5 Ways to Combat Your Inner Perfectionist
Expert Life Coach Jacqueline Hurst gives Get The Gloss her top tips on what to do when the desire for perfection starts to hinder your goals
A little bit of perfectionism can be a good thing - well presented work, an impeccably decorated house or a string of high achievements can be the outcome. However, what happens when that nit-picking voice starts to pile on too much pressure, leaving you suffering under the weight of neverending competition with yourself?
We reached out to Clinical Hypnotist and Life Coach, Jacqueline Hurst, to get her top tips on what to do when aiming for greatness turns into disastrously striving for flawlessness.
FEEL THE FEAR
“Perfectionism is a safety net for scared people,” says Jacqueline. “It’s the same as procrastination. We only ever procrastinate if we are inverse perfectionists. The first tip is to let go of thinking that it won’t be right if it isn’t perfect and step into the unknown - just do the best you can with what you’ve got. We can always build on things but we can’t build on things if we aren’t putting them out there due to ‘fear’. Fear is a four letter word so take the bull by the horns, feel the fear and do it anyway.”
THINK POSITIVE
“Think about what you are thinking about,” says Jacqueline. “Are your thoughts working for or against you? Are you freaking yourself out with the ‘what if it all goes wrong’ record? If so, try swapping that thought to ‘and what if it all goes right….?” Simply believing in your own ability to be successful could be just the ticket to see you go the extra mile.
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DO IT FOR YOU
“If you are worrying about what anyone else might think you need to recalibrate your thoughts. Is, whatever you are doing, ultimately because you want to be proud and happy or to impress others? Trying to impress anyone other than yourself is exhausting. YOU being proud of what YOU achieve is all that matters. Let the rest go.”
HONE YOUR EMOTIONS
“Emotions and feelings are created by our thoughts,” says Jacqueline. “If we choose the right thoughts we get the right feelings. Ask yourself what feeling you want and then start working your thoughts towards achieving this. Use a notepad and write this stuff down - It’s extremely powerful.”
CHECK YOURSELF
“Doing the best you can with what you’ve got is good enough - it’s important to remember that,” says Jacqueline. “Check your expectation levels and measure up if they are realistic or unrealistic? Would you be demanding the same performance or outcome from your daughter/best friend/colleague?” If not, you may be pushing yourself too far. “Check your thoughts, check your perspective and check your expectations.”
For more helpful tips and tricks on life management from Jacqueline, head to www.thelifeclass.com.
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