14 People Share Their Stories Of Being Betrayed By Their "Friends," And It's Actually Terrifying That People Could Act Like This
In one of my previous posts, I asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to share their stories of being betrayed by a best friend, and the stories people told were absolutely outrageous. So much so, it prompted MORE people to tell their stories about snakey best friends.
So, I decided to round up those comments and share brand new stories of betrayal. And, oh yeah, the snakes have gotten bigger:
1."Almost my entire friend group made a secret hate club for me in, like, seventh or eighth grade, under the guise that it stemmed from an inside joke they had from a class they were all in together. I always had my suspicions because they'd never let me join, and the acronym they used was pretty easy to figure out. I didn't get confirmation until, like, 11th or 12th grade, when I was arguing with one of the 'founding members,' and she threw in my face that it was, in fact, a club solely dedicated to all of their secret hatred for me."
"They hid it from me for years and were all the textbook definition of 'fair-weather friends.' Fortunately, I found my people in about 10th grade, but I had been growing apart from those initial friends ever since we entered high school. I don't talk to any of them anymore."
2."I took in a friend after her landlord threw her out. I lied to my mom and kept her belongings in my mom's house while she lived with me, my husband, and my kids for two years. I wanted her to save some money to start a business she had been planning to start instead of using her money to pay rent. She continued to live with me despite my husband, both of our families, and our circle of friends speaking against this arrangement."
"Eventually, she started dating a rich man who rented an apartment for her, helped establish the business, traveled around with her, etc. Basically, her life got better, and guess who started spreading rumors about me, my husband, kids, etc.? She disgraced me to anyone who cared to listen. Some people who knew what I had done for her told me, and I confronted her. It's been six years, and I still reel from the hurt I experienced at her hands in return for what I did."
3."It was my birthday trip that she decided should be a girls' trip only (and invited only my girlfriends and told them it was a girls' trip). So, my friends thought I was inviting my boyfriend on a girls' trip; this was her setting the scene. Eventually, she would tell them that I was 'too busy' with my boyfriend to come to parties or get-togethers, when in reality, she wouldn't invite me."
"She eventually had all of my friends against me, thinking I betrayed them all for a boy. It wasn't until we were all much older that we realized how she manipulated all of us and pitted us against each other for her own gain. It really hurt because we were so close for so long in high school, and this was my first boyfriend after dating an abusive guy. I really deserved to be happy and treated well (which he has for the past 15 years)."
4."I had someone that called us 'best friends' for over 10 years but would actively date and seek men that I was interested in. Then, she would gaslight me about my body dysmorphia and tell me it was my 'lack of confidence' that was standing in my way, not her disgusting sneakiness. Yeah, she's been dead to me for years now; life is better."
5."I got dropped by all my high school friends, including the person I considered my best friend, because of a boy. They started dating, and Alex (my best friend) wanted us all to know him so that when he came to hang with us, it wouldn't be weird. Me and the guy ended up sort of bonding over a multiplayer co-op game we both enjoyed but didn't know anyone else who played it. Our only interactions were playing the game together, talking over group chat if something needed to be communicated, or messaging each other when we were next free to play. Beyond that, we barely spoke and preferred to keep it that way because we didn't want her to think we were anything but two people who played a game together one to two times a week."
"Their relationship was on the rocks, and he started talking to me more, which I told him made me uncomfortable because he mostly bitched about how possessive and jealous she was, but she was still my bestie. They broke up and didn't speak at all afterward. While I still maintained the bare minimum of contact in order to keep playing that game together (as you got rewards from playing with someone else), suddenly, all these rumors came about that the breakup was my fault, and that I had always been flirting with him and talking trash about her with him. Alex lied and said that her ex had been in contact with her post-breakup and told her that I was coming on to him, wanted to have sex with him, and all this other BS. I texted him and asked if it was true, but he only responded by showing proof that he had blocked her number. I cut off contact permanently because I wanted to keep my bestie of three years over some guy I'd only known for a few months, but the damage was done. She wouldn't give me even a second to hear me out, and the rest of our friend group never spoke to me again. Alex invited me to her 21st birthday a few years later, and I went, for some reason, but the hurt was still there for me, as she was the best friend I'd ever had, and it hurt that she was so quick to think that I would do such awful things to her. Also, fun fact: I was starting to realize back then that I wasn't even into guys at all, so she didn't need to worry, but again, she never gave me the chance to actually explain myself."
6."I was on my death bed, unsure if I would survive. It was March, and my best friend was getting married in June; I was a co-maid of honor. I told her I wouldn’t be able to be in her wedding, as I couldn’t even get out of bed. I was crawling to the doctor, spent months in the hospital, and had several surgeries. She was so mad at me for dropping out of her wedding that she blocked me on Facebook and refused to talk to me, and our friendship ended. It hurt me so hard; I didn’t understand how someone I cared for so much would do this to me when I was literally dying."
"Thankfully, they found out what was wrong, and I was saved. However, I never understood how she could be so selfish. I reached out for answers but just got blame, so I let go of her memory and blocked her from my life permanently. I now have a best friend who is like my sister; she accepts me at my worst and is supportive. I would do anything for her. But it is the first time I have ever found a friend who is my friend without prejudice — I can be me, and I'm accepted."
