. After a certain point it just seemed ridiculous to keep putting such a momentous event on hold when all of us have been missing our families so much. We kept to just family and close friends, maybe 20 or 25 people. Everyone quarantined and got tested before.

This year has been so heavy and hard on all of us. We lost our grandpa and grandma and there’s been a lot of really difficult family issues. We all needed this wedding to have some joy and honestly, we wouldn’t have done anything different because it brought all of us closer." —California, 32

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