Christina Milian had to change her number and move across the country to escape her abuser. (Photo: Getty Images)
Christina Milian, singer and star of “Christina Milian Turned Up,” opened up last night on the show about the scary details of a past relationship that turned abusive.
“So I was 17 going into 18 and I met a boy, and he had this sarcasm about him that I just thought was super funny,” Christina said, according to E! online.
Unfortunately, the relationship quickly took a dark turn. Abuse often starts subtly and gets worse over time, according to the Mayo Clinic.
“When you’re in an abusive relationship, you’re fighting for your life every day,” Christina says. “It’s not just one moment.”
She shared a particularly scary moment, telling domestic violence survivor Tanya Williams, “I remember waking one morning and he was kicking me and stomping on me. It was over nothing. He accused me of lying about a boy. Then the violence escalated.”
The abuse didn’t stop there. Like many other abusers, he pointed a gun at his victim. “One time he played Russian roulette on me. He put one bullet in a gun and pointed it at my face,” Milian says. “When you have a gun in your face, all you can think about is your family and people who love you.”
To get out of danger, she had to move across the country and change all her contact information. “I cried the night I decided to leave,” she said. “The next morning, I took the first flight to New York, and asked my mom to have all my numbers and information changed before I landed.”
According to the Mayo Clinic’s report on domestic violence, you might be experiencing domestic violence if you’re in a relationship with someone who:
- Calls you names, insults you or puts you down
- Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school
- Prevents or discourages you from seeing family members or friends
- Tries to control how you spend money, where you go, what medicines you take or what you wear
- Acts jealous or possessive, or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
- Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
- Threatens you with violence or a weapon
- Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets
- Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will
- Blames you for his or her violent behavior, or tells you that you deserve it