"When Asked Where They're From, Americans Reply With A State Or City Instead Of Country": Non-Americans Are Revealing Uniquely American Norms
As the US passes its 246th Independence Day, it's a good time to reflect on that stereotype that Americans tend to be unaware of the rest of the world — or more specifically, in today's case, unaware of American social norms that are unique to the US.
So, to help Americans become more — let's say — "worldly," here are things that non-Americans have pointed out as particularly American (in response to u/Professional-Ad-2850's question, "What's an incredibly American thing Americans don't realize is American?"), as well as some American takes on how they figured these out while abroad or why they're so normal in the US:
1."Drinks with ice."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Many, many years ago, I was visiting the south of France with a friend. It was a hot summer day, so we stopped at a little bistro and, in broken French, asked for water with ice. The waiter replied in English, 'Ah, American Champagne.'" —u/Cilicious
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "The first time I bought a Coke in Germany, it came with no ice. I then asked for ice, and it came back with one ice cube. I asked for more ice, and it came back with two ice cubes. I finally asked for a lot of ice, and the waitress said, 'Oh, you mean like McDonalds?'" —u/wanted_to_upvote
AMERICAN TAKE 3: "I discovered that ice in drinks is an American thing when I scheduled a trip to London during the one week there was a heat wave. I was desperate for some ice in my water, or at the very least some not-room-temperature water, but rarely ever found either." —u/RainingRawPasta
2."Ranch [dressing]."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "On my first day in Germany, after 24 hours of traveling, I stopped at a Subway and asked for ranch on my sandwich. The guy said, 'You're not in America anymore, honey.' Whoops, my bad. I had no idea ranch was an American thing." —u/nessao616
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "Back when I worked at Panera Bread, a customer asked for ranch. We didn't carry it back then, and when we informed him, he said, 'Are y'all communists?!'" —u/TheArowanaDude
AMERICAN TAKE 3: "A few years ago, I went to an American-themed restaurant in the Dominican Republic. They had a decent assortment of BBQ sauces, and one of the sauces was advertised as 'White BBQ Sauce.' I know my BBQ, and I have never heard of a white BBQ sauce, so I decided to ask for some. It was Ranch...I was speechless!" —u/solracarevir
3."American here. When I studied abroad, I was smiling and friendly to strangers. In London, they looked like I wanted to steal something from them!"
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "When I was in college, I studied in France and lived with a family for a year. They were awesome people, but the dad made no secret of his disdain for Americans. I guess it was the mom that convinced him to have Americans board with them. Anyway, one of my favorite quotes from Jacques was, 'You stupid Americans, always walking around smiling, like a bunch of goddamn idiots.'
The mom started SCREAMING at him for being rude when he said that to us, but we thought it was hilarious and made it a point to walk around the house smiling and greeting him with an effusive, 'BONJOUR, MONSIEUR,' every day. I think we did win him over, eventually." —u/SuchLovelyLilacs
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "I saw this with my American friends when I lived in Moscow. They walked around with this pleasant, anticipatory smile on their face, and people thought they were weird." —u/jew-biscuits
4."Free refills at restaurants."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Imagine my reaction as an American the first time I sat down at a UK Nando's and they explained their most popular drink option was the free refill soda." —u/cant_watch_violence
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "If it's a fountain that uses bags of syrup and carbonated water, the restaurant can give several refills for about $2 and still make good profit. It's places that use two-liter bottles to give people soda that can't afford to do that. As someone who has to drink while eating or else food gets stuck, I really didn't like paying for 3–6 two-liter bottles worth of money for 1.5 liters of soda when I was in England and France." —u/jiveabillion
5."Handing your credit card to a stranger, having them walk away, swipe it, and then bring it back to like they didn't just put a down payment on a new house with it…"
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Almost nobody here thinks this is weird or is the slightest bit concerned about it. Being concerned about it would come across as paranoid to most people, myself included...even though I know for a fact it's one of the most common originations of credit card fraud. (I used to work on fraud identification software.) What can I say? Culture is weird." —u/cogspace
6."Drive-thru ATMs and drive-thru everything else."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Growing up in small-town Florida, there are at least two drive-thru liquor stores per town." —u/animatrix37
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "Okay, this was the one that surprised me for a moment to think that not everywhere else had, but then I remember just how automobile-reliant we are as a country. Of course, there wouldn't be a need for drive-thru ATMs/banks elsewhere, there are so many fewer vehicles." —u/idreamofdinos
7."Prescription drug commercials."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "This was the one thing that I noticed the most on my first trip to England. I was watching the Winter Olympics and couldn't figure out what was weird. Then, it finally hit me that there were no medical ads. My family was just like, 'Yeah, they're illegal here,' which, I think is the right model." —u/fauxpenguin
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "Happy dancing while side effects are being listed." —u/Bluefortress
8."The cult of high school or college sports."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Yeah, I get it this is unique, but being a fan of your college team makes way more sense than just picking a pro team to root for. I have a friend who is a die-hard Tottenham Hotspur fan. He's never been outside the US. Why is he a fan of Tottenham and not Arsenal or Liverpool or Man City? He just randomly picked a team that he has no association with and whose success never will influence his life.
