We’ll let you in on a secret: Any sex toy is a couples’ sex toy if you try hard enough (or just get creative enough). And with the weekend coming up, you've got a great excuse to get busy in bed. However, even though you can make a couples' toy out of just about any toy, there are a slew of dedicated couples' sex toys created with the aim of pleasuring you both.
I'm Curious, But Don't Know How to Bring Up Sex Toys with My Partner
You might be surprised at how receptive your partner is to experimenting with a toy since lots of couples are using sex toys to enhance their experience and communication. Sex toy maker We-Vibe conducted a study of 1,000 men and women between the ages of 35 and 55 and found that 49 percent of couples that use vibrators together report communicating often, whether about sex toys or other topics. Added bonus: There's evidence that using toys together increases couples' ease with giving and getting direction from their partner in bed.
According to sex education experts, a neutral way to bring up sex toys is to mention a film or television show and ask, "What did you think about that scene in Broad City where Ilana...." Soumyadip Rakshit, founder of British sexual wellness firm MysteryVibe, suggests you "ease partners into the conversation about sex toys by sharing well-researched articles, especially in reputable outlets." Or you can simply say: "I was thinking about trying this toy with you and wanted to know what you thought." Anything that keeps the focus on mutual pleasure and playful curiosity is a great way to introduce toys in general or a specific one. And feel free to cite the pandemic: Toy sales have been up since March 2020, and couples are getting creative.
The Best Couples' Sex Toys at a Glance:
Remember when we said that any sex toy is a couples' sex toy? Well, that's true; the sky is the limit. From goddess pleasure balls to vibrators and bath salts, all types of toys are available for literally every kind of couple. But truth is, only you and your partner know what's actually best for you, considering each other's comfort levels and limitations. So with that in mind, here are the best 30 toys for all kinds of intimate thrills for beginners to sexperts.
Best Overall Couples' Sex Toy: Lelo Tor 2 Couples' Ring
Best Clitoral Stimulation Vibrator: Better Love Butterfly
Best Restraints: Fifty Shades of Grey Keep Still Over the Bed Cross Restraint
Best Remote Control Sex Toy: Lelo Hula Beads
Best for Long-Distance Couples: OhMiBod Esca 2
Best Bath Salts: Foria Intimacy Bath Salts
Best Rotation Feature for Couples: Zumio X
Most Innovative Couples' Sex Toy: Adorime G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator
Most Discreet Couples' Sex Toy: Crave Vesper Vibrator
Best Clip-On Feature for Couples: We-Vibe Couples Vibrator
Best Plugs for Couples: Annabelle Knight Oh My! Jeweled Plug Set
Best App-Controlled Couples' Sex Toy: We-Vibe Moxie
Best Hands-Free Couples' Sex Toy: Dame Eva II Hands-Free Vibrator
Most Bendable Couples' Sex Toy: MysteryVibe Crescendo
Best Blindfold for Couples: Dominix Deluxe Blindfold
Best Flogger for Couples: 'Fifty Shade of Grey' Please Sir Flogger
Best Insertable Sex Toy for Couples: Lelo Ida Couples' Vibrator
Most Travel-Friendly Couples' Sex Toy: Dame Fin Finger Vibrator
Most Versatile Couples' Sex Toy: Satisfyer Vibrator Toy
Best Kegel Balls for Couples: 'Fifty Shade of Grey' Inner Goddess Pleasure Balls
Best Suction Toy for Couples: Kiki De Montparnasse The Cloud Massager
Best Pillow for Couples: Dame Pillo Pillow
Best Vibrating Ring for Couples: Tenuto Wearable Vibrator for Men
Best Paddle for Couples: Adam & Eve's Eve Fetish Dream Spanking Paddle
Best Nipple Toy for Couples: Lovehoney Colorplay Nipple Suckers
Best Couples' Sex Toy for Him: Fun Factory Mantra
Best Couples' Sex Toy for Her: Lora Dicarlo Filare
Most Elegant Couples' Sex Toy: Bijoux Indiscrets Twenty One Vibrating Diamond
Best Vibrating Plug for Couples: Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Vibrating Plug
Best Massager Couples' Sex Toy: Le Wand Vibrating Massager
1. Lelo Tor 2 Couples' Ring
Best Overall Couples' Sex Toy
This matte green body-safe silicone ring fits over the penis, and has six speeds from a faint murmur to a strong pulse. It's meant to give pleasure to both partners, since the vibrating part stimulates the wearer and the partner. As one user writes: "My wife loves the many vibrations. Helps me maintain longer erections. Best yet, my wife loves the big Os." Oh, and it's waterproof and rechargeable.
