Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, and if there’s one mom out there who knows that to be true, it’s Hilaria Baldwin. The 34-year-old mom of three, who’s currently expecting her fourth child—a son, with husband Alec Baldwin—isn’t afraid to show off her growing bump. But while her Instagram feed is brimming with photos of a toned and lingerie-clad Baldwin in different stages of pregnancy, she hasn’t always been so comfortable putting everything out there for the world to see.
“Before I got married, I was just a yoga teacher and led a very private life,” she tells InStyle. “Then, all of the sudden, I had no privacy. I went from being really open and happy to guarded and shut down, and I just didn’t feel like myself anymore.” Slowly, Baldwin began sharing more on her social media accounts. “It took me a while, but eventually I decided that I wasn’t going to let people on the outside scare me,” she says. “I wasn’t going to close myself off to the world anymore just because I was afraid of what other people thought of me.”
As she started to share a more intimate look at her life, Baldwin encouraged her followers to embrace a healthy lifestyle by posting skin-baring photos of her own yoga-filled workouts. “I always want to show people that they can be a well-oiled machine as long as they take care of themselves, physically,” she says. “I want them to normalize the feelings they have in their bodies.” While that includes the feelings that come with pregnancy, Baldwin chose not to overshare when she was expecting her daughter, Carmen, back in 2013. “I didn't really post a lot, because I was such a first-time mommy and scared about everything,” she says. “I was also still nervous about the outside world, and all of the reporters seemed so scary to me. They could just write anything about you and people would believe it.”
6 months with Baldwinito #4! I have to remind myself every day how working out and eating well while pregnant will mean that I will have a easier pregnancy, delivery, and recovery. I let myself slow down, but try to do an activity almost every day where I keep my circulation going, maintain flexibility, and tone muscles. I’m also completely at peace with the fact that I WILL gain weight, cellulite WILL happen, my body NEEDS fat and rest in order to grow a healthy baby. Through 4 pregnancies, I have found balance and calm—embracing natural changes in my body, yet taking care of myself in a way where these changes are temporary, and once the baby is out, I will find my non pregnant self again. Please talk to me and to each other about your experiences with this, questions, and advice—no negativity—this is a namaste place????. #WeGotThis2018 (in full disclosure, there is no filter, but I did brighten up the image a bit, since the bathroom in this hotel doesn’t have strong light).
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When she was pregnant with her son Rafael in 2015, Baldwin was more confident in her approach to social media. She posted images of her bare baby bump, showing off her yoga-toned frame in nothing but underwear as she revealed her progress each trimester. Baldwin’s goal? To create a positive and open conversation about the changes a woman’s body goes through during pregnancy and promote healthy self-esteem for women of all shapes and sizes. So she was shocked when some followers deemed the photos too “sexy” for a mom-to-be to share with the world.
“In the beginning, I got a lot of negativity,” says Baldwin. “A lot of comments were like, ‘You're a mother. Why don't you cover up?’ And there were people who said, 'Why don't you ask your husband for permission to do that?' That was especially funny to me, because my husband is often the one taking the pictures—plus, you’ve got to be kidding if you're telling me that I have to ask my husband permission to post a photo. We don't have a misogynistic relationship where he's telling me to cover up all the time. We're very comfortable with each other, and even the kids know that I’m really the boss. But I would get a lot of comments like that.”
Ciao first trimester!!!! ????????????#BaldwinBabyBump4 If you are new to following me, I post these from time to time while I’m pregnant. I? try to stay as healthy as possible while pregnant but embrace slowing down, eating a bit more, and celebrating my changing body. We all go through these changes while pregnant, it’s amazing, and I love to normalize it, rather than promoting being ashamed of gaining weight. If it offends you, you may unfollow. Negativity will be simply blocked ??.
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Pregnant or not, Baldwin, of course, has an undeniably thin and toned body type, and while reception of her posts have garnered a mixed reaction, it's not difficult to imagine that women of different sizes who post images of their own lingerie-clad pregnant bodies might receive different reactions. Women have been fat-shamed and skinny-shamed during and after pregnancy, celebs and non-celebs alike. Baldwin's philosophy, though, applies to all mothers: Feeling maternal and feeling sexy, she posits, are not contradictory. And she wants that to sink in.
I told a friend yesterday that I always try to see people's impressions of me through their eyes, rather than just getting offended. So I am going to respond to this with a place of seeing your position, but let you know who I actually am. I hope I am worth getting to know in your opinion--I feel we all are. Hopefully you will read this and accept me for who I am. But that is entirely up to you and your opinion is your right--not one that I can demand. Lets begin with your words: "shameless" "perfectly puckered" "pretend to be perfect" "not real". I am sorry I don't have any "warts" now, as you told me if I showed them I'd be "cooler"-- I did once as a child on my foot but that got burnt off at the dr--maybe this was the peak of my coolness. I have never done a cosmetic procedure and I rarely wear makeup. So what is wrong with my pictures? I am just me. I take pics in all sorts of places....At the laundromat, right before bed, exercising, tired, pregnant, makeup free... I took pics throughout my pregnancy with Rafa and a day after he was born. No filter, no retouching...because I want to show real. And here I am playing with my little girl--no makeup other than a little mascara. I was having a perfectly fun, innocent time. Can't we all just support each other? We may never meet and you can have any opinion of me you want, but I find that when we project negativity, we miss out. I know I open myself up to all sorts of body shaming when I post like this. So why do I do it? Because I WANT TO BE REAL. These are REAL moments of my life, and regardless of how I look, I am allowed to share them. I don't want to change myself in order to try to please others. Then I would not be me. I have accepted myself with all my imperfections and weird eccentricities. And I am enjoying my life--which is ultimately what it's all about, no? Namaste, my friend, I am keeping this anonymous for you, not including your name. I just wanted you to hear me out. I don't want you to receive any negativity...that is such a terrible feeling that I know too well #366daysoflivingclearly #HilariaLCM
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One accusation that Baldwin still finds particularly frustrating? When strangers assume that they actually know the details of her day-to-day routine. “People tend to think that my entire life is all of my Instagrams put together, and they’ll claim that I don't actually spend time with my kids,” she says. “They think that I just come in, take a picture, and then leave to go get lunch and massages all day or something. They can think whatever they want, but they’re so incorrect. It’s painful when people say things that aren’t true about you, but I don't have the energy to spend my whole life trying to change how someone feels. So I just continue on, one step forward.”
Hello 3rd trimester! Carmen is decorating her baby brother ??????????????????????????????. Every single time I do this, I can’t believe the elasticity of the human body. It’s hard, and I get tired (especially with 3 on the outside), but I feel so lucky to have experienced this in my life. I always tell people that their bodies are capable of so much—and given the right care and fuel, you can really feel good and strong from the inside out ??. #WeGotThis2018
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During her current pregnancy, Baldwin’s followers have reached out to tell her that they’re inspired by her candidness and the authenticity of the photos she shares (which often show her reflection in the bathroom mirror). “I don’t use filters, because I just want to be real and show who I am,” says Baldwin. “If my pictures inspire people, great. But if the smallest thing that comes from it is that my friends and family can see how I’m doing and that my belly’s getting bigger, then that’s great, too.”
For Baldwin, the bottom line is that whatever she chooses to share, it’s completely up to her—sexy or otherwise. “I’m in control of my own page and, ultimately, I just want to be myself,” she says. “I’m not a supermodel, and I’m not trying to be. I’m just me.”