15 Totally Chill Ways to Flirt With Your Crush
Feeling tongue-tied in front of a crush is completely normal, and most of the time, feels inevitable. You of course want them to know that you’re interested, but you don’t want to come on too strong, either. It might be tempting to blurt out your feelings (and sometimes it happens!) but from playful texts to subtle body language, there are so many chill ways to flirt with your crush.
If you’re not sure how to strike up a conversation with your crush — and that’s okay! — start with the basics below. They’ll totally pick up the hints, be completely impressed, and hopefully, you two will be planning your first date (and even second date!) in no time. Here’s your totally chill, non-embarrassing, easy-to-learn guide to flirting.
1. Like their Instagrams and watch their Snapchats. Liking one Insta post every few months doesn’t really send the message that you’re into them. But being a consistent liker — and leaving a cute comment every now and then — will help them get the hint sooner or later. Sending a cute Snapchat is another way to strike up a flirty conversation.
2. Make eye contact. You don’t need to get into a staring contest, but looking your crush in the eye when they talk is a subtle way to show that you’re genuinely interested in the conversation. Plus, it helps the convo feel even more ~intimate.~
3. Let your emojis do the talking. Think more strategically-placed kissy faces, less 10 zillion heart-eyes. The addition of a 🥰, 😍, or even 😜 lets you show off a little bit of your playful side.
4. Wave and say “hi” when they walk by. Don’t overthink it — just give your crush a quick hello when you pass them in the hall or see them waiting for the bus after school. It’s just one second of putting yourself out there and you’re done. They’ll get the message, or at the very least, will be flattered that you went out of your way to say hi.
5. Invite your crush to hang out as part of a group. Whether you’re hosting a party, group study sesh, or movie night, invite your crush along. The group setting is way less pressure than a one-on-one date, but the fact that you thought to include your crush lets them know they’re on your mind.
6. Say something simple, then keep the conversation going. You, um, totally “forgot” to write down the English homework, so you shoot your crush a casual text. Once you get the homework assignment, continue the convo — you already have their attention, so why not? The more you two talk, the more you can show off your personality (and learn about theirs).
7. Remember what they tell you, then bring it up later. Taking note of the little details is a sweet but subtle way of showing someone you care. When your crush tells you that they’re taking a fam vacation to the Grand Canyon for spring break, bring it up later. It may cause a lightbulb to go off in their head. All of a sudden, they think, Wait, whoa, they remembered I told them that! Awesome.
8. Ask questions. On a similar note, make sure to ask thoughtful questions, whether about their day, a recent trip, or that bio exam they studied all weekend for. It’s a seamless way to kickstart a conversation, and helps you learn more about them and their interests.
9. Give them a sincere compliment. Go ahead, make them feel all glow-y and blush-y and smiley.
10. Casually touch their arm when talking. This is a classic flirting tip for a reason: Even if your crush isn’t great at picking up on signals, they’ll def notice a tiny bit of physical contact. Gently touch their arm when you’re chatting, subtly brush your hand up against theirs when you’re walking into the football game together, or playfully tap their shoulder when they make you laugh.
11. Offer them a fry. If you’re eating lunch in the cafeteria with your crush, ask if they want to split a snack. You wouldn’t share your fries with just anyone, right? It’s a clear signal you’re into them without being over the top.
12. Give them something small but thoughtful. Like say, their fave candy bar. You just, um, “happened” to grab two at CVS and you knew they’d appreciate it. It’s fine to play it off really casually like you just randomly had an extra one in your bag.
13. Gently tease them. Just remember — you want to be playful, not hurtful. If you’re texting, add a cute emoji (like the 😉 or 😜) or an LOL so they know that you’re being sarcastic and funny.
14. Send memes and funny TikToks. Show off your sense of humor with a hilarious meme or TikTok. It’ll instantly feel like an inside joke between the two of you.
15. Share details about yourself. It’s nice to ask questions and show interest in their lives, but don’t forget to open up about yourself, too! If you’re talking about summer vacation, for example, offer up what you have planned. This gives your crush the opportunity to learn more about you and helps drive the conversation forward so it’s not just one-sided.
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