Meryl Streep and Husband of 45 Years Don Gummer Have Been Separated for Six Years: “They Will Always Care for Each Other”

 Meryl Streep and Don Gummer.
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer.
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It’s news we weren’t expecting to see this morning: the legendary Meryl Streep has been separated from Don Gummer for six years, multiple outlets report; the two married in 1978 and just marked their forty-fifth wedding anniversary on September 30.

Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer

“Don Gummer and Meryl Streep have been separated for more than six years, and while they will always care for each other, they have chosen lives apart,” a representative for Streep said in a statement to People.

Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer

The couple—who share four children together—were never incredibly forward-facing and haven’t been seen publicly together since the 2018 Oscars. People reports that Streep was seen wearing her wedding band as recently as Friday at the 2023 Princesa de Asturias Awards in Spain.

Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer

Streep met Gummer, a sculptor whose work has been featured in exhibitions around the world since the early 1970s, through her brother in 1978, the same year they married. At the time, she was mourning the death of her boyfriend, fellow actor John Cazale, who died of lung cancer. Streep and Gummer shared an instant connection and married just six months later at Streep’s parents’ home. A notoriously private couple, in a 2002 interview with Vogue, Streep gave a rare glimpse into her marriage: she shared the secret to their longevity was “goodwill and willingness to bend—and to shut up every once in a while. There’s no road map on how to raise a family. It’s always an enormous negotiation. But I have a holistic need to work and to have huge ties of love in my life. I can’t imagine eschewing one for the other.”

Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer
Meryl Streep and Don Gummer

When Streep won the Best Actress Oscar for her role in The Iron Lady in 2012, Gummer was the first person she thanked: “First, I’m going to thank Don, because when you thank your husband at the end of the speech they play him out with the music, and I want him to know that everything I value most in our lives, you’ve given me,” she said.

This split follows the news this month that Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith—another Hollywood couple that we thought defied the odds and made it—had also separated years ago, with their split going as far back as 2016.