My university is a big part of my life. I go back occasionally, and I spent years and thousands of dollars studying there. The football team being successful can actually increase the profile of the school itself, etc. You may think it's weird for college sports to be a big deal, but I can't imagine caring about a sports team not associated with my school." —u/HHcougar
9."When you ask Americans where they're from, they reply with either a state or city instead of their country. It doesn't cause any confusion since most people know most American states and major cities. For example, you don't often see an Indonesian person say they're from West Java — just that they're from Indonesia."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "I'm an American who moved to Germany, and people always say this like it's some weird thing we do. But whenever I get asked where I'm from and only say the US, the next question is ALWAYS which state and city, without fail." —u/sparksbet
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "When I visited Tokyo, there was a Japanese student group with clipboards asking questions to foreigners. A girl asked me where I was from, and without thinking, I said, 'Chicago.' She just looked confused, and her instructor said, '...just put down the United States.' I then felt like a jerk for just assuming a student in Japan would know where Chicago was." —u/merricatvance
10."I find that Americans often include where they were born. For example, 'I'm from Philly but originally from Jersey.' I understand that the US is big and has many different regions. However, I'm Canadian and find that Canadians typically don't answer that way, despite Canada being very large."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Small nuance: I don't think it's where you're born, rather where you were raised. It makes a lot of sense actually. I grew up in Miami but have been living in NYC for a few years now. If I travel to Texas, and someone asks me where I'm from, it feels wrong to say Miami because I haven't lived there in seven years, and it's changed a lot since I've been a resident. At the same time, I can't really say I'm from NYC because I'm not a native New Yorker, and saying you're from NYC pretty much means you grew up there. So, it makes sense to say both." —u/grumined
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "Most of the time you get asked where you're from due to your accent or if you don't sound like you live in the state you're in. For example, if I currently live in NY but don't have a NY accent, I would say, 'I'm from NY, but I was raised in xyz,' just to avoid the 'but you don't have a NY accent' question that would follow up." —u/Hephaestus_God
11."Daily driving pickup trucks."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "In my case, I bought my midsize pickup because I have a large property, and we take great care of it — lots of mulch, gravel, pavers, lots of material to the compost drop-off. Plus, I live in the mountains, and four-wheel drive is great, too. I've used it for pulling people out of ditches several times. I also mountain bike and often do extended trips where it is convenient to carry camp gear in the bed. All that said, my wife has a smaller, normal car, and we 'daily drive' that." —u/crob_evamp
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "Don't worry, a lot of people hate it here, too. All those assholes driving trucks just for aesthetics have driven up the market for people who actually need them for work. Not to mention how many of them drive like they have absolutely no clue how long it's going to take their vehicle to stop. Then you got people putting huge, illegal exhausts on them and making them loud as fuck." —u/NativeMasshole
AMERICAN TAKE 3: "Do you have a second car? We aren't rich. Some idiots buy a pickup and don't need one, but my dad owns a Ram 2500 because he needs to haul stuff for work semi-frequently. He doesn't have another vehicle, so for everything non-work-related, he's still driving the truck." —u/PM-Me-Some-Kink
12."Not including tax on prices displayed in stores."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "That feeling when you want to spend your very last dollar on a can of Arizona Ice Tea (famously: "The price is on the can!"), and the cashier asks for $1.07." —u/raph_84
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "I recently visited Niagara Falls, and I was super confused when we went out to dinner and the prices were oddly specific. For instance, a salad or whatever would be $19.73. My friend told me they actually include the tax in the price you see." —u/shortpersonohara
AMERICAN TAKE 3: "This seems crazy to non-Americans, but I think a lot of it has to do with how sales tax works here. In my state, it's easy to buy the exact same thing from the exact same chain of stores, but depending on what city you're in, they may or may not have to charge additional tax." —u/FaptainAwesome
13."Paying $10,000 for a live birth and thinking that's okay."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Where are these Americans getting a $10,000 birth at? My daughter was $40,000 (pre-insurance, vaginal birth)!" —u/wallflower103
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "In a more general sense, going bankrupt because of medical bills even when you have insurance. So many people in America rail against socialized healthcare and seem to be completely unaware how much we're paying and how little we're getting out of it compared to other countries." —u/Temmere
AMERICAN TAKE 3: "And the old crusty farts here in America just KEEP ASKING why the birth rate is falling among young people. Well, it's because I had my child over a year ago, and I’m still paying for the birth (among other reasons, of course, like the cost of child care, low wages, the cost of housing, etc.)." —u/swankyburritos714
14."Air conditioning. I'm very surprised no one has said this yet. It's not that other countries don't have heating and AC, they do. However, American use of them, especially during the summer, is astronomically high."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "I hear you, but some places in the US would be damn near uninhabitable without AC." —u/Dr4g0nSqare
