Jana Kramer says she gets 'to be a little picky' while dating as a mom: 'I don't need to settle for someone because I need to have kids'

Jana Kramer discusses being a 'badass mama,' dating and why 'I don't see myself ever being pregnant again'

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JANA KRAMER: I will let negative voices creep in about anything else. But when it comes to me being a mom, I know I'm a great mom. Sure, I have my days where I'm not perfect. But I know that I'm a great mom, and nobody can tell me otherwise. I have two beautiful children. Jolie Rae is 5, and then my son Jace is 2 and 1/2. He's going to be three in November. My parenting style, I would say, is I'm their friend, and I have fun with them, but I'm a mom. Like, I still have my rules, and there's still things they need to respect. So I would say that I have a healthy balance of being a strict yet fun mom.

I definitely got a lot of moms shame because I didn't breastfeed, and I gave them canned baby food. And, you know, I got so much judgment on all of those things. At the end of the day, I was just like, you know what? I'm their mom. I know what's best for them. I'm doing what's best for them. And everyone else can just see yourself out of my, like, social media because I just-- I'm not here for it.

My almost three-year-old little boy, he's definitely having the hardest time with the transition days. And if he's yelling for daddy, I'm like, do you want to call Daddy? Like, whatever to make him feel safe and secure. And then with my daughter, she'll ask questions sometimes. She'll be like, Mommy, I wish you lived at Daddy's. And I'm like, oh, I know, baby. But you know, Mommy and Daddy are better off, and Mommy's home and Daddy's home. And like-- but we're still really, you know, good friends. As hard as it is to be around your ex, always keep in mind what's best for the kids. Because how I feel about my ex isn't how my kids should feel about their dad. That's my stuff. That's not my kids' stuff.

I don't really see myself having another kid. I had really hard pregnancies. I had hyperemesis with my son, Jace. I puked until 39 weeks. , Like I had a bunch of miscarriages. Like, I just-- I don't see myself ever being pregnant again. But having said that, I don't know what God has planned for me. So if I meet the man of my dreams and he is like I want a baby, I don't think I would say no to that, either. But I don't see it happening, but who knows? I didn't see myself getting divorced either, so. [LAUGHS]

I definitely am dating. And I-- and I want to be dating. There were someone that I was hanging out with, and they wanted kids. And I'm like-- I'm very happy with where I'm at, like, with my two kids. And so I definitely think it's about finding someone that's on your same playing field and figuring out, like, OK, what do I want? Would I have stayed with my ex if I wasn't thinking of my time clock? I'm not sure.

There was many red flags back in the day. Now, it's just kind of like, who do I want to spend the rest of my life with? Now I get to be a little picky. No one's ever met the kids before. I'm not ready for that yet. My ex and I have a very good rule, where we have to be in a very serious relationship in order to introduce the kids, because it's not fair for them to be introduced to someone and then be like, oh, it didn't work out.

Being a mom has taught me that I have the ability to make nice humans and show them what's wrong and what's right. And I think that's a very big job and also how much love, too, I feel for them. I've never worked as hard as I have in my life than right now as a mom because I have to support them.

"Voices" is my new single. It's all about just not listening to those negative voices in your head. And what I want people to take away from the song is, like, that they are good enough, that they are worthy, that they are not broken. I have never been more proud of myself, truly-- the anxieties that have been able to overcome, the-- the challenges of the divorce. Like, I never thought I could be alone, and now I'm thriving in being alone. I'm thriving in just doing what I want. I am proud of myself. I never really looked at it that way. But I am, because I didn't think I could ever do it.