These Sexy ‘Never Have I Ever’ Questions Will Heat Up Game Night
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"Never Have I Ever" is kind of the perfect impromptu party game. Whether you're having a wine night with friends, chilling with your family, or hanging out one-on-one with your S.O., the game is ideal for almost every occasion, mostly because you can tweak the rules (and change the questions) depending on where you are and who you're playing with.
In the vein of "Would You Rather" and "Two Truths and a Lie," Never Have I Ever is the perfect opportunity to get to know people a little bit better. (And, usually, have a laugh while doing it.) That said, it's totally normal if these tell-alls make you a tad ~nervous~, too.
The key to overcoming any awkwardness: "Be willing to be vulnerable," says Janet Brito, PhD, a clinical psychologist based in Honolulu, Hawaii. The game gets better the more you trust your crew, so "give yourself permission to take some risks and share more intimate details of yourself," she adds. After all, the goal of Never Have I Ever isn't necessarily to win. It's to learn more about your fellow players.
If you’re playing with a partner or hookup, the game could have some pretty interesting benefits, too—and lead to some important convos. It “might give you an insight into their limits, their boundaries, their propensity for risk-taking or sensation-seeking, whether they may be impulsive, whether their openness isn't in sync with yours,” says licensed clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, PhD, author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?.
Meet the Experts:
Janet Brito, PhD, is a clinical psychologist based in Honolulu, Hawaii.
Raina Wadhawan, LMHC, is a psychotherapist based in New York, New York.
Mary McNaughton-Cassill, Ph,D is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at San Antonio.
Ramani Durvasula, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and the author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?.
Now that you're a little more mentally prepped for the game, let's do a deep dive into some specifics! Keep reading for a complete list of alllll the "Never Have I Ever" rules and questions you'll need for just about every crowd.
'Never Have I Ever' Rules:
This game is pretty light and easy when it comes to the rules—that’s part of the reason why it’s so popular. To play, everyone takes a turn saying, “Never have I ever [insert an experience].” Whoever has done it, should take a sip of their drink. If no one does, the person who asked the question has to drink.
If your group isn’t big on drinking, you can play by putting up 10 fingers and dropping a finger if you’ve done whatever “never have I ever” statement has been said.
The biggest “rule” is to be honest.
If you're playing with people you just met...
Playing this game with new people can definitely help you get to know them better, but it can also be nerve-wracking if you're the anxious type. "People with social anxiety have a persistent, and chronic fear of being judged by others," says Raina Wadhawan, LMHC, a psychotherapist based in New York. That said, don't freak! Just take a deep breath and ask these questions to break the ice and get the game going.
Never have I ever jumped in a pool with all my clothes on.
Never have I ever stayed out past three in the morning.
Never have I ever lived completely alone.
Never have I ever been fired from a job.
Never have I ever watched TV for the entire day.
Never have I ever broken a bone.
Never have I ever faked sick to miss school or work.
Never have I ever re-gifted a gift.
Never have I ever blocked a friend on social media.
Never have I ever had to give a speech in front of a crowd.
Never have I ever run a marathon.
Never have I ever lifted weights for a workout.
Never have I ever gone viral online.
Never have I ever gotten a tattoo.
Never have I ever done jury duty.
Never have I ever saved someone's life.
Never have I ever made a recipe from a blog.
Never have I ever seen a famous person on the street.
Never have I ever sent back a meal at a restaurant.
Never have I ever regretted an apology.
Never have I ever lied about my age.
Never have I ever told a lie to my best friend.
Never have I ever traveled outside of the country.
Never have I ever pulled an all-nighter during school.
Never have I ever made up a story to impress someone.
Never have I ever smoked weed.
Never have I ever marched in a protest.
Never have I ever fallen asleep at work.
Never have I ever been hospitalized.
Never have I ever performed onstage.
Never have I ever lied about my height.
Never have I ever stayed up all night.
Never have I ever broken the five-second rule.
Never have I ever watched an entire TV marathon.
Never have I ever Googled someone before a date.
Never have I ever been in a talent show.
Never have I ever had a wardrobe malfunction.
Never have I ever gotten stitches.
If you're playing with your family...
You must know everything about family members, right? Well, maybe. "It is easy to make assumptions about people you think you know," says Mary McNaughton-Cassill, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at San Antonio. Chances are you've still got some blindspots, so use this game as a chance to learn even more about your fam. Need some inspo? These "Never Have I Ever" questions will definitely get th convo flowing between you and your sibs, parents, cousins, and more.
Never have I ever lied to my parents about where I was going.
Never have I ever bought my sibling something I wasn't supposed to.
Never have I ever forgotten a family member's birthday.
Never have I ever snuck out of the house.
Never have I ever stolen money from a family member.
Never have I ever peed outside.
Never have I ever binged an entire Netflix series in one day.
Never have I ever used my parent's Netflix password.
Never have I ever stolen clothes from a sibling.
Never have I ever pretended to be asleep so I didn't need to help with something.
Never have I ever showed up tipsy to a family function.
Never have I ever worn dirty underwear.
Never have I ever worn the same workout clothes two days in a row.
Never have I ever fed the dog from the table.
Never have I ever read an entire book in one day.
Never have I ever not studied for a test.
Never have I ever re-watched old home videos.
Never have I ever had someone at my parent's house without them knowing.
Never have I ever cooked a meal for the entire family.
Never have I ever spit out my food when the person who made it wasn't looking.
Never have I ever stolen a parent's credit card.
Never have I ever been to a Disney park.
Never have I ever gotten in a physical fight with a sibling.
Never have I ever made a sibling cry on purpose.
Never have I ever bought a bouquet of flowers for someone.
Never have I ever been someone else’s alibi.