2. Better Love Butterfly
Best Clitoral Stimulation Vibrator
If you're someone who gets the most pleasure from clitoral stimulation, this vibrator is for you. Use it in the bedroom with your partner to increase your climax, thank us later. Writes one satisfied customer, " This is the best toy I’ve ever purchased and I love toys. It definitely got the job done and quickly and it was a different sensation than the other toys I have."
3. Fifty Shades of Grey Keep Still Over the Bed Cross Restraint
BDSM is not for the faint of heart, but if it's you and your partner's cup of tea, these bed restraints will kick it up a notch. It has ankle and wrist cuffs and is inspired by the Fifty Shades of Grey books.
4. Lelo Hula Beads
Best Remote Control Sex Toy
These beads are remote controlled and will rotate and vibrate for the ultimate pleasure sensation. LELO claims these beads will offer a thrilling hands-free experience that "turns your whole body into a sensual dance floor," and we're not mad about it.
5. OhMiBod Esca 2
Best for Long-Distance Couples
Have your partner download the app so the intensity and pattern of this toy can be controlled from their fingertips while you have a virtual date. It has three vibration levels and four vibrational patterns.
6. Foria Intimacy Bath Salts
Best Bath Salts
Add a scoop of these bath salts to your tub to heighten sensations and get you ready for action. Foria sells three beautiful bath salts—Relief Salts, Wellness Salts and Intimacy Salts. Our reviewer tried all three separately, and while they're all luxurious and gorgeous smelling, she says the intimacy bath salts really take the cake. "Upon leaving the bath, my skin was super soft, I smelled great (thanks to ingredients like rose, kava, cacao, hemp and Himalayan salt) and I was honestly ready to get down in the sheets. Amazing."
7. Zumio X
Best Rotation Feature for Couples
"I am no stranger to high-end toys but the Zumio X is an absolute game changer—solo and especially with a partner," writes one user, who describes having intensified orgasms with it. This slender device uses rotation instead of the vibration that most handheld toys offer, resulting in more pinpointed stimulation. A small rotating head massages massage the clitoris, with eight speeds to choose from.
8. Adorime G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator
Most Innovative Couples' Sex Toy
This cheerful pink Y-shaped silicone vibrator gets high marks for versatility since its ergonomic shape and multiple settings make it adaptable to practically any erogenous zone. As one user explains, "there are seven settings for the top two heads, and seven settings for the shaft, making 49 different possible combinations of vibrating pleasure. You are sure to find the right combination(s) for yourself and your partner."
9. Crave Vesper Vibrator
Most Discreet Couples' Sex Toy
This teeny, portable vibrator has a rounded tip for exterior stimulation and a nearly 4-inch shaft for interior stimulation. It also has four speeds and two modes—but that’s not all. Meant to be worn as a necklace, you can easily slip it around your neck (and use it as a signal to let your partner know exactly what time it is).
10. We-Vibe Couples' Vibrator
Best Clip-On Feature for Couples
Clip this on your partner during intercourse for some clitorial and G-spot pleasure that you can also feel. Totally waterproof, this is a great toy to keep in the shower or bath. As one reviewer puts it, “You know you want it. Just get it. You won’t regret it. EVERYONE needs this.”
