It’s often said that our homes reflect our state of mind, and for Emily, this is a sentiment that holds truth. Having moved into the one-bedroom Brighton, England, apartment almost a year ago, she’s spent this time making it into the safe and welcoming home she’s always needed.
“It’s my first time living alone, and although it’s a rental so I can’t do everything I want, the adventure of decorating and exploring what it is I want from a home has been exciting,” Emily explains. “This has made it my own space and it feels sacred as it has allowed me to explore myself, too.”
It hasn’t been the easiest space to decorate, she admits, with its typical British-rental-quirkiness. For example, the bedroom didn’t have a functioning wardrobe, so she played around with what would work before deciding on creating a space with a curtain behind the bed.
The living and kitchen space is also small and oddly shaped. Emily knew she wanted a kitchen table, but a traditional one wouldn’t fit. The round bar table she chose, however, works perfectly, adding a new dimension with the change in height.
When it comes to design, Emily is drawn to pops of color and doesn’t usually have a specific style in mind — instead, she goes by what elements she is drawn to, following what naturally feels as though it works together.
The past year, Emily has spent making the flat a home, whilst simultaneously trying to stay afloat with her mental health. “It’s been a really hard year for me,” she shares. Facing the grief of losing her nan, the parent figure who brought her up, her home became her safe place and was crucial to her healing process.
“Without a home that I feel safe in, I don’t know what I would have done. It’s one of the key elements to my mental health feeling okay. I have PTSD and OCD, which means sometimes the outside world can feel unsafe, so to have this space that is my own means a lot. I also have ADHD, so sensory experiences are important and something I’ve thought about while piecing my home together.”
When it comes to sensory experiences that make the home feel safer for people who have ADHD, Emily hails her electric blanket, which she will often retreat under when feeling overstimulated. Plus, smart lights, as she appreciates being able to change their color, depending on her mood and what she needs from the space.
“I always have a space where I can calm down with positive sensory inputs to help me recharge my batteries and feel more stable.”
Reflecting, Emily realizes part of the importance of creating this has been because she didn’t have a safe home growing up until her nan took her in. Her therapist has explained this as “nesting” — the process of piecing together the elements that make a home.
“I feel I’ve created a space that can hold me while I’m in this phase of my life. Looking at my home interior, it reflects who I am as a person, and that acts as a reminder to me in those moments that I don’t feel as sure of myself.”
Through trial and creativity, Emily has curated a space that reflects her identity and self-explorative nature. Her small but warm space is a reminder that homes are not merely a collection of furniture and decor, but a mirror of our inner selves, and with that often a mirror to our inner challenges, too.
Resources
LIVING ROOM/KITCHEN
Blue plant pot on table — HomeSense, then I painted it blue
Sofa and coffee table — Got them for free from Facebook marketplace
Sofa cover — Dunelm
Bar chairs/stools — Jollies Commercial furniture
Bar table — Dunelm
Cushions on sofa — Dunelm
Toaster and kettle — Amazon
Lamp — Wayfair
Round mirror — Traffic mirror from Amazon
Chair — Thrifted
Pink and red plant pot — Small business on Etsy
Silver plant pots — Gifted from my nan and I spray-painted them silver
BEDROOM
Desk — IKEA and then I added peel-and-stick wallpaper that I got from Amazon
Small white chest of drawers — also IKEA with added peel-and-stick wallpaper
Sofa — From eBay a long time ago
Circle mirror — Thrifted
Silver vase — Thrifted vase and spray-painted silver
Blue plant pot on desk — Between two thorns and then painted the pot blue myself
Canopy — Fly net from Amazon I turned into a canopy
Blue plant pot next to sofa — Oliver Bonas
Wooden chair next to bed — Given to me from my nan, who recently passed away so is extra special
Amalfi orange cushion — Dunelm
Salt lamp — eBay
Big mirror — IKEA
Guitar — Gifted by a work friend
Rug — Thrifted from Vinted
Thanks Emily!
This tour’s responses and photos were edited for length/size and clarity.
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