Best Sex Toys for Men and Women to Enjoy Together or Solo
Sex toys may be one of the best inventions of the modern age. They help you get to know yourself, and actually have a ton of benefits — besides the big Obvious one. Although bringing one into the bedroom can sometimes feel awkward, there are many great sex toys for men and women to use together or alone, so there's no need to feel bashful.
Case in point, the VIM Wand. Recently launched by Fun Factory, the first weighted rumble wand offers a sensational experience that can be enjoyed solo or with a partner.
Water-resistant, rechargeable and with a slightly flexible head, the vibrating wand offers five speeds, plus three patterns — all customizable — designed to blow you and your partner's socks off — metaphorically speaking.
Before getting more into detail about the VIM Wand (which you can pre-order now), let's briefly discuss some of the benefits of sex toys, and how they can be used to enhance your sexual wellness.
What are the best sex toys for men and women to use together?
Best overall sex toy for men and women to use together : VIM Wand
best sex pillow sex toy for men and women to use together : Liberator Humphrey Toy Mount Sex Pillow
Best vibrator sex toy for men and women to use together : Volta
best small sex toy for men and women to use together : Je Joue Mimi Vibrator
best we-vibe vibrator sex toy for men and women to use together : We-Vibe Chorus App and Remote Control Couple's Vibrator
Best sex toy kit for men and women to use together : Ride & Vibe Sex Toy Kit
Best flexible sex toy for couples : Dame Pom Flexible Vibrator
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What are the health benefits of sex toys?
Although their purpose seems straightforward, sex toys can play an important role in sexual wellness.
As you may already know, there are a variety of things that can throw a kink into one's sex life: low libido, vaginal dryness, medication — the list goes on. Finding the right adult toy can help alleviate some of these issues.
In 2022, Dr. Alexandra Dubinskaya, a Cedars-Sinai physician-scientist gave a presentation at the 117th Annual Scientific Meeting of the American Urological Association (AUA) about the benefits of vibrators on women's pelvic health.
“Only recently has the stigma of using vibrators for sexual pleasure started to fade,” said Dubinskaya. "However, vibrator use remains taboo—despite providing a variety of potential health benefits.”
Some of the benefits of vibrators to a woman's sexual health include improved pelvic floor function, as well as pelvic muscle tone. This can reduce incontinence and the inconvenience that accompanies it. The sex toys have also been shown to improve vulvodynia (vulvar pain), and help with overall sexual function.
(Suggested reading: Can Sex Toys Reduce Your Menopause Symptoms?)
Although often marketed as devices for women, men can also benefit from sex toys, including vibrators.
VIM Wand, for example, has a variety of intensities. On its lowest setting, it's gentle enough to be placed at a man's perineum. This can not only help to sustain an erection but aid in climax.
Sex toys can help men with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low libido and other concerns that can make intimacy uncomfortable. Like with women, they can be used with a partner or alone, and may help one become more comfortable with their body and overall sexuality.
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VIM Wand
Best overall sex toy for men and women to use together
Pre-order from Fun Factory, $169
Why we like it:
Gentler on hand, and quieter than other wands on the market!
Customizable settings
30 percent lighter than competitors
5 speeds, 3 patterns to enjoy
Most people know about that "other" wand, which definitely has a reputation that proceeds it. And if you've experienced it, you know it can be a lot ... and heavy...and loud! What makes the VIM Wand the best sex toy for men and women is that it gives that magical wand pleasure in a far more efficient, modern way.
The first weighted rumble wand, the weight and vibration of the device is in the head. This not only means it's gentler on the hand and wrist but that it's ideal for those with joint issues in this area. The neck is slightly flexible — another aspect of the design your body is going to appreciate — and the head is ribbed to hold your favorite lubricant. (In our opinion, everything is better with lube.)
If you're ultra sensitive, you may have found other wands too intense for you or your partner. However, the VIM Wand may make you a convert with its customizable vibrations and full range of speed. To warm up, go with the lower settings to stimulate nerve endings without overpowering them. They're great to work with in foreplay sessions or if you need help getting fully aroused. The plus and minus signs on the wand allow for vibrations to be adjusted, regardless of what speed you're at, so you really can design the pleasure experience you're after.
The VIM Wand is wireless, made with body safe materials and water-resistant — great for shower play! Also, it's 50 percent quieter than other wands, so you can still enjoy some private time, even when your home is chaotic.
