6 reasons why yelling at kids doesn’t work
LANSING, Mich. (WLNS) – It’s Parenting Connection Tuesday and 6 News is here for you with tips, strategies, and helpful reminders from child development experts on how we can be better parents and guardians.
Today’s topic: 6 reasons why yelling at kids doesn’t work.
I’ve done it, and will likely do it again… and that’s yell at my kids. It’s almost a natural reaction when I see them doing something dumb I want to stop. Experts say, yelling does work when parents are trying to immediately warn their kids about something dangerous, like playing too close to traffic or near a hot stove, but it doesn’t work when using it to discipline.
A recent report on Parents.com shows that when parents yell at their kids to discipline, the overall feeling children get is that mom and dad are just mad at them, and ultimately, it backfires because the reason why parents yelled in the first place gets lost in the shuffle. In fact, according to Dr. Laura Markham, yelling is about releasing anger and not an effective way to change behavior.
Here are 6 reasons why yelling at kids doesn’t work:
Kids Can’t Learn in “Fight-or-Flight Mode”
Yelling can make your children feel devalued and hurt
Studies show yelling at your kids can fuel anxiety, depression, and lower self-esteem
Yelling can interfere with bonding
Long-term yelling can have negative impacts on children
Yelling is not effective communication
Experts say, that not yelling at your kids takes some work, so at first, try and calm yourself down when there is a yell about to come out. Then, once calm, approach the situation mindfully so that your kids can better understand and fix their behavior.
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