Doug Emhoff Says "I May Be the First Second Gentleman, but I Know I Won’t Be the Last"

From Oprah Magazine

• On January 20, Joe Biden and his running mate, Kamala Harris, were sworn in as President and Vice President of the United States.

• When Harris was on the 2020 campaign trail herself, we learned more about her husband, lawyer Douglass Emhoff.

• Here are some key facts about Emhoff, who will make his own history as the country's first second gentleman.

After Vice President Kamala Harris officially announced her campaign for the 2020 Democratic presidential race last year, it was natural for Americans to have some questions about her as a potential candidate. And though she dropped out on December 3, on August 11, now-President Joe Biden selected her to be his VP running mate—and on November 7, the pair was elected to the White House, making Harris America's first Black woman and first Asian American vice president.

What's her background? What committees does she sit on? (We've got those answers here, if you're curious.) But aside from all of that, the historic news sparked our interest in her personal life—particularly when it comes to her devoted husband, Douglas Emhoff.

And Emhoff is clearly a supportive spouse. Upon the news of the win, he immediately tweeted, "So proud," with a sweet photo embracing his wife.

Not to mention that he describes himself in his Twitter bio as "Devoted dad. Proud husband to @KamalaHarris. Advocate for justice and equality." In November, the New York-bred lawyer announced that he would leave his job at a law firm to carry out his duties as the nation's first-ever second gentleman—a role that he is deeply honored to fill. "It reminds me of a story Kamala likes to tell about her mother Shyamala, who would always say to her daughters, 'You may be the first, but you better not be the last,'" he said in an article for GQ. "I want that to be true of me, too. I may be the first second gentleman, but I know I won’t be the last."

But that won't be Emhoff's only new job: Like First Lady Dr. Jill Biden, Emhoff will teach. In January 2021, Emhoff will join the faculty at Georgetown University Law Center, where he'll teach a two-credit course on entertainment law disputes. "I've long wanted to teach and serve the next generation of young lawyers," Emhoff said in a statement. "I couldn't be more excited to join the Georgetown community."

And, of course, he'll also be supporting the vice president's career. “Our relationship and the way I roll, my whole life has just been to support the people I love unequivocally, and they support me," he told Marie Claire. "The whole thing has been based on parity and mutual respect.”

And she returns the sentiment. "I love my husband," Harris once told Now This. "He is funny. He is kind. He is patient. He loves my cooking. He's just a really great guy."

With those endearing words in mind, we learned more about Harris's husband, Douglass Emhoff.

Douglas Emhoff is a lawyer—turned second gentleman and professor.

Born in Brooklyn, New York and a graduate of the University of Southern California's law school, up until recently, Emhoff was a litigator and partner at DLA Piper Law Firm, where he worked out of both their California and D.C. offices with a specialty in entertainment and intellectual property law. According to the firm's site, his accomplishments include "representing the rights holders of a famous animated character in copyright and trademark disputes," and the defense of a "prominent former NFL and Olympic athlete in a civil action brought by the SEC."

However, days after his wife's historic election, he announced he would leave his private law practice to focus on his new role of second gentleman, though Harris joked during an interview with CNN's Jake Tapper, that she'll "call him 'honey.'"

He also has a brand new Twitter account with the handle @SecondGentleman, with a bio that reads: "Future Second Gentleman Douglas Emhoff. Devoted dad. Proud husband to Vice President-elect Harris."

And while we have yet to learn exactly what causes he'll put his weight behind, we do know that he'll take his cues from all the women that have come before him. "Here’s the truth: generations of women before me have used this platform to advocate for causes they believe in and build trust in our institutions at home and abroad—often without much accolade or acknowledgment," he wrote in GQ. "It’s on their shoulders I stand. And it’s their legacy of progress I will try to build on as second gentleman."

But that won't be the only title Emhoff will be adding to his already impressive résumé. In December, Georgetown University Law Center announced that Emhoff would be joining the faculty of the Washington, D.C.-based university, where he'll teach a two-credit course on entertainment law disputes. "Doug is one of the nation’s leading intellectual property and business litigators, and he has a strong commitment to social justice," Georgetown Law Dean William M. Treanor said in a statement. "I know our students will greatly benefit from his experience and insight, and I am eagerly looking forward to his arrival."

He has two children from his previous marriage—Cole and Ella.

The 56-year-old—who was born just seven days before his wife, also 56, on October 13—has two kids with his ex-wife, Kerstin. According to a March 2018 Vogue article about Harris, his son Cole is a graduate of Colorado College, while his younger daughter Ella studies at Parsons School of Design.

