Women Are Sharing C-Section Scar Selfies to Challenge Perceptions About Caesareans
Just one day after giving birth to her baby daughter, Alexa, Raquel Renteria took to social media to share a picture. It wasn’t an image of her newborn she wanted the world to see, but the raw caesarean scar she’d been left with after giving birth.
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The new mom from California wanted everyone to know why she was proud of her scar and to share an empowering message to other women who have given birth via C-section.
“The last few weeks leading up to Alexa’s birth, I was scared. I was terrified of this surgery,” she wrote. “I was afraid of this scar and the long term effects it would have on body and my mind. I was worried I would feel inadequate, like I didn’t give birth to her.”
“So many different fears lingered, but SO many other mamas told me, it would all be okay,” she continued. “And it is. I don’t feel as if I was robbed of a birth or like less of a bad a**.”
Raquel isn’t the only one to take to social media to share a C-section scar selfie. Earlier this year new mom Raye Lee shared images of her own postsurgery scar to prove that caesareans are not the “easy way out.”
Having grown tired of others commenting that having a C-section meant she hadn’t actually given birth, Raye Lee shared an image of her scarring alongside a message calling out people for birth-shaming.
“Ah, yes. My emergency c-section was absolutely a matter of convenience,” she wrote. “It was really convenient to be in labour for 38 hours before my baby went into distress and then every contraction was literally STOPPING his HEART.”
“This was the most painful thing I have experienced in my life,” she continued. “Having a shrieking infant pulled out of an incision that is only five inches long, but is cut and shredded and pulled until it rips apart through all of your layers of fat, muscle, and organs (which they lay on the table next to your body, in order to continue to cut until they reach your child) is a completely different experience than I had imagined my son’s birth to be.”
And back in October, Jodie Shaw posted a picture of her C-section scar to Instagram, taken just two days after giving birth to her second child.
“A new day and a what seems to be another new post from someone insinuating that giving birth by caesarian means that you didn’t give birth. Can we please just stop!” she wrote in the accompanying caption.
“I obviously can’t change people’s views but I’ve decided to post this picture to see if it may make people understand that despite what our birth plans might say. Sometimes we don’t get a choice,” she wrote.
“I didn’t get a choice. I had a fibroid the size of a melon sat on my cervix and a low lying placenta which meant that I’ve been left with no ordinary c-section scar. But whether you believe this or not. I gave birth to my baby. So next time you judge someone for not doing what you consider to be ‘giving birth’ please take a minute to think about why they may have had to deliver that way.”
That’s well said, but the fact that women feel the need to share images of their caesarean scars to “prove” that they’ve given birth is pretty concerning.
Unfortunately though, birth-shaming is an actual thing, and the caesarean birth backlash is a hot topic. As if mothers weren’t being pitted against each other enough with bottle or breast, stay at home or go back to work, we now have to add birth-shaming into the mix?
With about one in three births happening by C-section in the United States, it seems senseless to have yet another way to make women feel inferior about how they bring a child into the world.
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