The Best Sex Gifts, According to Sexperts
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Hunting down legitimate sex gifts online is like searching for a yellow dildo in a cornfield. No matter how hard you look, it’s never going to be precisely what you want to use in bed. Every other online publication approaches sex gifts as if they’re gag gifts. Folks, they aren’t the same. We’re not looking to buy a pack of 12 penis straws for a bachelorette party in Miami. We’re looking for an actual sexually-charged, romantic gift we can enjoy on a Friday night at home. Get the hint.
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Not every sex gift is built to get your rocks off, though. Some of the best sex-related gifts are a little more informational. You know, for learning. Others are built to make sex more comfortable and enjoyable for both partners. And while sex gifts might come off a little bit obtuse, buying one is an investment, quite literally, in the relationship and your partner will appreciate it.
What the Experts Say
“Some people are a little too timid (or have too much sexual shame) to buy themselves a sex gift, even if they really want one,” says Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and sex expert for Archer, a new dating app for queer men. “They really need someone else to purchase one for them.”
One note about consent, as it’s crucial for gift-giving in this sensitive arena. It’s important to be on the same page with somebody before handing over a cock ring wrapped in a bow. “If you want to maintain a level of surprise, ask your partner about various genres or types of sexy gifts,” says sex educators, podcast hosts, and co-authors of their new book Shameless Sex, April Lampert and Amy Baldwin. Sure, surprises can be sexy, but nobody wants to receive a set of electro-stimulated nipple tassels out of the blue if that’s never been something the two of you have spoken about in the past. Don’t insinuate or push your desires onto a person without chatting openly first. “Have they ever been interested in anything related to bondage? If it’s a new vibrator or toy, what kind of toy have they been wanting to try? From there, you can shop accordingly.”
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, so it’s time to brainstorm. Pick up some of the best sex gifts for 2024 below.
Talk, Flirt, Dare
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Let’s ease into this, shall we? There is nothing too obscene about a game, even if the content is a little risque. Talk, Flirt, Dare is a sexy game couples can play on their own terms. Learn more about the person you love with flirty questions, open conversations, and if the vibe is right, a dare or two to get the game going a little further. If you or your partner isn’t into something, simply skip it. It’s hard to go wrong here.
Eye of Love Confidence Pheromone Massage Oil Candle
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Massage oil candles are a great place for kink curious folks. Instead of using wax, this candle is made with body-safe ingredients such as shea butter to stimulate foreplay with a hot, drippy massage. Massage candles are ideal for couples fascinated by BDSM but aren’t ready to go head over heels right away. Work your way up to the chains and bondage.
Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto
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As I mentioned, not every sex gift has to tie directly into sexual stimulation. Some can be informative, like sex columnist Zachary Zane’s Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Zane is a bisexual man who has faced a ton of internal insecurities with his sexuality, whether it stems from internalized homophobia or self-judgment towards his own kinks or body count. His writing style is both smart and comedic as he writes through his life story, making for a thoughtful yet exciting read. Anybody — bisexual, straight, gay, male, female, non-binary — should read this book if they want to learn more about their right to be a sexual being. Essentially, if you’re having sex, this should be on your bookshelf.
Crave Vesper 2 Elevated Pleasure Necklace
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The sexiest sex gifts exist in plain sight, discretely. “This gift functions as two gifts in one. The receiver gets a beautiful necklace that pairs with elegant outfits, and whenever they feel inspired, it also turns into a vibrator that is great for all kinds of play,” says Lampert and Baldwin. A vibrator that wearers can openly rock is very sexy whether or not it’s being used for sex, and great for anyone who already loves jewelry.
The Original Rose Toy
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Though it’s become a meme in recent times, the Rose Toy is probably one of the most iconic sex gifts you can give. Period. This clitoral stimulator has seven different sucking patterns to stimulate extremely sensual self or partnered play. It uses skin-safe, medical-grade silicone that’s 100% hypoallergenic for a comfortable toy-to-skin touch. Plus, if your giftee knows anything about meme culture, this could be as laughable as it will be sexy. A two-for-one!
Liberator Sex Position Wedge
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Your partner wants to arch their back while the deed is going down. I get it, that’s hot. But it also crosses into back-breaking territory that’ll push the limits of anyone over the age of 25. The Liberator Sex Position Wedge solves this age-old problem by creating a space underneath the archer so the non-archer can go to town without fear of injury. As an emergency room is about the least sexy place there is.
LELO Tor 2
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If one is looking to go the sex toy route, cock rings are great gifts for people with penises. Vibrating cock rings are great gifts for, well, everybody that’s having sex with a penis. The LELO Tor 2 is a high-tech cock ring that fits all sizes. It vibrates for penis stimulation in addition to vaginal or anal stimulation. With each thrust comes an extra vibrating frequency the receiver will enjoy. Each ring is 100% waterproof and has six settings for all the fun.
Le Mystère Lace Allure Halter Bodysuit
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While some may say there is nothing better than the naked body, lingerie has been around for ages aiming to disprove that. And, TBH, it’s been working. This striking lace bodysuit is designed to get the ball rolling in the bedroom. It’s the sex gift that’s existed before all sex gifts, and given how many options there are on the internet, it damn well shows. This time around we’re opting for Le Mystère, an inclusive brand that has bust sizes from 32A to 44H.
Fun Factory MANTA Vibrating Stroker
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This is the wildest-looking penis stroker on the market, but don’t fear. It’s fucking wild. And, it’s not just made for solo use; which is why it’s one of author Zachary Zane’s go-to’s. “Your partner can go down on you—sucking your head and using the MANTA on your shaft,” Zane tells SPY. “While penetrating your partner anally or vaginally, you can put the MANTA on your shaft, and both you and your partner will feel the vibrations.” Plus, because it’s open-ended, everything is fully visible, unlike other male masturbators.
Unbound Babes Booty Basics Gift Set
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This Unbound Booty Basics set for beginners is a perfect sex gift for the anal curious or those experienced with the back door who don’t need a ton of bells and whistles. The silicone plug allows you to experiment with larger or smaller girths and is designed to be less scary to insert and remove. Plus, water-based lube is included. Free lube!
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