When wedding photographer and entrepreneur Jenna Kutcher posted an Instagram photo of herself posing with her husband, along with a heartfelt message, she didn’t really expect the flood of supportive messages it inspired.
In the photo, Kutcher is walking on the beach with her husband, Drew Kutcher, a health business coach, and both are in their swimsuits. But while the visual is charming, the caption is what really makes an impact. In it, she recalls being sent a direct message wondering how Jenna could land a guy as beautiful as Drew. She went on to reveal, “Part of my insecurity with my body has stemmed from being married to Mr. Six-Pack himself. Why should I, a curvy girl, get him? I feel unworthy, and when I write narratives in my head that because I am not thin, I don’t deserve him.”
The 29-year-old continued her caption with the best response to that old DM: “This man has embraced every curve, every dimple, pound and pimple for the last ten years and has always reminded me that I’m beautiful even when my inner dialogue doesn’t match (and when I haven’t showered in days.) So yes, my thighs kiss, my arms are big, and my bum is bumpy but there is just more of me for him to love and I chose the man that could handle alllll that (and so much more!)”
Shortly after sharing her truth, the post picked up speed and now has more than 38,000 likes and more than 1,900 comments.
Just about every comment left under Jenna’s post was positive, and many people felt personally touched by her frankness, as they were able to relate it to their own. One person advised, “Don’t listen to those negative comments from haters. You are beautiful inside and out.” Another wrote, “You landed someone that sees someone for what’s on the inside and not on the outside and I think everyone else can pound sand for saying or thinking otherwise. You go girl!!”
After having two miscarriages within two years, Jenna has opened up time and time again on social media. “I’ve struggled my whole life to love my body, something that started when I was a gymnast at a young age,” she tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “I think deep down, as women, our biggest fear is that we aren’t enough, that our bodies are broken, and after walking through two losses, I was really struggling to ‘come home’ to my body.”
Jenna adds, “Drew is a babe. I know that, I see that, I love that. And to me, he’s the most handsome man on the planet. Since I have always struggled with weight, it’s sometimes hard being married to a man with muscles and a six-pack. I see the way people stare at him on the beach and the narrative in my head sounds like, ‘Why should you deserve a man like him? You’re fat, he should be with someone so much better looking.’ I tend to write stories for what I believe people are thinking — when, in reality, I know they probably aren’t thinking a thing.”
When finding the confidence to overcome those insecurities, Jenna admits that Drew plays a big role. “I think that he helps me, he sees me beautiful on the days when I don’t shower or change out of my high school sweatpants, which, let’s be honest, is most days. And he reminds me of my worth and beauty. But beyond that, I’ve had to really find that within. I don’t think it’s safe or healthy to rely on someone else for acceptance and so, as I’ve grown my empire of a business, I’ve had to learn how to put myself first so that I can pour into others.”
Fitness and overall health play a huge role in the couple’s life together, as they do everything from run marathons to participate in CrossFit and attend yoga classes together. And while Drew sometimes takes photos of Jenna that she initially wants to delete when she sees cellulite or armpit fat, he always reminds her that he was just trying to capture her beauty.
“I had never shared that part of my insecurity before. Sure, I struggled with my weight and my body image, but I had never talked about how it was being married to such a handsome man and feeling less than,” says Jenna. “I hope that women can see that yes, they can be loved just as they are and that oftentimes the stories we are telling ourselves in our head aren’t true. I got so many messages from women saying they felt so insecure because of being married to a good-looking man, and I think it was a launch pad for a conversation that all stems back to owning our own beauty and our own power.”
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