Imagine you’re getting married and everyone you know is there. Your best guy friend is officiating the ceremony, but, midway through, he stops and PROPOSES TO HIS GIRLFRIEND. Whaaaaaaaat?! Yup! The internet is now freaking out over a man who interrupted a wedding to propose, according to Slate’s “Dear Prudence” column. Of course, that is so not cool. Who does that?!
The bride wrote about it to Slate’s “Dear Prudence” column, aka Mallory Ortberg. Here’s what happened after the best friend, “John,” proposed:
“…I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her,” the bride wrote to Dear Prudence. “Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter. When John gave his toast, he apologized for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us…”
WTF?! And it gets worse (!) — you can read more of the bride’s letter here.
Look at this nightmare y'all. I absolutely wouldn't speak to John or Jane ever again. pic.twitter.com/SUvAv64XFa
— Yung Receipta (@ashuhhleeee_) May 31, 2017
As you can probably guess, a lot of people tweeted about how insanely MESSED UP it is to propose at your best friend’s wedding.
Plus, it’s a quick way to go from “best friend” to “worst friend,” right?!
I had never heard of a best man interrupting a wedding ceremony to propose to his own girlfriend until today. https://t.co/HtrmhmLy2i
— Nate Rethorn (@NateRethorn) May 31, 2017
DO NOT TRY THIS AT MY WEDDING. I can fight in a tux. https://t.co/EB21LWmF0Q
— dp3 (@dpalm66) June 2, 2017
Nah, weddings cost a lot. For me to spend thousands on a wedding that I'm no longer the centre of attention of, you're mad. The disrespect. https://t.co/z4ijPOC2Kh
(@Tiiaahhx) June 2, 2017
Someone who does that is not your best friend. If you can't let your friend have a day, you ain't their friend
— Pusha C# Ph.D (@grisuy) June 2, 2017
I would actually give birth at their wedding. If I have to induce the labour, no problem. https://t.co/PiWAWmwDOQ
— Ebose Oriarewo (@ebose__) June 2, 2017
What did Prudence have to say?
“In between ‘getting over it’ and ‘never speaking to John again’ is the happy medium of ‘having a difficult conversation with a longtime friend who did something selfish and self-absorbed on your wedding day.’…Whatever the outcome, there is definitely at least one step in between ‘seething silently’ and ‘cutting John loose forever,’ especially since the two of them have been best friends for a long time.”
We know — it’s probably hard to imagine reconciling the friendship after such a HUGE blow on ~your~ wedding day. But, at the same time, that
is ~was~ your best friend. In any case, it’s probably best to keep your wedding proposal personal to you and your significant other and make it into your own special day, not ruin someone else’s.