Liberator Humphrey Toy Mount Sex Pillow
best sex toy pillow for men and women to use together
Why we like it:
Easily mounts any type of sex toy
Washable cover made from hypoallergenic material
Vibrators are not the only sex toys for men and women to enjoy together or alone. Many enjoy the sensation of grinding and this sex pillow is far more hygienic than other high traffic surfaces, such as a mattress. The cover is washable, plus it has a place to hold your sex toy of choice. The pillow's foam core is firm and can hold up to two people comfortably, and the soft, removable cover is latex-free.
Promising review: "The Humphrey toy mount pillow does exactly what I wanted. It holds toys in place, freeing up hands for other activities, and raises the height of the toy, making things easier for me."
Volta
Best vibrator sex toy for men and women to use together
Award winning!
Why we like it:
Loop handles for controlled use
Travel lock
Color options
Great for oral
Planning a getaway for two? Don't forget to pack the Volta. Besides having a travel friendly lock — there's nothing less sexy than being stopped at customs — the external vibrator has fluttering tips that are absolutely titillating for both men and women. Made for the major erogenous zones, there are six speeds and six patterns to play with, so don't be afraid to get adventurous. If you're curious about ways to enjoy, check out all the helpful tips on Fun Factory's product page. It will definitely get your creative juices flowing!
Promising review: "As we grew older, my husband and I found our sex lives greatly diminished from falling testosterone, estrogen [and] the way some medications affect libido. Enter sex toys. OMG…what a game changer. I ordered the Volta along with another toy because it could be used by both my husband and me, solo and together. Best.Orgasms.Ever. It also introduced play into our sex lives. We’re still discovering the many ways to use this extraordinary toy. Not only has the Volta brought pleasure back into our sex lives, it’s brought us closer together again. Can’t recommend highly enough!"
Je Joue Mimi Vibrator
best small sex toy for men and women to use together
Why we like it:
5 vibration settings and 7 pulsation patterns
Quiet
Waterproof, even when fully submerged
If you're not comfortable bringing a large sex toy into the bedroom, maybe this unassuming vibrator will set the mood. It has seven pulsation patterns, plus five vibration settings to go between. It's also waterproof! Use alone for some sexy private time or use with a partner. It's perfect for clitoral stimulation, as well as to target the perineum — whatever your pleasure.
Promising review: "This is the first toy I have purchased and it really does the job. It's simple and sleek in design, easy to clean and handle."
We-Vibe Chorus App and Remote Control Couple's Vibrator
best we-vibe vibrator sex toy for men and women to use together
Why we like it:
10 vibration settings
Waterproof, and comes in a variety of colors
Great for solo or couples
Mismatched schedules keeping you and your love apart? The We-Vibe Chorus with the free We-Vibe app allows your partner to control the vibration from anywhere in the world, no matter how far apart you are. Can it be used alone? Absolutely, but the real fun happens when another plays, so don't be shy about gifting to your sweetie. If anything this tech feels the opposite of sexy, rest assured that the super-helpful manual and website make quick start a breeze.
Promising review: "Perfect toy to spice things up and feels amazing for both of us."
Dame Pom Flexible Vibrator
Best flexible sex toy for couples
Why we like it:
Flexible design fits your body's shape and movements
5 patterns and intensities
Gorgeous design
It's easy to see why the Pom vibrator is one of Dame's bestsellers. Along with fitting in the palm of your hand, it's super soft and flexible, conforming to your body's unique shape. Use the intuitive controls to adjust the intensity and pattern settings to your liking (or have your partner do it!), and be prepared to bliss out. Another feature we love about the Pom is that it's on the quieter side, so you can enjoy the moment without distraction.
Promising review: "Amazing, soooo velvety, flexible, and tiny. I haven’t had a new toy in probably 10 years (I know sad). This was a perfect . Great orgasm during sex! Perfect for together and on your own!"
Ride & Vibe Sex Toy Kit
Best sex toy kit for men and women to use together
Buy from Fun Factory, $149.99 (was $169.99)
Why we like it:
Internal and external play
Includes 2 bestselling sex toys
Comes with game to ignite new ideas for partner play!
This spicy kit is the perfect for couples (and singles!) who want to initiate some adult fun. The Ride & Vibe comes with not one but two of Fun Factory's bestselling sex toys, and both will delight. First let's discuss the Limba Flex. Like its name suggest, the dildo is flexible, thanks to its inner wire, and can be bent into whatever shape that feels best to you. It works with most strap-on harnesses, and can be used in vaginal or anal play. Next up is the Nos, the vibrating C-ring. The mind-blowing device allows for clitoral and penile stimulation at once, meaning both you and your partner can arrive at the finale together. And of course, the toys can be enjoyed alone. A fun questions and answers game is included too, so you'll have no shortage of ideas of new moves to try.
