Crushing on a Virgo? Can’t Blame You. But Read This Before You Ask Them Out

Aliza Kelly
Photo credit: Getty/Katie Buckleitner
Photo credit: Getty/Katie Buckleitner

From Cosmopolitan

So you’ve got the hots for a cool Virgo? I don’t blame you! Earthy Virgos (born August 22 to September 22) are thoughtful, warmhearted, and deeply intelligent. They’re known for their extraordinary attention to detail, effortless organization, and incredible ability to synthesize even the most complex issues. But not every Virgo is a neat freak. And while it’s true that Mother Teresa was literally a Virgo, don’t let the name fool you: Most Virgos are far from virginal. So before you link up with this fascinating, complex creature, you want to know what you’re getting into. But don’t worry—I’ve got you covered! Here’s the scoop on all things Virgo.

SO WHAT’S A VIRGO LOOKING FOR IN A RELATIONSHIP?

If you’ve ever googled “Virgo personality,” you’ve probably stumbled across a laundry list of Virgo’s stereotypical attributes: Clean. Neat. Precise. And while it’s true that some Virgos may exhibit these characteristics, Virgo’s signature perfectionism is really only the tip of the iceberg. At the end of the day, every Virgo is motivated by an innate desire to make sense of the world. So whether Virgo is building a logical system through a color-coordinated bookcase, fine-tuning a singer’s vocals in a music studio, or writing long-form journalism that exposes societal injustices, Virgo is deeply committed to cultivating sustainable structure.

Accordingly, when it comes to matters of the heart, Virgo wants to be in a partnership that has a tangible purpose. Unlike some other signs of the zodiac (I’m looking at you, Leo), Virgo doesn’t want to dive headfirst into a messy, impossible, dramatic love affair. Virgo wants to link up with someone they can connect with on a day-to-day level. So before Virgo commits, this earth sign would like to know: Do you prefer to shower in the morning or the night? What time do you usually wake up on weekdays? How about weekends? Do you have any dietary restrictions?

Although these types of queries may seem mundane, Virgos know that the devil is in the details. Fundamentally, they’re constantly collecting data to create a comprehensive profile of their lover, which is then cross-referenced with their own wants and needs. If these align, bingo! It’s a match! Virgo will move full steam ahead. However, if your Virgo babe identifies any inconsistencies…well, let’s just say that these will need to be adjusted. Like, now. I know it may seem harsh, but there’s no way in hell Virgo will invest in an ill-suited relationship. It just doesn’t make sense!


HOW DO THEY BEHAVE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

If there’s one thing you need to know about Virgo, it’s that this earth sign is constantly solving puzzles. All day, every day. As one of the cleverest signs of the zodiac, Virgos can spend all day sorting, analyzing, investigating and—best of all—finding solutions. And of course, since cultivating systems is such a defining aspect of Virgo’s personality, they’re delighted to apply their skills on an interpersonal level—they’re considered one of the most helpful signs of the zodiac. Can’t manage your calendar? Virgo has an idea. Need help hanging that coat rack? Don’t fret—Virgo will swing by with a hammer. Want some feedback on your résumé? Cool, just send it to Virgo!

While Virgo can certainly find joy in organizing the spice rack, there’s nothing that makes this earth sign happier than helping others. Virgos pride themselves on acts of service, so this earth sign is always looking for new ways to lend a hand. But while this might seem perfect in theory, Virgo’s relentless “support” may actually create more problems (how ironic!).

Although Virgo can be the most thoughtful and caring partner, they can also be a bit of a control freak. Virgo must remember that relationships are not “fixer-uppers.” There’s no need to correct, improve, and calibrate their lover’s every move! Interestingly, the best way to combat their razor precision is to deny their service requests. Just because Virgo is offering help doesn’t mean you need to accept it—sure, it’s nice that they keep offering to do the dishes, but it’s not necessary!

I know it’s tempting to say yes to everything Virgo wants to improve, but the best way to cultivate a long-term bond with this earth sign is by setting boundaries. Although they may say they want to help, each lover has to give and receive equally. And by establishing a partnership that’s based on reciprocity (as opposed to Virgo’s toolbox), Virgo will—slowly but surely—stop trying to adjust the relationship, enabling them to redirect their solution-oriented approach to things that really matter…like rearranging their photo albums in chronological order!

WHAT ARE THEIR BIGGEST TURN-ONS AND TURN-OFFS?

Virgo is governed by Mercury, the fast-paced, quick-witted planet that governs communication and expression. Armed with the incredible, innate ability to synthesize large amounts of information and find answers to even the most complex problems, Virgo is attracted to lovers who are deeply intelligent. The fastest way to Virgo’s heart is through their mind—there’s nothing they love more than sharing observations and witticisms.

Despite Virgo’s shrewd analytical skills, however, this earth sign cannot handle criticism. Don’t even think about correcting Virgo’s systems. For better or worse, Virgo’s identity is wrapped up in their unique processes, so questioning Virgo’s approaches will cause this earth sign to shut down completely. While it’s true that Virgo is trying to improve systems, it doesn’t mean this sign is open to suggestions! When in doubt, simply take a step back and let Virgo do their thing. So if you’re curious about why Virgo is still wearing cargo shorts (obvi for the pockets), avoid challenging Virgo’s fashion until after you’ve established trust and understanding. Otherwise, you may never see your Virgo lover (and those charming cargo shorts) again.


THEIR BEST AND WORST MATCHES?

So who are Virgos favorite projects…er, I mean partners? Fellow earth signs—Taurus and Capricorn—appreciate Virgo’s attention to detail. Taurus values Virgo’s thoughtful, meticulous nature, while Capricorn is attracted to Virgo’s kind and thoughtful spirit. However, Virgo has a more difficult time managing relationships with Gemini and Sagittarius. Chatty Gemini and adventurous Sagittarius find Virgo’s approach to be somewhat neurotic, while Virgo perceives these impulsive signs to be extremely unreliable. When coupled, these signs should remember that nothing is perfect!

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