Iskra Lawrence on shutting down body-shamers: 'You can’t think your body is your enemy when it’s your home'
Getting told she was “too big” for the regular fashion industry yet “too small” for plus-size modeling was a turning point for Iskra Lawrence.
“All of the ‘you can’t do its, you’re too bigs, or you’re too smalls’ became my motivation,” she tells Yahoo Style UK of her lightbulb moment. “I knew something had to change.”
Since then the model and body-positive activist has made it her mission to not only try to change the fashion industry, but also change the narrative surrounding the way we not only talk about, but think about, our bodies.
As well as inspiring her four million followers on Instagram to adopt a healthy self image and flying the flag for body diversity, the 28-year-old has recently launched her own digital platform, EveryBODY with Iskra.
Offering a totally new approach to physical and mental health and wellness, the new platform is inclusive and accepting of everyone and every body (hence the name).
Choosing to shun dramatic “before and afters,” the program instead offers any time, anywhere workouts, meal ideas, and a massive dose of body positivity.
“It’s not about shaming people for the way they are right now; it’s encouraging them that the more you learn to love this body, you’re going to want to look after it,” Lawrence explains.
Lawrence took a break between shoots to talk about body confidence, bouncing back from knocks, and beating the body-shamers.
Looking after yourself is for everybody.
“I started EveryBODY because I was frustrated with the lack of diversity and inclusion within the health and fitness space. So many women I know are too insecure to even put on leggings, let alone go to the gym. Seeing these images of very slim women with 8-packs is just not relatable to them and they don’t always want to look like that. Even the before and afters can be too extreme and sometimes you just want to learn how to look after yourself in a gentle way that can be incorporated into your life really easily without restricting or being too challenging. The program is about gently letting people know that they can fall in love with themselves; they can fall in love with cooking, food, and exercise without signing up to a gym or buying a ton of equipment.”
We need to ban the word “should.”
“We feel pressure to diet, go to the gym, and only eat clean food because we “should.” But essentially that word makes us feel guilt. You’re looking after you for you, no one else. And that should be a priority.”
Your body is yours and yours alone.
“I went viral a few years ago when I got a comment from someone telling me to put down the chips and accusing me of being the reason people’s health was messed up. So I gave them the finger and ate the chips. And it empowered a lot of people. Don’t you tell me what I can do with my body and my life. I’ll do whatever I want.”
Body confidence is a journey.
“It’s not something we’re taught. I used to see my body as the enemy because the fashion industry at that time was telling me that I had to be taller and smaller. And I couldn’t physically do it. As much as I restricted myself with eating or exercise, my hips were still too big. But you can’t think your body is your enemy when it’s your home. Changing that narrative took a long time but now I’m not worrying about a thigh gap or some cellulite. It’s about changing the priority from what your body looks like to what it can do.”
“You are good enough” would be my message to my younger self.
“Self-doubt can infiltrate every aspect of our lives because you start to question yourself. And really we all deserve to feel worthy. There was a point when it hit home that’s where I was and that’s why I wasn’t accomplishing things, taking chances, trying new things because I had self-doubt which came from ridiculous insecurities. So now I would tell myself, and any young person, to never let self-doubt hold you back from anything in life.”
Make “no” your motivation.
“I spent six years trying to fit into the straight-sized fashion industry. But then I heard about plus-size modeling, went to an agency, and got told I was too small. At that point I was like, ‘Are you kidding me, that’s so messed up, how can it literally be one or the other’? I love the fact that everybody is different. So I very much decided that something had to change. I wanted to prove there was a different way to do things and that became my motivation. And instead of changing my body I put all my energy into trying to change the industry.”
⚡️I wouldn’t usually post this but… I do wonder how many posts that start like this are actually for real. Because most of the time the pics are FIRE and that’s a good enough reason to post…I don’t over think what I post unless it’s a message I want to share but if I feel good I’ll post whatever pic I want. A bikini pic or anything else doesn’t have to have a philosophical caption or be about body posi because maybe it seems more purposeful now or demands more respect. You deserve the same respect regardless of what you choose to wear. ALSO don’t feel pressure to post swim or underwear pics for likes, follows or because u see people like me doing it. Your comfort and confidence is wayyyy more important, so stay true to you. So anyway just my random thoughts right now and here I am feelin in Vegas flexin on the gram with my lil back rolls and thick thighs and cel-u-lit.. no airbushin no problem #realisenough #nophotoshop #aeriereal #vegas #cellulit #tigerstripes ⚡️ Bikini: @aerie
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Bounce back from knocks by making yourself smile.
“And surround yourself with people who are going to build you back up. Doing things that make you feel happy is so important. Gratitude lists are great too. My housemate isn’t loving her job right now and is struggling with bullying in the workplace, so she does gratitude lists. She’ll be like ‘I ate my favourite muffin today’ or ‘the sun was shining.’”
“You’re imperfectly perfect” has become my life mantra.
“I used to have a perfection complex, which manifested itself negatively when I was obsessed with trying to lose weight. Because, being a perfectionist, you never want to give up. So when I started realizing that no one is perfect and integrating that into other areas of my life, I stopped feeling guilty about what I ate and about wanting to say no to certain things. Understanding that you can mess up, [and that] failure is just a part of life, and it’s a lesson that helped me to take the pressure off myself. We’re our own worst enemies, but you have to be your best friend.”
The body-positive movement is so necessary.
“But we’ve still got a long way to go. We’re never going to see every person represented in the media, but there are some amazing campaigns and brands doing great things. That’s why I love Aerie and L’Oréal, because they tackle not just size diversity, but color diversity, age diversity, disability diversity. And in the meantime having a movement of people telling one another that they are beautiful just the way they are is so important. Having a break from the messages that are telling us that we’re not good enough is imperative.”
The language of how we discuss women needs to change.
“Every article that is written about me will specify my size or something about my body. As a model I understand that I’m in this industry and its tricky not to mention but I just see it everywhere. The covers of magazines that are still fat-shaming people or showing people’s cellulite has to change because we are so much more than that. We don’t want to open a magazine up and be shocked that there’s a different-size model in it. When we’ve got to the point when it’s not shocking then we’ve made it.”
Turn body-shaming into a positive.
“I always think that nothing will ever infiltrate me now because I’ve got such a thick skin, but you can still get a day when a comment makes you go ‘ouch! that hurt.’ I either deal with it by blocking, deleting, and getting on with my day. Or I try to do something positive with it. Someone told me that my boobs were saggy and I should get a boob job. So I did a story explaining that all natural breasts are different shapes and sizes. Some of us have got one breast, some of us haven’t got any but they’re for giving life to children, they’re not to be objectified, they’re not just for the viewership of men. It was cool to have a positive discussion from something that was meant to be a negative.”
Do a social media health check.
“Make sure you’re following people who make you feel good and accounts that inspire you, that you enjoy. Unfollow those that make you feel jealous or bad. Do it for you and don’t feel bad about it. Social media can be such an amazing space where loads of us are connected and fighting for the same stuff, but you have to make sure you’re using it in the right way for you.”
We need to talk about personal struggles.
“I don’t think we should pretend that we’re superhuman, especially people in the public eye. There’s a responsibility when you have a following to show people that you’re human too. To prove to the girl at home who’s like, ‘I will never feel that good in a bikini,’ and who thinks I don’t have any insecurities, that actually I’m a bit scared to put on a bikini because I’m worried about this fat roll on my back or whatever it might be. Magazines and social media show a filtered version of life and is so intimidating and unrelatable. So showing that you haven’t got an impenetrable armor, really does make a difference.”
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