7."I once had a 'best friend' in the later years of high school. She was one of the closest friends I had, and I really loved her dearly. I went away to college while she stayed local, but we stayed super close during my freshman year. During my first winter break home, we made plans to hang out. About two hours before we were set to meet, she called me and asked if I would be comfortable doing her a favor. It turns out she was dating someone at the time who I had never met before, and they were applying for a government-level job. The girlfriend needed to provide urine for a drug test that she couldn’t pass because they got high all the time."
"My friend had the nerve to ask me if I would provide the urine sample for her girlfriend, whom I didn’t even know. She told me there was 'no pressure, and she would completely understand if I said no.' I didn’t feel comfortable doing something like that, even if it were for my best friend’s interview, let alone a random person they were dating that I didn’t know. She said she 'understood and respected my decision' and that she’d 'see me later.' Just before I left to meet up with her, I got a text that she was all of a sudden busy. Never heard from her again... I guess it really wasn’t okay!"
8."A woman I was ostensibly friends with in a therapy group would not stop insisting that a fellow with whom I had an on-again/off-again friendship with benefits was 'just using me for sex,' implying there was no real affection or attraction, and there just couldn’t possibly be (because I’m fat, weird, and emotionally feral, I guess). She remained friends with the guy, however, and was VERY supportive of his eventual formal romantic pairing with a different woman."
"That still baffles me — why would you root for his relationship with another woman if you think he’s such a cad? Anyway, it finally dawned on me that I could not be friends with anyone who thought it just wasn’t possible for an attractive, intelligent guy to have genuine feelings for me, so I bailed on the 'friendship.' Cut to a decade and some change later, and the fellow has been divorced from the woman he met for five years, while we have been a couple for three."
9."I was never lucky with love, and my friend was the same. She broke up with her latest hookup when I met a really great guy. I was there for her during her breakup (whereas, the guy told her at the beginning of their 'relationship' that it was just hookups and not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship), but she got cold toward me and basically stopped talking to me."
"I asked her what was wrong, and she said, 'Nothing.' And then, two days later, she sent me a long text saying how awful a friend I was. I didn't understand, and I even talked to my therapist about it — his words, 'She's just jealous. Let her go,' and I did. It's been six years, and I do not miss her."
10."I met 'N' on a volunteer project, and she introduced me to her sister 'K' and their friend 'C.' The four of us really hit it off and hung out a lot, even going out of town together. N and K also invited me to go to Disney with their family for their parents' anniversary. Through all of this, C and I ended up really close just due to common interests."
"This made N so insanely jealous that she tried to cut me out of the friend group and excluded me every chance she got, especially after C got engaged and we were all trying to be involved in the wedding. The final straw was when N and K were planning their parents' anniversary party, and I wasn’t invited, despite the fact I had gone on the trip with them just the year before. I haven’t spoken to N or K since, and unfortunately, C and I have now drifted apart."
11."My ex-best friend betrayed me by hooking up with a guy who lied to me about liking me. She waited three full weeks to tell me because she thought I knew they were hooking up and was badmouthing her (I didn't know, and I badmouthed him for obvious reasons)."
"She told me before they went Facebook official, and then, she freaked out because I blocked her right away. A lot of our mutual friends sided with them because they were a 'power couple' in the local scene. Three years later, it still hurts me, and I have to avoid certain places so I don't run into them."
12."I was betrayed by a girl I was friends with in junior high. We started out as friends, but then, she started bullying me suddenly. She made fun of everything about me, from my appearance to what I ate. I couldn't understand the sudden change in her behavior, and I felt very hurt and betrayed by her, so much so that I stopped talking to her. She later revealed that she only bullied me because the guy she had a crush on at the time was mean to me, and he was my tormentor as well."
"Therefore, she felt the need to bully me to not only get his attention but also show him that she agreed with him that I deserved to be picked on. I have no idea what she's doing now, but I hope she's doing well and doesn't feel the need to hurt others just to get someone to like her."
13."Within a short amount of time from separating from my ex-husband (a couple of weeks, not months), this friend of ours — who was at our wedding and everything — tried to sleep with him, saying how she 'loved broken men' and could 'help make him feel good' or whatever."
"It was super gross and twisted how she tried to get at him like that. I never spoke to her again, but I was appreciative of him telling me so I knew who was or wasn't a true friend despite us going through the whole separation process."
And finally, this person shared why "see something, say something" shouldn't just be a saying for the New York City subway:
14."In 10th grade, I had a group of friends from all different schools. My boyfriend at the time was from one school, and my best friend at the time was from a different school, so we only hung out on Friday and Saturday nights. I could never stay out as late as everyone else; my parents usually wanted me home by, like, 10 or 11 p.m.; whereas, the rest of my friends' parents didn't care. One day, my friend said, 'In case anyone tells you that me and 'X' have been hooking up, it's not true.' To which I was like, 'Okay, that's weird, but hahaha, thanks for telling me.'"
"Fast-forward a couple weeks, X and I break up, and one of the people from our friend group tells me, 'Yeah, they've been hooking up for weeks after you go home at night. They always just disappeared, saying they were going outside for a cigarette and would be gone for, like, an hour, so one day we followed them, and they started making out.' Half of them didn't know how to tell me, and the other half didn't think it was their place."
Do you still have a story you want to tell about being betrayed by your friend? Tell us those stories in the comments...and don't leave any of the juicy details out!
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
