150 Best Questions To Ask in Your Long-Distance Relationship

What game do we all play when we want to get to know someone better? Sure, it's also a cure for boredom, but playing 21 questions is always a good idea when you really want to get to know anyone new or someone you're already close with that much better. The problem is, which questions should you ask to decipher what you really want to know about them?

While most of the time playing 21 questions is lighthearted and fun, in some contexts, it could be a make-it-or-break-it situation. If you've entered into a new relationship only to find yourselves working at the long-distance aspect, you've come to the right place to find the best long-distance relationship questions to ask your partner in order to find out if you're meant to be. Whether you're asking questions as a way to decide if this person is right for you, or just as a fun way to pass the time while you can't physically be together, we have the perfect questions to choose from!

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150 Long-Distance Relationship Questions

1. How do you spend your free time?

2. Does your family have a role in your decision-making?

3. What do you hate to do?

4. How important is your work to you?

5. How do you define success?

6. Would you rather be happy or successful?

7. Is religion important to you?

8. When was your last relationship and how long was it?

9. Why did your last relationship end?

10. What is your dream job?

11. Would you rather talk about dreams and how to make them happen or where you've been and what you could have done differently?

12. If money weren't a factor, what would you most like to do with your time?

13. Do you like to go for walks?

14. What do you believe makes a person "good"?

15. What do you like to do to unwind or decompress at the end of your day?

16. What's the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?

17. What part of your daily routine can you not do without?

18. Would you rather vacation at the beach or in the mountains?

19. Who is your favorite sports team?

20. Which do you like more, polka dots or stripes?

21. Do you believe that you could protect yourself, or others, if a physical altercation arose?

22. Who is somebody you admire, and what about them do you look up to and respect?

23. Do you think people change, or stay the same? Have you changed over the years?

24. What motivates you to be better?

25. Do you like to go horseback riding?

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Long-Distance Relationship Questions About Music

26. What is your least favorite type of music?

27. What is your favorite type of music?

28. Can you play any instruments?

29. Do you like to perform in front of people?

30. Would you rather buy a new album or go to a live concert?

31. Do you have a record or CD collection?

32. Where do you feel music sounds the best? (Driving in the car, in your room, etc.)

33. Is there a song that never fails to get you in your feels? What is it?

34. Is there a song that makes you think of me?

35. Do you like to sing along to songs when you listen to music?

36. Have you ever considered a career in the music industry?

37. Do you enjoy listening to Christmas music?

38. Do you like to make playlists for different occasions?

39. What's your favorite band or artist?

40. Do you have a favorite song?

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Long-Distance Relationship Questions To Discover Preferences

41. What is the most important thing to you in your life?

42. How close are you to your family?

43. Do you want to settle down or be a nomad?

44. What's your favorite thing to discuss?

45. Is fitness important to you? Do you go to the gym?

46. Is it important to you that your partner is physically active?

47. How do you prioritize daily tasks?

48. Do you enjoy traveling?

49. How important are looks to you in a relationship?

50. What's your favorite book?

51. What's your favorite TV show?

52. Do you have any family traditions? What are they?

53. Are you more artsy or straightforward?

54. Is learning important to you, even after graduation?

55. Are you a cat or a dog person?

56. What would be your dream car?

57. What vehicle do you think is most practical for your life?

58. Do you like to plan details, or go with the flow?

59. What's your favorite hobby, and is it important to be able to do that hobby with your partner?

60. Do you sleep with the TV on or in complete silence?

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Food Questions To Ask in a Long-Distance Relationship