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "I moved from a state where AC is basically mandatory due to the climate to a state up north, and I was both astounded and very suspicious of the lack of central AC in most housing. I almost couldn't find an apartment. I was told, 'We don't need it up here.' I suspect that was true 20 years ago when there weren't 100+ degree heatwaves. Now, everyone owns a window unit." —u/SliferTheExecProducer
15."Pledging allegiance to the flag, or singing the national anthem outside of special events. I went to see a kids' talent show in a small rural town with around eight acts, and the 30 people watching all stood, pledged allegiance to the flag, and sang the national anthem before hand. It was extremely strange."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "I once got 'silent lunch' (a punishment where you have to sit alone at lunch) for not standing for the pledge one morning. This was in 2014 at a public school. It’s ridiculous!" —u/Bubblekinss
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "I haven’t had to say it since I was a kid, but I was at a conference in Texas recently (I'm from the north), and they had the whole room of hundreds of people stand and say it. It made my skin crawl." —u/thraelen
16."Making pancakes from the box."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "Everyone else is making pancakes from scratch? You’re right, I didn’t know this." —u/waterbird_
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "A friend of mine from Romania was so excited for 'American' pancakes, so I brought her a box of pancake mix and imperial measuring cups. It was fun to see how thrilled she was for something that had previously seemed so unremarkable to me before that." —u/thraelen
17."Not owning a passport. I don't know if that is a myth, but I hear that a huge percentage of Americans have never been out of the country and don't even have a passport. I understand that the US is huge, with a massive range of landscapes and climate, but it still seems a little odd to me."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "American here. Now that I live in Europe, I see why a passport is so necessary, but there's so much in the US that you don’t need one. In California, you can ski and surf in the same day if you start early enough." —u/Locating_Subset
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "Well, it's only in the last twenty years or so that passports were required to cross the Canada/US border by air, and I think it took another five years or so before they were needed to drive across, as well.
Outside of Canada and Mexico, it's difficult to casually travel out of the US since everything involves a trans-oceanic flight. It's not like the EU, where a three-hour drive could get you to four different countries depending on the direction." —u/pepperbar
18."Not having to ask for the bill."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "This was me today at a restaurant in Oslo. It felt rude to call the waitress over to ask for the bill, and I'm American." —u/frgs72
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "The first time we were in the UK, my wife and I had been done with dinner for probably 30 minutes before realizing this. I surrendered and asked if I paid up front (only restaurants where you pay up front in US don't bring you the bill). The waiter looked very confused, pulled out the little card machine, and printed the bill right there. He then stood and waited for it to be paid (also different)." —u/Firewalker1969x
AMERICAN TAKE 3: "My wife, who is American, couldn't understand why in Turkey, we just sit at the restaurant table after the meal is done. In the US, you generally eat and you leave. In Mediterranean countries, it's an event. You stay very long, have coffee/tea, and sometimes continue drinking and eating some nuts, etc. The restaurant will never bring the check or ask you to leave, that's just not done. It's a different mentality than the US, where it's usually all about turnover." —u/sxt173
19."While I admit the Brits are pretty close with their full English breakfast, the American greasy diner breakfast of eggs, bacon, waffles or pancakes, and hash browns is pretty uniquely American. My Italian mother has said in the past that it's the only thing she's enjoyed about American food culture. My nonna would be horrified if she heard we were eating fried eggs for breakfast."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "You need a breakfast burrito: Fried hash browns, ham, sausage, bacon, chorizo, eggs, sour cream, guacamole with some pico de gallo and tapatio, all wrapped in a monster tortilla. 💞😆" —u/Ebolax6
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "I just got back from a two-week trip in Europe, and god, did I miss hot American breakfast. The first meal I had when I got back was Waffle House, lol." —u/davecm0101
20."Giving tips at restaurants and even for barbers, food delivery services, massages, etc."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "A self-checkout asked me about a tip two weeks ago at Newark Liberty International Airport." —u/ThoriGilmore
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "I was chased by a Japanese waiter when I left a ¥1,000 tip ($8). He served me and gave me recommendations for what to eat even though we did not understand each other, and, since the restaurant was busy, I thought it was nice to leave a tip. When I left, he chased me down to return the tip." —u/IndoGuber
21."Driving everywhere. Americans drive a lot, far more than residents in most other countries."
AMERICAN TAKE 1: "American cities were built around the concept of driving. It's very difficult to walk anywhere." —u/IthurielSpear
AMERICAN TAKE 2: "To walk to my nearest grocery store (about 1.5 miles), I would have to walk on the side of a road where cars are flying up a blind hill at 60 mph. That road has no sidewalks or areas to safely cross the road, and it's 100°F/38°C outside. Unfortunately, it really is just insane to expect to be able to walk anywhere except for inner cities. At my old house, the nearest grocery store was a 25-minute drive." —u/_tinyphoenix
