Boomers are the reason for phone bans at weddings, Gen Z and Millennials say

A guest at a wedding ceremony taking a picture of the bride and groom with their phone
Couples are mandating a no phone rule during their wedding ceremonies to encourage guests to live in the moment and avoid the new-age inevitable: a sea of phones staring back at them from the pews.
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On your big day at the altar, you want to see your loved ones smiling back at you — not their phone cameras.

That’s just one reason why so many couples are saying “I do” to an unplugged wedding and enforcing a no-phone mandate — typically by way of the officiant requesting attendees to live “in the moment,” rather than through a screen.

Couples are mandating a no-phone rule during their wedding ceremonies to encourage guests to live in the moment and avoid the new-age inevitable: a sea of phones staring back at them from the pews. Alexandra – stock.adobe.com
Couples are mandating a no-phone rule during their wedding ceremonies to encourage guests to live in the moment and avoid the new-age inevitable: a sea of phones staring back at them from the pews. Alexandra – stock.adobe.com

“For the couple, it focuses the entire energy of the whole ceremony onto what’s actually happening and that sacred moment of the actual wedding,” photographer Jennifer van Son, who is based in Toronto, told Brides.

“The couple can look out at their guests and see smiling faces and their grandmother tearing up and their parents holding hands.”

According to a recent report from Zola, a wedding planner and registry platform, 75% of love birds are planning to have an “unplugged” wedding in 2024.

Some couples rely on the officiant to announce the no phone mandate before the bride walks down the aisle. Jamie – stock.adobe.com
Some couples rely on the officiant to announce the no phone mandate before the bride walks down the aisle. Jamie – stock.adobe.com
“The couple would rather have their memories captured by me with my camera than by their mom’s neighbor with her iPhone 7,” said LaRosa. Halfpoint – stock.adobe.com
“The couple would rather have their memories captured by me with my camera than by their mom’s neighbor with her iPhone 7,” said LaRosa. Halfpoint – stock.adobe.com

But contrary to popular belief, it isn’t the screen-obsessed Zoomers ruining the fun by holding their phones up like they’re at a concert. In fact, it’s the “boomers” who are snapping grainy pictures to likely boast on Facebook after the reception, even at the cost of ruining the professional photographs — which cost a pretty penny.

Younger generations “get phone etiquette in a way that older generations don’t always,” even when amateur photography isn’t prohibited, Willa, a recent bride who did not disclose her last name, told The Guardian.

“Baby boomers — especially family — want to make sure everything is documented,” said her now-husband, Ethan.

Wedding photographers, like NYC-based Sylvie Rosokoff, have worked dozens of “unplugged” weddings in recent years.

Meghan LaRosa, a wedding photographer from New Jersey, told The Guardian that she sees it “more often than not,” which makes her job that much easier on the momentous occasion.

Boomers, a pair of newlyweds admitted, are the biggest offenders of disrupting the ceremony with photos. nataliakabliuk – stock.adobe.com
Boomers, a pair of newlyweds admitted, are the biggest offenders of disrupting the ceremony with photos. nataliakabliuk – stock.adobe.com

Where the mugs of guests might have been obscured by their smartphones, her photos are now undisrupted by the technology that would otherwise stick out like a sore thumb.

“I’ll be seeing their actual faces and not their phones,” LaRosa said.

“The couple would rather have their memories captured by me with my camera than by their mom’s neighbor with her iPhone 7.”