The Best Relationship Advice From Real People
Relationship advice isn’t one-size-fits-all, so it helps to get a range of opinions. And while we’re huge fans of credentialed sex and relationship experts, sometimes you just need some real talk from women who’ve been there. That’s why we’ve decided to draw from Refinery29’s library of personal stories to glean some real-world advice. These are people who’ve been through specific romantic challenges and have come out of them wiser — and are happy to spread their newfound wisdom.
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Several of them discovered unique ways to weather a breakup. Others found joy in adding a third person to their long-term relationship. And a few realized the bliss of opting not to Instagram stalk prospective dates. Whatever the story, their credentials come from blood-sweat-and-tears experience.
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We’ve rounded up some of our favorite pieces of relationship advice from our arsenal of real-life experts. Click through for tips that will (with any luck) help you get through some common relationship challenges. And don’t forget to check back, since we’ll be adding new lessons regularly.
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“I’m only human, and that love was very real — maybe the realest one yet. It took him knowing me, it took me trusting him, it took us being honest with each other — all elements of a great friendship — to understand what the best version of our relationship can be right now. We’re two people who shared something special, and will always care about each other, but we can’t co-exist in a healthy way at the moment.”
“Can You Really Stay Friends With An Ex?” by Christine Sulik
“Not only will I stop looking at the Instagram accounts of the people I am sleeping with (I’m talking about checking their tagged photos and their activity; it’s fine to follow them like a normal person), but I also vow to stop inspecting their ex-girlfriend’s Instagrams. And the girls whose photos they are ‘liking.’ It’s best to just not go there, or I end up reading into things too much.”
“9 Dating & Sex Resolutions” by Martha Flynn
“Four weeks A.D. (After Dissolution), I had already exhausted a number of coping mechanisms: I had listened to the new Adele album, binge-watched Jessica Jones, and eaten cookies for dinner. But since my breakup, which happened to occur the day after I ran the New York City Marathon, the one self-care action I hadn’t been taking was working out.”
“How ClassPass Helped Me Recover From An Awful Breakup” by Acacia O'Connor
“My partner, Ryan*, and I are non-monogamous. When we first opened things up two years ago, we both hooked up with people separately, but we were also eager to engage in our first threesome. This turned out to be a challenge.”
“My Boyfriend & I Got A Girlfriend — & This Is What Happened” by Alicia Morgan
“It’s not that sex stopped. (We actually had sex even before we were supposed to, five weeks after our baby was born — and yes, I had an episiotomy.) It’s that it changed. Sex has been part of my life since I was a teenager and I was pretty confident that I knew what it felt like and how to do it. I was wrong.”
“6 Things No One Tells You About Sex After Childbirth” by Claire Litton-Cohn
“I spent all my spare time with the two of them and quickly developed a sense of comfort within this new role. People would often presume I was her mother when we were out, and we all behaved as though I was. At two years old, she was still wearing nappies and learning how to form coherent sentences, so it was far easier for me to step into this type of relationship than if she’d been older. We were both developing new skills, and this helped to bond us.”
“What I Learned From Falling In Love With A Single Father” by Katherine Phillips
“I went to three festivals this summer without him; I don’t think he viewed my muddy Doc Martens with the slightest bit of resentment. But I’ve also had to learn to give more importance to quiet time, and to actually schedule them in. We may be opposites, but I’m still definitely attracted enough to my opposite to clear the diary for him.”
“When You Love Going Out And Your Partner Loves Staying In” by Holly Williams
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