The two affectionately call their stepmother "Momala" and, according to THR, she wore Converse and brought cookies when she first met them.

In an article for Elle, Harris wrote that she and Kerstin "are dear friends" and said that "our modern family is almost a little too functional." The presidential candidate continued to open up about what her family means to her.

Emhoff and Kamala Harris met on a blind date.

The two were set up by one of the senator's close friends, PR consultant Chrisette Hudlin.

"He said something to the effect of ‘She’s really hot,’" Hudlin told Marie Claire of Emhoff's thoughts on the politician before they even started dating. “He was complimenting her, and at the same time he was admiring her, and I liked that."

Marie Claire also reports that the morning after their first date, he emailed Harris: “I really like you.” After nearly a year of dating, the San Francisco Chronicle reported that they were engaged on March 27, 2014. The proposal was intimate and low key, with Emhoff getting down on one knee at Harris's California apartment and presenting her with a diamond and platinum engagement ring.

Kamala and Doug had a courthouse wedding.

Since the politician had said she did not believe in long engagements, they were married a little over four months after their engagement in a private ceremony at the Santa Barbara Courthouse, according to The Chronicle. They wrote their own vows, and to recognize Emhoff's faith, the two honored a time-tested Jewish tradition and broke a glass. It was also a family affair, with her niece reading the poem, "Touched by an Angel" by Maya Angelou and Harris' sister, Maya Harris West, acting as officiant.

This August 22 will mark their five-year wedding anniversary. "Happy anniversary to the man who always knows how to make me laugh," she said in a celebratory Instagram post last year. "Love you."

He helped escort a protestor off-stage during one of Harris's appearances.

On June 1, as Harris was on stage speaking at the MoveOn Big Ideas Forum, an animal rights activist rushed the stage, snatching away the senator's microphone in an effort to speak to the crowd. Harris was unharmed and quickly walked off the stage. But along with a handful of others, Emhoff was quick to react, jumping up onto the platform to help drag the protester away. You can catch the intense moment above.

But all was well, as he later tweeted that day: "Thx for all the kind notes. We are good. I love ⁦@KamalaHarris and would do anything for her."

He has a few fun hobbies.

According to Vogue, Emhoff loves to golf and play fantasy football. He even had a team named Nirvana after the 90s grunge band. Oh, and we have to mention his seriously impressive "dad dance moves" that he showed off while accompanying his wife at San Francisco Pride 2019.

"If I can do these dad moves with my dad bod, then hopefully you all can help @KamalaHarris finish 2Q fundraising as strong as possible! Please go to: (link: http://kamalaharris.org) kamalaharris.org thx!" he tweeted.

But in addition to his pastimes, he's known to help out his wife—whose favorite thing to do in her leisure time is cook. "I've gotten pretty handy in the kitchen as her sous-chef," he told the magazine. Point proven by Harris' adorable caption in the Instagram post featured above.

Emhoff has his own social media hashtag.

As his popularity grew on the campaign trail and he continued his fervent support of Harris online (we get into that next) Emhoff earned himself a mini fan club on Twitter called the #DougHive. If you explore the hashtag for yourself, you'll see a handful of encouraging messages for the entertainment lawyer.

He's more than ready to support Harris as our first second gentleman.

If his Twitter account is any indication, the lawyer is the ultimate hype-man we all deserve in a partner. When Harris was running for president, a hefty percent of his tweets were related to her, from promoting her new book:

...to spotting her on TV.

He also rocked her campaign swag...

...and captured her on the trail.

Of course, his response to his wife's announcement that she was entering the 2020 race was adorable.

And he stepped up when she made the difficult decision to drop out of the running for president in December 2019. “She made that decision, and I would have supported whatever she decided,” Emhoff told Marie Claire. “But I’m not her political adviser. I’m her husband. And so my role was to be there for her, to love her, to have her back, to talk it through, to help her.”

And he's fully prepared to support her in her role. "I found that as I began dipping my toe into Kamala’s world, it brought us even closer together," he said in the article for GQ. "I realized how much of yourself you leave on the trail, how much these stories weigh on you, and—though I couldn’t imagine it possible before this—I grew to understand and admire who she is and what she’s been able to accomplish even more."

Now that's relationship goals. And in case you needed any more proof of his dedication, we leave you with this tweet:

"Can confirm: We met, fell madly in love (still are), got married and continue to live very happily ever after."

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