For many fans, Jason Lewis will always be Smith Jerrod, the beloved Sex and the City character who was the only man Samantha Jones (Kim Cattrall) said she ever really loved. But the actor isn't one of those people who shies away from talking about his most famous project. "I've been in places like the border of Pakistan and India and you've found women, fully burqaed, coming up to me going, 'I like that,'" he tells Glamour. "And I'm like, 'This has had a global impact on women.' It gave license and voice to women around the world."
These days he's spending a lot of his time working with the charity Best Buddies. "It's this amazing organization that works with people who have developmental challenges. So whether that's somebody born with spina bifida or is on the spectrum of autism," Lewis says. "It kind of works like a Big Brothers organization in that you pair people with mentors, but it goes a little bit [further] from looking at education needs to job placement and live-in care. What it's doing is providing a space for people to live their better lives."
He's been very hands-on, flying to Florida to see first hand how one of the organization's job programs works and meeting with participants. "We all deserve space," he says, "and not all of us are gifted with the circumstances that just hand it over."
Luckily, Lewis was also game to answer our Inappropriate Questions, Glamour’s column that asks all the cheeky, slightly off-kilter stuff best saved for a second (or better yet, third) date. Find out about his biggest romantic fail, the strangest spot he's hooked up in, and the weirdest comment he's gotten from a fan.
What’s a dating or relationship “rule” you think is BS?
That you can't have sex on the first night and have a meaningful relationship...because I've had a meaningful relationship after having sex the first night.
Fill in the blank: "I love when my partner..."
I love when my partner shines. When she feels magnanimous and bright and open, it makes me feel magnanimous and bright and open.
What’s the most surprising place you’ve hooked up with someone?
A Porta Potty.
No you did not.
I was young. Real young. Very romantic.
What’s the sexiest thing about yourself?
I don't think of myself that way. I'm easygoing and available to people. I think that makes others feel great.
Have you ever ghosted someone?
Oh yeah, totally ghosted people long before the term was available. I don't think that's always a terrible thing. I think sometimes as we learn the conversations we want to find ourselves in, we realize sometimes that we're in conversations that are horrible for us and the other person. So yeah, I've walked away with no regrets in many relationships. I don't think you should ever do that with a relationship of substance, but sometimes people won't let you change the dynamics and you have to walk away.
Who was your first celebrity crush?
Jane Seymour in Somewhere in Time with Christopher Reeve. Oh my God, I wanted to travel through time for her.
Do you believe in astrology?
I don't really practice it, but every time somebody puts it in front of my face it seems pretty fucking accurate. I'll usually say, "Oh wow, that's weird how well you've pegged me." I am a Cancer with a Leo rising and a Leo moon.
Wait, you know your moon but don't follow astrology?
I definitely have been paying attention more over the last few years. The only reason I know my moon is because years ago a girl I was dating—who was really toxic for me while I was in a broken space—decided to have my full charts done. My dog didn't like her and chewed that book up within an hour of my possession of it. She never did anything like that before. And it's like, "You want me to get rid of her, don't you, sweetheart?" So that was about all the information I downloaded from it.
Do you find it to be accurate?
It is. I am, on the surface of things, one of the most extroverted people—but if I don't get my alone time, all you people be damned. I'm imbalanced, so I need both things. I very much appear as an extrovert, but I have a lot of introverted tendencies. Ask my girlfriend.
Do you have a favorite family member?
I do. My deceased grandparents. They are some of the greatest people I've ever met, especially my adoptive grandfather. I got him when I was around eight, through a remarriage. He's just one of the most amazing men I've ever met. He was born in the Dust Bowl, he starved to grow up, put himself through college, and was so erudite and [well] traveled. It didn't matter where he went, everybody had value for him and everybody felt that way in his presence. He was just one of those guys. He showed me what a real man looked like, and a real man is full of emotions and care for others. He doesn't shut down their tears and lock away their hearts, you know?
What’s the most inappropriate thing a fan has said to you?
Probably telling me how well she could fuck me in front of the girl I was dating, loud enough for everybody to hear. And I'm going, "What are you doing?"
What do you hear the most from Sex and the City fans?
"Oh my God. You're that guy."
What’s the biggest romantic fail you’ve experienced?
When I was eight years old, I thought I was dating a girl, my first kiss and crush. By lunchtime she was going out with somebody else. Ruined me. I got over it though. I was eight.
What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done?
One of my very, very favorite romantic things I've ever done for my girlfriend was go to downtown L.A. and buy hundreds of roses. I covered the entire floor of my place, the bath, everything in the house so that her feet didn't touch the ground. I am in such a good relationship, but it's because I grew up. If you ask some of my older dates, I probably wasn't as good. I was a self-centered guy. I think that the problem with most relationships is we project onto others our needs and feelings instead of seeing the person there, and that's a very different thing in this current relationship. I value her.
What’s the worst thing you’ve done on a date?
I went on a date with a girl once, and when I first met her out it was fun. But the girl I went on the actual date with was [awful]. We were in the middle of sitting down to dinner, and I'm generating all the conversation. So when they deliver our food and hers looked really good, I just took a bite. She told me, "You know, in my family we at least wait for the person to take the first bite." And I said, "Thank God I'm not in your family," and stabbed her whole piece of steak and took a chunk out of it and put it back on her plate. Date was over after that.
Originally Appeared on Glamour