Everything You Need to Know About Dating a Virgo Man

Jake Register
Photo credit: Getty/Khadija Horton
Photo credit: Getty/Khadija Horton

From Cosmopolitan

There are just a few basics that need to be explored when you first start dating someone. Where are they from? What do they do for a living? Oh, and most definitely, when’s their birthday? This isn’t just for remembering when to send that “happy b-day :)” text! Knowing a potential boo’s zodiac sign can really help in understanding their behavior. Astrology helps us break down personality traits, pet peeves, and, yes, even dating patterns. It can be fun and informative to look up their sign and see how yours works with it.

If you’re dating, insta stalking (hi, guilty), or just fantasizing over a Virgo man (born August 23-September 22, BTW), we’re here to help you. Virgos tend to be reserved and guarded, so it can be hard to get to know them at first—but once you do, you'll discover a dark, hilarious sense of humor and one of the most loyal friends you'll ever meet. Virgos are stereotyped as perfectionists, but they're just as critical of themselves as they are of others. And yeah, many of them do love to organize things! Don't trust the name, though—as earth signs, Virgos are sensual AF. Here's what you need to know:


The Virgo Basics

Birthday: August 23-September 22

Type: Mutable earth sign

Keywords: Dedicated, attentive, high-strung, helpful, hardworking

Love anthem: “goodnight n go” by Ariana Grande

Famous Virgo men: Idris Elba, Keanu Reeves, Nick Jonas, Freddie Mercury, Chris Pine, Armie Hammer, Colin Firth, Alexander Skarsgard, Bernie Sanders, Dave Chapelle

Best Matches:

Fellow earth sign Taurus is a great match for a Virgo. You both respect each other’s forwardness and work ethic. Similarly, Virgo vibes with earth sign Capricorn, as they both prioritize hard work and are ambitious AF. Water sign Cancer is another great match for a Virgo. Where Virgo takes care of practical matters and shows affection by helping with IRL stuff, Cancer is an emotional water sign and creates an intimate and loving connection. And Virgos can also be great matches for another water sign, Scorpio. You both are deep thinkers who value alone time, and you have similar communication styles. Finally, Virgo vibes well with their opposite sign, Pisces. Both are all about helping others, but dreamy Pisces can help logical Virgo loosen up a bit.

Gemini and Sagittarius will have to put in extra work to woo a Virgo. Gemini is soooo talkative that Virgo can get irritated, and adventurous Sagittarius can find Virgo's carefulness to border on neurotic. However, if these signs make an effort to understand each other, they can have a great relationship, too (especially if their Moon signs are compatible).

Sex with a Virgo

Like I said, just because they're represented the virgin or the maiden doesn't mean Virgos aren't into sex. In fact, as earth signs, they're all about pleasure. They're also ruled by Mercury, planet of communication, which means they tend to be fans of dirty talk, sexting, and thinking up elaborate role-play scenes.

Virgos tend to put their loved ones' needs above their own, so life in the bedroom is up in the air until you set the rhythm. Once he gets the hang of what you like and don’t like, he’ll take your idea of pleasure to a whole new level! As a mutable sign, he’s quick on his feet and can keep up with your tempo after a couple rounds in bed. He’s ridiculously attentive both inside and outside of the bedroom, and is the type of guy who takes you out for dinner, stacks the dishes for the waiter, and can't wait to kiss you goodbye!

One note: Virgos tend to be really focused on cleanliness, so make sure you don't have any crumbs in your sheets before you get between them—and maybe take a shower before your Virgo boo comes over. Or hey, jump in the shower together for even more fun.

All about Virgo

Virgo is number six of 12 on the zodiac wheel, and is the only mutable earth sign—meaning he’s resourceful and flexible, as well as logical, stubborn, and only concerned with what's tangible. He’s a shy, sensitive dude, but as a sign ruled by Mercury, he’s also pretty clever and ambitious. His sign is the most associated with servitude–he wants to take care of his S.O. above anything else, and shows affection in practical ways like helping you with a project, doing the dishes, or just neatening parts of your life to make it easier. His preferred relationship is quiet and private, where most the action happens at home, but he still wants to show you off to everyone he knows!

He’s pretty low-key and isn’t a super flirtatious dude, and as a smart Mercury-ruled sign, his brain works at 100 miles a minute to make sure everything is just right. He does a lot of behind the scenes work for you, and sometimes you might not even notice everything he does for the relationship. He’s effective at communicating, but can be a bit cut-and-dry, so he’s more aligned with Mercury’s intellectual side. He’s also witty as hell, so he’s sure to make you laugh. He wants to listen and learn everywhere he goes, and he especially wants to know as much about you as possible!

Being the perfectionist that he is, Virgo wants nothing less than the best of the best. That’s how you know he likes you—he wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t think you were the closest thing to perfection out there. The key words there are “closest thing” to perfection. He wants to be with someone who looks and plays the role of the best relationship partner one could wish for, so he’s always taking time out of his own busy schedule to help you out. All you have to do is thank him—and be sincere about it—and he’s overjoyed.

His need for perfection can be a blessing and a curse. He’s fussy and needlessly particular over literally everything. Even though he’s ruled by the planet of communication, his way of conveying his point isn’t the nicest. It all comes from a good place, sure, but every day you’re left wondering if he’ll ever give it a rest and just take that stick out of his ass for once! During the best of times, you find that your relationship is operating efficiently and beautifully, but on the bad days, you want to rip your hair out!

Virgo is all about details. He's likely to notice how you take your coffee and fix you a perfect cup for your third date. Mention a book you've been meaning to read? Virgo might surprise you with a copy in a few weeks. There's a downside to this precision, though. Virgo will remember every detail of every fight, and he won't let you pretend you weren't wrong about something if you really were.

Your Virgo man can be a pretty big hypocrite, too. His home is a pig sty, but he rolls his eyes if you have a single dirty dish in your sink. And if he feels like it’s been too long since he’s felt appreciated, watch out. Next time he does your laundry or takes out your trash, there’s a passive aggressive comment he mutters under his breath. On top of being critical, he’s pretty sensitive too! He’s easily terrified to be anything less than 100 percent perfect. His next thought is that you’ll leave him, so he can get pretty clingy, too. But nine times out of ten, you can keep everything relaxed and stable by just reassuring him of your affection.

The key to making the whole relationship work is BE DIRECT. His ruling planet is all about communication, so he knows how to listen and can vocalize his thoughts easily. He’ll tell you if he has a problem in a split second, and you should do the same! Open communication is never a bad thing, and with Virgos, it’s an expectation. Also, lift him up when you can. He’ll dedicate a lot of time to you, your job, your social life, pretty much everything. Show interest in his hobbies, ask his opinion, and be proactive about making him feel not only noticed, but appreciated. If you can do that, it’ll be smooth sailing!

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