What the Way You Interact With Money Says About You
Do you practice money avoidance, or money worship? (Photo: Stocksy)
We are all emotionally complex. Sometimes, we are intentionally dishonest with ourselves so we will feel better. Other times our emotional complexities are subconscious. Those complexities can impact different parts of our lives. An area of particular concern, that can be overlooked, is our finances.
Paul Sullivan wrote an interesting New York Times piece earlier this year titled “Stressed by Money? Get on the Couch“ about people going through “financial therapy” to get a better grip on their emotions and behavior around money.
Certainly, from what I’ve seen, the relationships among money, happiness, and habits are extraordinarily complex.
Sullivan cites financial psychologist Brad Klontz for the notion that people have four basic “money scripts” — that is, stories that we tell ourselves about money. Which describes you?
Money avoidance: People who try to distance themselves from money, and in doing so, often undermine their financial well-being.
Money worship: People who believe that if they had more money, it would solve all their problems.
Money status: People who tie their money to their self of well-being (“net worth = self worth”).
Money vigilance: People who are cautious about spending and pay debts promptly; they’re the ones who may refuse to spend for no rational reason.
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The article notes that these “scripts” often run through our heads outside our conscious awareness of them.
How about you? What script fits you best? Mine is money vigilance. Perhaps that’s partly why I’m an under-buyer.
Do you think there are any “scripts” that weren’t listed?
Gretchen Rubin is the author of the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, Better Than Before, The Happiness Project, and Happier at Home. On her weekly podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin, she discusses good habits and happiness with her sister Elizabeth Craft. She writes about happiness and habit-formation at gretchenrubin.com. Follow her on Twitter @gretchenrubin, or on Facebook, at facebook.com/GretchenRubin.
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