Crushing on an Aquarius Woman? Read This Before You Ask Her Out

Shameless share: Aquarius is one of my favorite zodiac energies right now. There’s just something about them that’s so irresistible. You would think because they are traditionally ruled by Saturn, the planet of structure, that Aquarius women are destined to be a bore (sorta like Capricorn, full offense intended).

But no, they’re different—literally. Aquarius’ modern ruler is Uranus, the planet of rebellion and chaos, which I think is a perfect descriptor for the energy that they bring. They don’t do well with conformity and occasionally feel confused by the strange norms and customs within their community. For that reason, they often come off as a bit aloof.

Aquarius women are natural black sheep. They don’t fit into most groups and because of that, when they do find their people, they become extremely community-oriented. Finding their clique means finding their family, and they dedicate their lives to being around their people. As their ancient ruler Saturn suggests, Aquarius is a very loyal zodiac sign, sometimes to a fault. They are notable for being very observant and because of that, they recognize that the world is not rose-colored. They see things as they are.

Trust though, just because an Aquarius woman will work with someone, doesn’t mean that they are dedicated to the person. They are married to the causes that they believe in. Which means that if you’re dating an Aquarius woman, then you must be okay with spending an ample amount of time learning about whatever they are passionate about. Even better if you met them because you’re a part of the same subculture!

The Aquarius basics

• Birthday: January 23 - February 22

• Type: Fixed air sign

• Keywords: Innovative, activist, organized, community minded, pioneer

• Love Anthem: "Creature!" by Nitty Scott

• Famous Aquarius women: Megan Thee Stallion, Shakira, Oprah Winfrey, Alicia Keys, Ellen Degeneres, Kerry Washington, Emma Roberts, Paris Hilton, Yara Shahidi

The Best Matches for an Aquarius Woman

The best matches for an Aquarius woman are Leos and Geminis. Leos because sometimes Aquarius women have trouble stepping into the limelight. Aquarians have great ideas and organize bulletproof plans to achieve them, but the problem is, they struggle with being the front person. Unlike Leo, they usually prefer life behind the scenes to ensure everything goes smoothly. An aligned Leo will be sure to be the megaphone for their Aquarian bae.

Now Gemini, on the other hand, helps turn Aquarius into a mastermind. The problem with Aquarius is that sometimes they are so forward-thinking that they leave everyone else behind! Geminis are able to help Aquarians by asking them questions, which in turn helps develop Aquarius’ plotting.

The Worst Matches for an Aquarius Woman

Getting right into it, there are some romantic combinations that simply aren’t for the Aquarius woman.... like Capricorn, especially Capricorn men. In case you develop a bond with a Capricorn man, please contact your nearest witch because you, my dear, might be in danger. A Capricorn man can be a total sweetheart, a chivalrous gentleman, the type of person who somehow just knows how to be that perfect boyfriend–until he’s not. Capricorn men are a bit too rigid, controlling, and old-fashioned for the Aquarius woman who requires the ability to break free and follow her own path. If an Aquarius woman and Capricorn man do link up, it’s probably best that they do so post-Saturn Return, when they're older, wiser, and living in their truth. Capricorn women, on the other hand, aren't quite as bad, though these two might still struggle to understand each other.

Additionally, Sagittarius (of any gender) can be a very fun match for the Aquarius woman. They help her cut loose and have fun. But an Aquarius women might spend way too much time cleaning up Sagittarius’ mess, which can really sour the relationship.

Sex with a Aquarius Woman

Sex with an Aquarius is a lot like being in a hot box—get it? Because Aquarius is a fixed air sign (ba-dum-tiss). Okay seriously though, much like a hot box, once you’re in with an Aquarius woman, there’s no leaving because then all the air is let out!

You have to be comfortable with the fact that Aquarius is focused, which is something that carries into sex. They want eyes on them because that speaks to their need to feel appreciated in the bedroom. Even though they can be very good at keeping their cool, they’re very attentive in the bedroom because they care about ensuring the pleasure is mutual. If the vibes aren’t right, then it’s very unlikely that Aquarius is going to be able to perform. They aren’t going to go out their way to force a mood or make themselves comfortable with something they’re not. They can be a little slow to the act, however once they’re in the flow, you can be sure that they’ll put you onto the most unique sexual acts.

A First Date with an Aquarius Woman

With an Aquarius woman, the best idea is to do something original, so good luck! Activities like going to an escape room, a trivia session, or a museum is a good way to see how engaged they are in the date. Of course, these dates require a little bit of research, so make sure you take your time to get to know her.

There’s no need to rush dating an Aquarius woman—in fact, she might even appreciate that getting to know you was a slow and intentional process. Focus on getting to know her interests before hand. If she’s into wine, take her to a winery! If she loves ice cream, take her to the Museum of Ice Cream! The point is to figure out her interests and what she’s passionate about so you can be sure you’re taking her somewhere she’ll appreciate. That gives her the opportunity to show how much she knows–bonus points if you prepped for the date as well. There’s no need to rush or force anything with her. She’ll be able to catch the vibe.

All about Aquarius women

Aquarius is one of the oldest evolutions of the zodiac's energy, which is just a fancy way of saying Aquarius is an old fart. I’m kidding and astrologically incorrect— technically, farts are an expression of cardinal sign energy (sorry, Libra). Being part of the astrological geriatrics club, Aquarius is an energy that appreciates the maintenance of preservation of tradition. This sign is symbolized as the water-bearer, which makes sense because they hold the stories and emotions of so many around them.

While many people may struggle to manage their emotions, Aquarius’ plight in life is to learn how to be a vessel for their community. As the eleventh sign in the zodiac, Aquarius naturally finds itself within the house of community. So if you have any interest in being romantically involved with an Aquarius woman, you've gotta get with her friends. If you’ve noticed that your Aquarius crush has an interest in chess club, then you better move, queen. If your Aquarius lover is all about the revolution, then it’s unlikely that a relationship will work if you don't show at least a little interest in their mission.

As I mentioned, Aquarius’ modern ruler is the planet Uranus. Uranus is an outer planet, which means it is considered a generational planet—it stays in the same sign for about seven years, and entire generations share the same few Uranus signs. Generational planets are less about how we as individuals express ourselves, and more about how cohorts of people operate. And as an outer planet, Uranus represents how specific generations feel called to rebel and the chaotic energy that each generation will be faced with.

Having an understanding of your Aquarius babe’s personal beliefs and views will help you understand what they are passionate about. Aquarians are notable for being dissatisfied with society, and in many cases they can become frequent flyers or say f*ck it and buy a cabin in the woods. There’s no promise that an Aquarius is going to stick around for a long time, especially if they've already made their getaway plan. That being said, if you’re someone significant to them, they’ll always let you know where they are going.

Even though Aquarius can be slow to express their feelings, they are extremely caring. Regardless of gender, an Aquarius who believes in you will go above and beyond for you. If there’s something that you need or an opportunity that you have your eye on, Aquarius will do everything in their power to make your dreams come true. There's no rushing being in a relationship with an Aquarius—it requires a gradual development. If you have the patience to earn their loyalty, then you will have an advocate, associate, and community on your side.

That all being said, please don’t lose sight of the fact that your Aquarius boo will be a total weirdo. As Leo’s opposite zodiac sign, they stand out for all the reasons Leos don't. Leo wants to take the spotlight and knows how to play to the crowd’s appeals. Aquarius finds their lane and then play to the appeals of their specific subculture. You might never fully get an Aquarius and you don’t need to—they require acceptance, and not necessarily full understanding.

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