Never have I ever won more than $100 in gambling.
Never have I ever used a fake ID.
Never have I ever cut my own hair.
Never have I ever snuck booze from my parents.
Never have I ever not washed my hands after using the bathroom.
Never have I ever crashed a wedding.
Never have I ever blamed a fart on the dog.
Never have I ever secretly returned a family member's gift.
Never have I ever accidentally set a meal on fire.
Never have I ever danced in the rain.
Never have I ever lost my shoes while I was out.
Never have I ever been dumpster diving.
Never have I ever thrown up in public.
If you're playing with your friends...
Playing "Never Have I Ever" with your BFFs is definitely easier than with family or strangers. That said, you still gotta be actively open. "Intimacy requires give and take, so you have to be willing to share things about yourself if you want them to share, too," McNaughton-Cassill explains. Noted! Now, let's get into the questions:
Never have I ever gone skinny-dipping.
Never have I ever cheated on a test.
Never have I ever lied about work to get out of social plans.
Never have I ever unshared my location with a friend.
Never have I ever had a crush on a friend's partner.
Never have I ever gotten arrested.
Never have I ever received free drinks at a bar.
Never have I ever kissed more than one person in 24 hours.
Never have I ever been on a cruise ship.
Never have I ever made up a story about someone that wasn't real.
Never have I ever stalked an ex-partner on social media.
Never have I ever gone to a bar or club completely alone.
Never have I ever paid for everyone else's dinner.
Never have I ever caught my ex-partner cheating on me.
Never have I ever baked my own bread.
Never have I ever thrown a surprise party.
Never have I ever received an anonymous gift.
Never have I ever gone to a rave or music festival.
Never have I ever been invited on stage at a concert.
Never have I ever appeared on a TV show.
Never have I ever called in sick on my period.
Never have I ever ordered pizza after midnight.
Never have I ever eaten somebody else's leftovers.
Never have I ever complained about a roommate.
Never have I ever slept in my roommate's bed.
Never have I ever drunk texted an ex.
Never have I ever peed in a pool.
Never have I ever fallen for someone while dating someone else.
Never have I ever sent myself flowers.
Never have I ever sent a drink to a stranger.
Never have I ever fudged my resume.
Never have I ever been naked in public.
Never have I ever been a bridesmaid.
Never have I ever flashed someone.
Never have I ever cut in line.
Never have I ever walked in on my parents.
Never have I ever told a secret I knew I shouldn’t.
Never have I ever slept in my car.
Never have I ever given someone bad advice on purpose.
If you're playing with your romantic interest...
Let's admit it: Playing "Never Have I Ever" with your crush or partner(s) can be *very* fun. Like, what better time is there to be flirty and find out sexy details about them? "Ask a variety of questions," Brito suggests. "Start with lighthearted questions, then lead to more intimate ones." You ready? Here are all the "Never Have I Ever" questions to ask when you're playing with that special someone.
Never have I ever dated someone for more than one year.
Never have I ever lived with a significant other.
Never have I ever dated someone more than five years older than me.
Never have I ever dated someone more than five years younger than me.
Never have I ever slept outside for an entire night.
Never have I ever dated someone famous.
Never have I ever dated a friend's ex.
Never have I ever been in love.
Never have I ever snooped on my partner's phone.
Never have I ever snooped on an ex's new partner.
Never have I ever lied to a significant other.
Never have I ever cheated on someone.
Never have I ever read an S.O.'s journal or emails.
Never have I ever held a grudge for several months.
Never have I ever had a friend with benefits.
Never have I ever been on a blind date.
Never have I ever slid into someone’s DMs.
Never have I ever lied about being in a relationship.
Never have I ever dated someone who has been on reality TV.
Never have I ever stood someone up on a date
Never have I ever been in a situationship.
Never have I ever said “I love you” and not meant it.
Never have I ever lied to get out of a date.
Never have I ever used a dating app.
Never have I ever been in an open relationship.
Never have I ever experienced love at first sight.
Never have I ever been proposed to.
Never have I ever dated two people at the same time.
Never have I ever gone through my partner's search history.
If you want to make things sexier...
Whether you're playing with close friends, your partner(s), or at a party, "Never Have I Ever" can definitely get a little TMI. If the game has taken that kind of turn, here are a few questions to offer up. Just remember not to read too much into your S.O. or crush's answers, and to communicate afterwards if anything surprises you. “You wouldn't want to overgeneralize from it—but it may lead to some interesting conversations,” says Durvasula.
Never have I ever had sex outside.
Never have I ever had a threesome.
Never have I ever made out with someone in a movie theater.
Never have I ever had sex in public.
Never have I ever been to a sex toy shop.
Never have I ever slept with someone in a roommate's bed.
Never have I ever used [insert sex toy].
Never have I ever had anal sex.
Never have I ever gone to a strip club.
Never have I ever role-played.
Never have I ever given a lap dance.
Never have I had FaceTime sex.
Never have I ever sent nude pictures.
Never have I ever hooked up with someone significantly older.
Never have I ever said the wrong name in bed.
Never have I ever gotten a nude text.
Never have I ever gotten a hickey.
Never have I ever been injured in bed.
Never have I ever paid for porn.
Never have I ever gone commando.
Never have I ever faked an orgasm.
Never have I ever slept with an ex.
Never have I ever been caught having sex.
Never have I ever gone to a nude beach.
Never have I ever sexted the wrong person.
Never have I ever made a sex tape.
Never have I ever had sex on the beach.
Never have I ever joined the mile high club.
Never have I ever had a sex dream about a friend.
Never have I ever acted out a sexy fantasy.
Alright, now that you've got literally all the "Never Have I Ever" questions in the world at your disposal, it's time to put these into action. Have fun!
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