'13 Reasons Why' star Tommy Dorfman is officially married!

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Congratulations to Tommy Dorfman and her new wife!

Dorfman, who starred in Netflix's 13 Reasons Why and was honored with the GLAAD Rising Star Award in 2017 has gotten married to her new wife Elise! The two happy brides shared the news on Instagram and through Vogue Weddings, who captured beautiful images of them in wedding dresses.

"Congratulations are in order for @Tommy.Dorfman and her partner Elise—the couple are officially married! After a spontaneous wedding in Los Angeles last year, Dorfman and her new wife decided to mark their marriage in a more meaningful way when back home in Brooklyn," Vogue Weddings' post says. "'We decided that, at some point down the line, we would just elope. Our love had formed and grown in a contained bubble, so why couldn’t our marriage be on the same terms?' Dorfman writes exclusively for Vogue."

In the article, Dorfman says that she met Elise on the dating app Hinge, shortly after she left her marriage to Peter Zurkuhlen, with whom she was married from 2016-2021.

"The first few months of our relationship set the tone for how we would eventually get married. We got engaged two months into dating. To our credit, we waited a full 12 months before moving in together, so you can’t say we U-Hauled (though one might argue taking in a Great Dane puppy at our six-month mark was a smidge irresponsible)," she wrote.

"We decided that, at some point down the line, we would just elope," she continued. "Elise never aspired to be a bride in the traditional sense—she didn’t have fantasies of walking down the aisle or large swaths of people staring at her and her future partner as they performed the spectacle and theatrics of marriage. Simply put, she just didn’t feel the need for a big event, and since I had already had that experience at my first wedding with 300-plus guests, I happily obliged."

The two married in the fall of 2023 on the Malibu shoreline.

"While we won’t live our lives online in any way that isn’t well-protected, we do see the benefit of celebrating our love with the world—and, frankly, the importance of people seeing trans and queer love en vogue," Dorfman said.

In a TikTok in 2022, Dorfman came out as lesbian.

"Can someone tell me how I went from being a straight boy to a gay boy to a nonbinary person to a trans straight woman, I thought, to I guess I am a trans lesbian," she said.

Now it looks like it was this relationship with Elise that helped her realize that. We couldn't be happier for the two of them!