People Are Sharing Their Partner's "Beige Flag" That They've Learned To Live With, Even Though It's A Little Quirky
Someone you're dating could show that they have red flags, green flags, or beige flags, aka signals that don't necessarily read as good or bad; they're just a little strange or quirky.
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We recently asked the BuzzFeed Community to share the beige flag their significant other possesses that they put up with, even though it may be kinda offbeat. Here are some of the best responses:
1."He'll say, 'Sure, I’ll do it!' And then halfway through the activity, he gets distracted and has to be reminded, like, three hours later to complete the task."
2."He drives in the left lane doing the speed limit on the interstate, getting passed like a bat out of hell, and the right lane is open. He doesn't read texts for six hours, even with an Apple Watch on his wrist. He loses his keys or wallet once, if not twice, a day, and it consumes the household until it's found where he left it. I do love him so much, though!"
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3."My husband gets really grossed out by things that I just think are normal, like banana slugs. He’s from Eastern Europe, so he didn’t even know what they were. We have them in California, and he wouldn’t even look at a picture of my daughter holding one! Oh, and shellfish remind him of big insects; he’s missing out there!"
4."My partner of 10 years always makes soft moaning noises when he eats cereal — only when he eats cereal, which is one of his go-to snacks. It’s not over the top or harmful, and it’s something he only does at home, but good grief! It both annoys and confuses me — I have absolutely no idea why this only happens when he eats cereal. But I swear, it happens every single time. I’m not even sure he realizes he’s doing it. The first couple of times it happened, I asked him if he was OK, and he seemed confused why I asked that. I’ve stopped pointing it out and started ignoring it, or trying to. He’s otherwise a fabulous partner, and this doesn’t take away from that fact at all, but it’s definitely a beige flag I’ve learned to live with!"
—Anonymous, 30, Seattle, WA
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5."He refuses to drink a full can of soda. He leaves them half drunk all over the house. I literally stopped buying canned drinks because of this."
—Cher, 46, Pensacola, FL
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6."Whenever we’re watching a show or movie with any kind of shooting (guns, lasers, etc.), he’ll always make silly shooting noises, like 'pew pew pew!' I can’t decide if it’s annoying or adorable. I think a combination of both."
7."He cannot/will not/does not close anything. This man has a whole PhD and is the worst at closing anything and everything: cabinets, drawers, food containers; if it can be closed, he will leave it open."
8."My partner’s beige flag is that when he is ranting about something, he will slip into random accents without realizing it. He’ll be talking about something, and suddenly, BOOM — Scottish accent."
—Anonymous
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9."When he’s home, he always wears a robe. ALWAYS. It’s not that unusual for older people, but we aren’t even 20 yet."
10."My husband's alarms on his phone are set for the maddest times. He won’t do 6:30 or 6:45 or 7:00 a.m. like normal people. It’s 'random,' like 6:28, 6:43, 7:01; it makes no sense to me because he still wakes at that exact time every day, so he’s still conforming to social norms."
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11."My husband is a morning person. He pops up before the sun on his days off. We’ve been together since '96, and he was that way even in college. I’m a night owl, and many times, I’ve been going to bed as he was rising for the day. It can be infuriating for both of us. But I confess that I’m sometimes jealous that he gets so much accomplished on a quiet Saturday morning."
12."He drinks soda water. I don't have anything against soda water, even though I prefer regular water, but he drinks it almost exclusively, aside from coffee and an occasional pop. He buys cases (of eight), like, six at a time and drinks three to four cans a day on top of whatever else he drinks that day. He drinks it less when I'm over, but if he's alone, he'll drink a case or more per day."
13."When putting away groceries, he will run the bags out to the recycling before we're finished. If there are 10 bags, around bag 6, he makes a trip to the dumpster while I'm standing there like the John Travolta Pulp Fiction meme."
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14."Making ungodly sound effects for EVERYTHING. He’s so good at making it realistic; it adds another layer of discomfort."
15."One of the few holidays his family celebrates is Groundhog Day. With a special 'groundhog' cake and everything..."
—Anonymous, 41, MO
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16."I love my S.O., but she has tendencies to call or FaceTime me while she is in the grocery store or after leaving to show/tell me EVERYTHING she has bought. Then, when I get home from work, she proceeds to do the same thing but in person."
—Anonymous, 29, TN
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17."My husband's beige flag is that he CANNOT tell a story from point A to point Z. We have been together more than 10 years, and I still get frustrated when he tells me about something that happened — something of importance. In his mind, he has told me all the details, so he skips over certain things and says, 'Obviously, person A is doing this,' and I have to stop him and say, 'No, not obviously. Person A was involved? Go back; hold on.' The best story he told was three sentences long, and it was a huge achievement for him. We still talk about it more than five years later."
—Stefanie E., 30, San Jose, CA
18."My girlfriend will pet our dog's inner ear and get all the ear wax out and let them lick it off of her. 👀🫣🤮"
—Juliauna Snell, 22, Bellevue, WA
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19."He never rinses his dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. It's a family thing. They don't, either. And he gets confused when dishes come out still dirty. Maybe it's just me, but I've never used a dishwasher that removes everything if you just stuff it full of dishes with food on it... It's not a make it or break it, but seeing that his whole family does it blows my mind."
—Morgan, 25, Indiana
20."He always has to brush his teeth every time before leaving the house, even if it’s just to run an errand."
"He also must wear regular clothes outside — no lounge pants. I haven’t ever found it off-putting — just fun and quirky. 🩷"
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21.And finally: "When my husband gets dressed in the morning, he HAS to put on socks before anything else. If we can't find socks right away, he will not put any other clothes on until he has his feet socked!"
What beige flag of your partner's have you come to accept? Let us know in the comments below!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
