5 Tips for Breaking Up With Your Hairdresser
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It’s pretty difficult to go through life without being dissatisfied with a haircut or two. But few take it as far as United States Postal Service employee Rachel Meyers, 26, who reportedly rampaged through her New York City salon after a botched ‘do. “Suddenly this like 20-pound metal box was being hurled at my head, so I ducked and somehow it hit my leg,” one victim told DNAinfo New York. “I don’t think she was throwing it at me, I was just in the way of this crazy scene. I felt like I was in a movie; it was that dramatic.”
Myers was charged with several misdemeanors, including two counts of third-degree assault, but while she certainly reacted in an extreme fashion, she isn’t the first person to end things with a stylist whose technique was less than satisfactory. In fact, breaking up with your hairdresser can be as dramatic—or traumatic—as breaking up with a boyfriend. “When we’re sitting in that chair, it seems more than business,” says Patricia Napier-Fitzpatrick, founder of the Etiquette School of New York. “It’s a more personal relationship.”
Elana, a New York-based fashion writer who swears by Japanese hair straightening, experienced her first hairdresser “breakup” as a teenager moving to Manhattan from Miami to attend college. “I went to the same woman in South Florida for my straightening from the time I was 13, up until a few years after I moved [north] for school. She was great and so sweet, but I found a place in Manhattan that did the same thing for half the price and in half the time” she says. “The last time I went in for an appointment, I told her I’d be switching to someplace more local. To be honest, I think the process was harder on me than it was on her, simply because I know the risks that come with chemical straightening and was wary of letting anyone else experiment on my hair.” Ironically, Elana’s mom now sees her old stylist for keratin treatments, so while she may have lost one customer, she gained another.
Not all breakups end so amicably, though. Susan, a New York City-based editor, abandoned her longtime colorist after a series of too-stripey highlight jobs. He wasn’t happy. “A few years later, I was walking across Park Avenue and I saw him coming toward me,” she says. “We met in the island in the middle, he reached out, picked up a section of my hair, and said, “You left me for this?!”, dropped my hair in disgust, and kept on walking.”
The most awkward breakup of all time goes to Vanessa, a Los Angeles-based talent manager. While she still loved the sun-kissed, balayage highlights her hairdresser gave her, she no longer loved him. (They started seeing each other romantically just a few sessions in.) “After several super hot dates, he became too lazy and bratty,” she says. “I even had to stop seeing the guy who cut my hair because I wasn’t going to be caught dead in that salon again.”
Think it’s time to end things with your stylist? Just remember: we’ve all been there. “It’s unreasonable for a hairstylist to expect to keep you as a client forever,” reasons Elana. “Circumstances change, people move and new places are constantly popping up that offer the same services for less, or in a more convenient way. It’s the same reason I don’t feel bad when I switch dentists or doctors!”