Idris Elba Said He Had "Massive Anger Tantrums" In The Beginning Of His Relationship With Wife Sabrina, And He Told Her To "Leave" If She Didn't Like It

Idris Elba and Sabrina Dhowre Elba have been married since 2019.

Sabrina Dhowre and Idris Elba attend the world premiere of "Cats" at Alice Tully Hall, Lincoln Center on December 16, 2019 in New York City
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But apparently their relationship wasn't always as strong as it is now.

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In a new episode of their Audible podcast Coupledom, Idris revealed that he used to have trouble controlling his frustration when they first started dating.

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"Sabrina and I, very early in our relationship, I was very stressed so I had these massive anger tantrums that were like explosions," Idris said.

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"She was like, 'Who are you?'"

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"I was always the first to say, 'Hey, if you're not happy, leave. Move.' It was kind of like a male instinct," he continued.

Idris Elba and Sabrina Elba attend the 2019 Met Gala celebrating "Camp: Notes on Fashion" at The Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 6, 2019 in New York City
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"Sabrina and I both have strong personalities and typically its Sabrina who says, 'Look, I don't want to fight,'" he said. "I've been getting better at it recently but when I do it, I get nothing back. When she does it, I go, 'Thank you.'"

Idris Elba and Sabrina Dhowre attend the National Film Awards at Porchester Hall on March 27, 2019 in London, England
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Like all good relationships, getting through those trying times has only strengthened their connection.

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"We're newly business partners, but we're also newlyweds. Idris is my best friend," Sabrina added. "I want to be around this guy every day of my life, so it's really great to be able to see what that morphs into."

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"I'd say we're in a good place. It was a challenging year, but ultimately, when you look to the side and you've got someone that's been there, ride or die, that's really comforting," Idris added.

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"We've been literally inseparable since we met. Inseparable," he said of their partnership.

Idris Elba and Sabrina Dhowre arrive at the 76th Annual Golden Globe Awards at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 6, 2019 in Beverly Hills, California
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Their love and story is a reminder that the growing never stops once you’re in a relationship or married.

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You can listen to the full podcast here.

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