The minute you start embracing your natural kinks and curls, people’s reactions to you become a broken record. They might approach you with personal questions or sometimes even offensive remarks (we’ll get into that in a sec, folx). Asking a black woman with natural hair if she cares for it, if it’s hers, or if you can touch it, among other things, contributes to the culture of exoticizing and othering black women and their beauty. Black women are powerful, beautiful, and deserve the space and consideration anyone else would have with how they present themselves to the world.
So on behalf of all the girls with ‘fros, puh-leeze chill on the following:
1. “Is that your real hair?”
Does it matter? It’s FABULOUS!
Everyone has a different relationship with their hair and for some this is a pretty personal question, especially if you’re just approaching someone on the street to compliment them. Best advice: admire them with a smile and respect everyone’s right to their own beauty secrets.
2. “How do you get your hair to do that?”
Sure, there are a ton of techniques for natural hair, but they’re more about helping your hair do better what it does naturally. So all that gravity-defying glory is just our hair doing its thing.