Chances are, you have a trusty vibrator you reach for on the regular. (If not, what are you waiting for, sis?!) But if that toy—or the backup one sitting next to it in your nightstand—isn't a remote-control vibrator, it's time to consider a new purchase.
“Remote-control vibrators allow you or a partner to adjust the speed and settings without reaching down between your legs,” says sex educator Jess O’Reilly, host of the @SexWithDrJess podcast.
Beyond that, having a that you can control remotely allows you to subtly excite your partner at unexpected moments—say, by fooling around with the remote when you're in a group setting (hello, foreplay).
"The element of surprise is an amazing addition to the bedroom, but it can be difficult to achieve without this feature," says Dominnique Karetsos, resident sex expert at next-level vibrator brand MysteryVibe.
Even cooler, you don’t even have to be in the same place as your partner when you use it. “Some app-enabled vibrators allow you to play with someone who is in another room or even on another continent,” O’Reilly points out. That's a game changer for people in long-distance relationships, or for those who travel often.
Oh, and last but not least? In certain positions, accessing manual buttons on a vibrator can be annoyingly difficult. "The ability to operate a vibrator remotely allows you to try more experimental positions while still experiencing maximum pleasure," Karetsos explains. Ah, thank G for technology.
So now that you know you WANT a remote-control vibrator, here are the 10 best ones out there to bring home...like, tonight:
Any We-Vibe is a couples favorite for a reason: You can use it manually or by the wireless remote controller, and it connects digitally to your or your partner's phone, so it's great for masturbation.
“I like the We-Vibe because you can program it to vibrate according to your preferred rhythm,” says O’Reilly. (That's by way of a smartphone app, btw.) Plus, it's "whisper quiet" so you don't have to worry about disturbing any, ahem, roommates.
Lelo Insignia Lyla 2
Insert this silicone, body-safe "love egg" into your vagina, and use the remote to put it to work. Or you could massage the vibrating egg around your lady bits for serious clitoral stimulation, like a trusty bullet.
If you haven't tried a Mystery Vibe, you're missing out. Unlike traditional vibrators, this one custom bends at various angles to pleasure anyone's anatomy, just the way you like it. No, seriously: It has 12 patterns and 16 intensity levels, so you can really experiment using the remote control.
"Since its introduction, we’ve had a hard time keeping this vibe in stock!" says Amy Boyajian, cofounder of online sexual wellness shop Wild Flower. "The Moxie is small, quiet, and discreet—yet powerful. It works by using a magnet to keep it in place on your underwear or clothing and either the remote or app controls on your phone." How fun!
My Secret Charged Remote Panty
Try not to let the skimpiness of these wearable vibrator undies discourage you: You can put the mini toy in the crotch of any pair of underwear, then slide the remote-control ring on your finger—or hand it off to your partner to play with in his or her pocket at a bar.
Want to experiment with anal play? Look no further than this remote control sex toy, which has a rotating-bead feature to create a rimming sensation that feels (kinda) like the real thing. Give control to your partner (literally), or—since this is your butt, after all—speed the vibration up slowly on your own. Just remember: lube.
Give your clit the love it deserves with this remote vibrator. The unique shape is perfect for wide or targeted stimulation. Plus, it's waterproof, so bring it in the shower for next-level fun.
Uprize Remote Control Realistic Vibrating Dildo
If you think about it, a vibrating dildo is a really smart thing to have a remote control. Because who wants to reach out around to push buttons on something while it's inside you? Have fun watching your partner go crazy as you control the pulsing intensity, or have even more fun penetrating yourself.
Maia Max Thrusting Dildo
Here's another vibrating dildo option, because why not? This one allows for handheld or suction-cup-assisted play, making penetrative solo sex easier.
"It can also be a great addition to partnered or group sex," says Boyajian. "The remote is simple and easy to use—and has a whopping 30-foot range!"
Paloqueth Vibrating Prostate Massager
If your partner is male, consider switching things up and giving this vibrator a go. It's designed to stimulate his prostate, a major source of pleasure for men. It offers different massage modes to suit whatever gets him going, all controlled by a wireless remote. Not to mention, it's totally waterproof, so the possibilities are endless...
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