61. Do you prefer pie or cake?

62. Do you like to cook?

63. How often would you prefer to eat out instead of at home?

64. What is your favorite type of food?

65. What is your favorite dish?

66. Are you better at cooking or baking?

67. What is your go-to easy dish?

68. If you do the cooking, do you expect someone else to do the cleaning?

69. Do you like breakfast in bed?

70. Do you have to eat at the table, or do you prefer to be somewhere more comfortable?

71. What type of candy do you like more, sweet or sour?

72. Are you a chocolate lover?

73. Do you prefer drinking coffee or tea?

74. Do you like to have breakfast for dinner?

75. What was your favorite food as a kid?

76. What is your favorite dessert?

77. Do you have a specific meal on your birthday?

78. What foods do you consider reserved for special occasions?

79. Have you ever been, or tried to be, a vegetarian?

80. Would you consider going vegan?

81. Do you think of food as a delicacy or a necessary part of survival?

82. Would you rather have a pizza or a burger?

83. Are you okay with sharing your food?

84. Have you ever started or been a part of a food fight?

85. If you're asked to bring a dish to a party, do you make it yourself or buy it?

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Movies and TV Questions To Ask in a Long-Distance Relationship

86. Do you ever see yourself being on TV?

87. If you were an actor, what would you star in?

88. What is your all-time favorite movie?

89. Do you have a favorite actor/actress?

90. What TV show do you put on as your comfort show?

91. Is there a series that you haven't watched that you'd really like to?

92. Do you watch certain movies for certain occasions? (Holidays, time of year, etc.)

93. If you could only watch one movie for the rest of your life, which would it be?

94. What movie changed your life?

95. What TV shows did you enjoy as a kid?

96. What is your least favorite TV show?

97. What is your least favorite movie?

98. Do you have a favorite genre of movies?

99. If we started a show together, would you watch episodes without me?

100. Would you like to put a movie on at the same time so we can watch it together on a date?

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Long-Distance Questions To Decipher Personality

101. Who had the most impact on you growing up and why?

102. What do you think is the biggest mistake a parent can make when it comes to their children?

103. How has your faith shaped your life?

104. Could you be with someone who has a different religion?

105. Do you think good people sometimes do bad things, or if someone does something bad that makes them a bad person?

106. Could you get on stage and perform in front of a group of people?

107. Who do you most look up to?

108. In your opinion, what is your best physical feature?

109. Would you rather spend the night in or go out?

110. Do you like to play video games?

111. Do you like to read?

112. Are you a part of any fandoms?

113. How do you handle yourself when you're angry?

114. Do you believe that aliens exist?

115. Are there any games that you'd like us to play while on a call with each other?

116. Do you prefer to be in the thick of things surrounded by people, or by yourself?

117. Do you prefer to address issues right when they arise or spend time thinking about how you'd like to solve them?

118. How do you feel about your date answering their phone or being on their phone while you're trying to spend time together?

119. What's your first thought when you wake up in the morning?

120. Do you consider yourself more optimistic or pessimistic, and why?

121. There's a quote that says "I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not." How much do you agree with that?

122. Do you like comedy? What type is your favorite?

123. Do you enjoy scary movies?

124. What is your favorite holiday?

125. Are you ever ashamed or embarrassed to admit the things you like or that make you happy?

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Questions About Your Long-Distance Relationship

126. How do you know when you're in love?

127. Have you ever been in love before?

128. What is your love language?

129. How do you show love?

130. Is it important to you to have time apart in a relationship?

131. How driven are you? Is it important that your partner is as driven as you are, and will it hurt your relationship if they aren’t?

132. When do you feel most loved?

133. How do you feel about couples counseling?

134. How do you like to spend time together with your significant other?

135. Do you believe that while in a relationship you should be able to have secrets?

136. How do you feel about sharing social media profiles, passwords, phone access, etc.?

137. Have you ever cheated in a relationship?

138. Have you ever been cheated on?

139. How important is honesty in a relationship?

140. Could you ever forgive someone who cheated?

141. What does your ideal date look like?

142. How do you deal with jealousy in a relationship?

143. What are you looking for most in a partner?

144. What is the biggest red flag to you in a relationship?

145. Do you think lying is permissible?

146. What is your favorite thing about how we met?

147. Do you want to have kids?

148. Would you want to adopt kids?

149. What do you think is the biggest weakness in our relationship?

150. What do you see as the greatest strength in our relationship?

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