When does a stay-at-home-mom’s job end? According to this dad, never

As any stay-at-home parent knows, taking care of kids is a full-time job in and of itself. Add in taking care of a home, and you have more work than any one person should reasonably be expected to do. But one stay-at-home-mom turned to the internet for advice after her husband expressed that the kids and the home were entirely her responsibility — at all times — just because he has a somewhat demanding job outside of the house, and to say Reddit has thoughts would be an understatement.

“My husband says that my ‘job is to watch the kids,'” she wrote, adding that he works 10-12 hours a day while she’s a stay-at-home-mom to their four-year-old and one-year-old.

“After a long day taking care of the kids, when my husband is home, he’ll help feed and put the kids to sleep,” she continued. “Some days, I’m so exhausted [that] I don’t have dinner ready for him when he comes home [and] some chores aren’t done. He tells me that as a SAHM, my responsibilities are to make sure [the] food [is] ready, he’s got clean clothes for work, and the kids are taken care of. He says that because I stay at home, my job is to take care of the house and the kids. But I get exhausted and tired, too.”

Uh, yeah. Because taking care of a house is one job, and taking care of two kids is another. She’s literally doing two whole jobs while he does one. Of course she’s exhausted. Thankfully, the people of Reddit were quick to speak some sense in this situation.

“Being a SAHM is actually more than a full-time job, and you don’t get weekends off or holidays,” one wrote.

Another added, “He says it’s your job, but if he doesn’t work 24 hours, neither should you be expected to. When he’s home, it should be 50/50.”

Others pointed out some issues with how the labor is divided here, like how the dad in this situation expects his wife, who is already doing all of the cooking and cleaning and the vast majority of the childcare, is also expected to get his clothes ready for him.

“Husbands are supposed to be adults,” one wrote. “They don’t need looking after. They only require support and that’s a two-way street.”

That’s a good point. Where is the support for this stay-at-home-mom? Because while her husband gets nights, weekends and holidays off from his job, we’re willing to bet she never does.