11. Annabelle Knight Oh My! Jeweled Plug Set
Best Plugs for Couples
Anal play can be the third rail in relationships, but this sparkly set of plugs might help charm a person into exploring new frontiers. "Its the perfect size if you're a new starter and feels amazing!" writes one reviewer. Plus, the two sizes included in this set means trying these out is less intimidating than a one-size-fits-all experience with a single plug.
12. We-Vibe Moxie
Best App-Controlled Couples' Sex Toy
For what's either a hot sexy time or the set-up for a sketch comedy routine (or perhaps both), we nominate the WeVibe Moxie remote and app control wearable clitoral panty vibrator. It's a 3.5-inch by 3-inch super skinny vibrator that fastens to your underwear via a super strong magnet, and a handheld remote that controls the speed and intensity of vibrations. And—this is the prestige, if you will—the panty vibrator can also be controlled via Bluetooth app from anywhere.
13. Dame Eva II Hands-Free Vibrator
Best Hands-Free Couples' Sex Toy
Made to be worn by a female, the Eva II is perfect for clitoral arousal during sex. It also features a hands-free design (the two wings can be tucked under the labia to stay in place), so you two can use those hands for...other stuff. Or, if you prefer, your partner can keep it still using only one finger. P.S. It’s also waterproof.
14. MysteryVibe Crescendo
Most Bendable Couples' Sex Toy
This bendable vibrator lets you indulge in a combination of old school creativity (you and your partner can bend it to whatever shape you want) and new tech gadgetry (there are six motors down the length of it controlled by an app with pre-set motions or your own sequencing). Clitoral, G-spot and perineum stimulation is all part of its tricks; there are so many, the makers came out with a deck of cards so you can collect all the sensations.
15. Dominix Deluxe Blindfold
Best Blindfold for Couples
Blindfolds are great for building tension and teasing your partner. This lightly padded one is a better option than the many flimsy versions on the market, and it has a buckle that keeps it in position far better than the satiny, slippery ribbons on other masks. "This blindfold does not move one bit. It keeps out all the light, feels comfortable on the wearer, is adjustable, made sturdy," writes one satisfied customer.
16. 'Fifty Shades of Grey' Please Sir Flogger
Best Flogger for Couples
This silver metallic faux leather whip is on the cuter end of the BDSM accessories spectrum but still will sting when playfully wielded. Take turns using it on each other for a buildup and pleasurable tingling experience. And at $29, consider this your Intro to Kink accessory without having to invest in spendy leather goods.
17. LELO Ida Couples' Vibrator
Best Insertable Sex Toy for Couples
This Lelo vibrator comes with a serious price tag—but it’s worth it, we promise. Made to be inserted, it will vibe for you both during sex, while giving her a little extra clitoral stimulation. Oh, and while it is remote controlled, it is possible to change the settings without it.
18. Dame Fin Finger Vibrator
Most Travel-Friendly Couples' Sex Toy
Each partner can take turns slipping this blue toy on their fingers and using it, well, wherever they’d like. This small-but-mighty vibrator can be used on three speed settings during both foreplay and sex. And, BTW, it’s definitely discrete enough to travel with.
19. Satisfyer Vibrator Toy
Most Versatile Couples' Sex Toy
See those two tiny buttons? They operate two separate motors (one upper and one lower), delivering the exact vibe you want, exactly where you want it. This Satisfyer tool can be worn 14 different ways, for women, men and couples. Hot tip: Make it a game to figure out all the uses for this sex toy before quarantine is over.
20. 'Fifty Shades of Grey' Inner Goddess Pleasure Balls
Best Kegel Balls for Couples
We learned what these are about in that literary trilogy about that fun couple Anastasia and Christian, when he turned her on to silver balls to slip inside her and walk around to discreetly tease her while building her pelvic floor. As Fifty Shades of Grey author E.L. James writes: "I flush from the constant movement of the silver balls. They weigh down inside me, massaging me internally and make me needy, needy for sex." Each of these weigh just under 4 ounces, and one reviewer reports, "I think these are some of the heavier balls available which is more of a challenge and more sensational for the wearer." It's the secret that it's inside that will help increase the sexy tension between you and your partner until they're taken out.
