Oh This? Just Literally 100 Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together, how often you see each other, or even how much you think you know about your girlfriend, there’s always more to learn about the woman in your life. Like, *Titanic voice* a woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets, and the best way to really get to know her is to ask her questions. (Duh!)

Stop us if you’ve heard this one before, but communication is key to a healthy, thriving relationship. And while most couples pretty much ditch the getting-to-know-you Q&A after the first few dates, asking each other questions is a huge part of continuing to learn and grow as partners, no matter how long you’ve been coupled up. Not to mention, trading questions can be a seriously fun way to spice up your daily FaceTime sesh or keep the conversation going on your next date night. And BTW, not only can a fun (and potentially sexy) game of 20 questions help you learn more about your girlfriend, but it’s also a low-pressure way to open up bigger discussions about your relationship, your goals and desires, and your future together. (Pretty important stuff, TBH!)

In case you’re in need of a little inspiration, we’ve gone ahead and curated this fun little list of questions to ask your girlfriend. From light and low-key to fun and flirty to like, deep-deep, these Qs are guaranteed to get the conversation started. (Oh, and if you’re the girlfriend who would like your partner to get a little more inquisitive, just go ahead and send them this link. You’re welcome.)

Questions to Ask If You Just Started Talking

There’s a lot of ground to cover when you’re just getting to know a new love interest. Like, there’s only so much even the most robust dating app profile can tell you. Allow these fun and low-pressure questions to help you start filling in the gaps.

  1. What are you looking for in a relationship?

  2. What does an ideal weekend look like for you?

  3. What are your thoughts on long-distance dating?

  4. What is your biggest fear?

  5. How do you feel about astrology?

  6. What are your thoughts on who picks up the check?

  7. Who's your closest friend and why?

  8. If you had to live in a different city, where would you go?

  9. What is the worst movie you’ve ever seen?

  10. What was your AIM screen name?

  11. Tell me something on your bucket list.

  12. Early riser or night owl?

  13. How do you wind down after work?

  14. What is your biggest pet peeve?

  15. What is your go-to drink?

  16. What music do you listen to?

  17. Coffee or tea?

  18. What's your relationship with your family?

  19. Do you consider yourself to be romantic?

  20. Are you religious?

Questions to Ask If You Wanna Get Deep

From future plans to more philosophical topics, these questions can help you really get to know each other on a whole new level. Ask these Qs when you’re ready to get into it. Like, all of it.

  1. Do you see yourself having kids one day?

  2. What’s your biggest regret?

  3. What makes you feel safe?

  4. When did you know you loved me?

  5. What is one moment in your life you would love to relive?

  6. Do you see yourself getting married one day?

  7. What would you change about yourself?

  8. What’s something you will never give up or change for me?

  9. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through?

  10. What would you do if you got a chance to repeat life all over again?

  11. What’s one thing you would say to your younger self?

  12. What's something no one knows about you?

  13. Which parent are you closest to?

  14. Have you been to therapy?

  15. What is something people usually misunderstand about you?

  16. When you are upset, do you want support or alone time?

  17. What is your happiest childhood memory?

  18. Do you have any phobias?

  19. What’s one thing you would change about your childhood?

  20. If you could reconnect with one person from your past, who would it be?

Flirty Questions to Ask If You Wanna Get a Little More ~Intimate~

We’re not talking about the super sexy sex stuff here. (Don’t worry, we’ll get there.) These cute Qs are best for when you’re ready to turn up the heat a little bit, but aren’t trying to turn the convo into, like straight-up foreplay.

  1. What is your love language?

  2. What is your biggest turn-on?

  3. Major turn-offs?

  4. Do you like to make the first move?

  5. Do you think you’re a good kisser?

  6. Who was your first crush?

  7. Thoughts on cuddling?

  8. How did your last relationship end?

  9. What’s your biggest regret from your last relationship?

  10. Have you ever been in love?

  11. What was your first impression of me?

  12. Are you the big spoon or little spoon?

  13. Do you like sharing a bed with someone?

  14. How soon into a relationship would you want to meet my family?

  15. Do you like to be complimented?

  16. What type of personality are you attracted to?

  17. When was your first kiss?

  18. What are your thoughts on open relationships/non-monogamy?

  19. What’s the most random/unexpected thing you’re attracted to?

  20. What attracts you to me?

Sexy Questions to Ask If You Wanna Get Spicy

Here they are: all the sexy sex questions to ask your girlfriend when you’re ready to take things to the next level. Maybe you’ve just started hooking up, maybe you’ve been sharing a bed for years. Either way, trading sexy Qs can open up bigger (v important!) discussions about boundaries, wants, and desires. (And turn you both on in the process, obvs.)

  1. Favorite place to be kissed?

  2. What's your favorite position?

  3. What's your least favorite position?

  4. F*ck, Marry, Kill: missionary, doggy, and cowgirl?

  5. What's the hottest memory you have of us?

  6. What part of you is craving the most attention right now?

  7. Do you prefer giving head or receiving head?

  8. Morning sex or night sex?

  9. Lights on or lights off?

  10. Hard and fast, or slow and sensual?

  11. How often do you masturbate?

  12. What’s one sex act/position you think is overrated?

  13. Weirdest place you’ve had sex?

  14. Shower sex: Yay or nay?

  15. Do you like using toys? Would you want to try toys in the bedroom?

  16. How do you feel about sexting?

  17. How would you feel about watching porn together?

  18. Do you have any kinks?

  19. What’s one thing you've always wanted to try in bed?

  20. Have you ever had a threesome? Are interested in group sex?

Questions to Ask If You've Been Dating for Like, Ever

Whether you’ve been in an LTR for a year or you’re like, married married, there’s still plenty to learn about each other.

  1. Where would you ideally like to spend the holidays ?

  2. Where’s the next place we should travel together?

  3. Is there anything you feel we need to work on together?

  4. Is there anything I can do to make you feel more loved?

  5. Are you happy with how often we see each other?

  6. Thoughts on living together before marriage?

  7. If we broke up tomorrow, what would you do?

  8. What feels hard in your life right now?

  9. What is something about me you would change?

  10. What do you want more of from our relationship?

  11. How can we avoid arguing?

  12. What have you always wanted to teach me?

  13. What do you want our next date night to look like?

  14. What is a new place you want to visit?

  15. If we took a relationship break, what’s the first thing you would do?

  16. What can I do to make you feel more appreciated?

  17. Are you comfortable around my friends?

  18. Do you feel heard?

  19. What is a bad habit I have that I should work on?

  20. Where do you see us five years from now?

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