21. Kiki De Montparnasse The Cloud Massager
Best Suction Toy for Couples
This vibrator comes from luxury French lingerie designer Kiki De Montparnasse, and it's got an upscale feel to it—from its small size (only 5-inches by 1.5-inches) to maximum features: It has eight intensity levels and an air-puffing function for clitoral stimulation for couples or individuals. "Chic, discreet and very effective," writes one user, who adds that it comes with a little silk bag for discretion.
22. Dame Pillo Pillow
Best Pillow for Couples
By day, it's a mild-mannered wedge-shaped pillow among the collection on your bed. By night, it becomes a soft-yet-firm wedge that supports you in all sorts of positions. Fifteen inches wide and 18 inches deep, this pillow comes with a removable, washable cover. "Has transformed my sex life," one reviewer reports. "This not only allows for the woman to be supported and in the perfect positions, but it takes pressure off the man during oral sex especially. Highly recommended!"
23. Tenuto Wearable Vibrator for Men
Best Vibrating Ring for Couples
A unique design that is all about adding sensation for all parties involved, Tenuto is designed to stretch and adapt around the penis and perineum for increased blood flow, extended erection and long-lasting pleasure. You pull the sides of it apart to fit around a penis, and it vibrates before and during penetration, so scrotum, labia, shaft—it's all getting stimulated.
24. Adam & Eve Eve's Fetish Dreams Spanking Paddle
Best Paddle for Couples
Lightly padded diamond-stitched vegan leather, in basic black, complements the classic design of this paddle. At 13 inches long and 2.5-inches wide, it's not super-big and scary, and lightweight enough to wield for what its makers suggest: "Use it for gentle correction, caressing skin or serious spanking fantasies."
25. Lovehoney Colorplay Nipple Suckers
Best Nipple Toy for Couples
These devices suction the nipples for enhanced sensitivity and arousal. The suction is gently and delightfully stimulates for even more pleasure in the bedroom.
26. Fun Factory Manta
Best Couples' Sex Toy for Him
"I bought this after a session where my wife used her vibrator on my penis and found that I could orgasm from the sensation," writes one reviewer. "It makes sense if you just think of the penis being a big clitoris...a big source of pleasure." This device has two silicone wings that wrap around a man's penis, with ridges along the inside of the wings to hold lubricant in place for added sensation. Added bonus: It's suitable for solo and couples play.
27. Lora Dicarlo Filare
Best Couples' Sex Toy for Her
This little palm-sized device is meant to give women a new experience of oral sex, with little metal balls under the smooth silicone surface rising and falling to mimic a tireless tongue. Robot cunnilingus, anyone? Bonus: If your partner holds this against your naughty bits, they'll be able to enjoy your pleasure eye-to-eye at the same time as they're giving you (simulated) oral sex.
29. Bijoux Indiscrets Twenty One Vibrating Diamond
Most Elegant Couples' Sex Toy
On your nightstand, it looks like a cute golden diamond-shaped decorative object. But turn it on and cycle it through seven vibration patterns and three intensities, and it's mind-blowing as well as decorative. The 3-inch diameter device nestles in your palm and both the flat edge and tip can be used for stimulating both partners.
30. Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Vibrating Plug
Best Vibrating Plug for Couples
A novice user comments: "My partner and I wanted to try something new and thought we would give anal toys a go. This toy isn’t intimidating and really comfortable. Loads of settings to play with and really easy to use." It's three inches long and has three speeds and 17 patterns of vibration, and bonus, it's completely waterproof.
31. Le Wand Vibrating Massager
Best Massager Couples' Sex Toy
Remember that episode of Sex and City when Samantha's "neck" massager died at the worst possible moment? Well, we took two lessons from that: Massagers can be actual sex toys, and cordless and rechargeable ones are an absolute must. This one is ideal for couples experiencing sex toys for the first time. It's effortless to use: All you or your partner needs to do is use it on your erogenous zones. And it has a flexible neck and 20 vibration patterns to match your comfort level.
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