All the upcoming drama in Alexia Echevarria’s life on "The Real Housewives of Miami" is, tragically, of the real variety. Her youngest son Frankie Rosello continues to recuperate from a major car accident, while her older son Peter Rosello remains a "work in progress" after being charged with felony battery after he punched a sleeping homeless man last year.
Here, we chat with Alexia as she cries, laughs, and sends a message to all the know-it-all critics in the blogosphere.
It can be hard when your friends want to talk about each other and you are in the middle of so many fights. Do we see that come to a head?
I actually like Lea and I like Adriana, and I think they both have a lot of valid points, so they are the only ones that can fix this problem. And it’s really interesting how it unfolds. For me, it's really tough because I kind of analyze both sides, and I can't make anybody change their minds about anyone. And I think it takes time. Sometimes you can't get in the middle so much. And I'm also in the middle between Lea and Marysol, and that is even more uncomfortable because I am very friendly with Marysol, and that is why I have a problem with Lea because it feels like I should pick sides and I have a problem with picking sides. That's just me. I have always been like that. I've always been the girl that gets along with everyone. And there has to be one, don't you think?
Agreed. So when you and Marysol hang out and you get snapped by the paparazzi, do you worry about Lea seeing the pictures?
I don't think about it. Lea loves Herman and my kids, and she always makes it a point to say she loves them, and the other day I go, “What about me? When are you gonna say ‘I love Alexia'?” And I said, “I know what your answer is. You're gonna say, 'I love Alexia when she picks my side.'” We were cracking up. Everybody is the way they are and I respect that. You'll see on the show I can be friends with both of them without being the gossip. I am not the type that talks. That's not my personality, because at the end, you're the one that comes out looking like an ass and you're in the middle.
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Joanna did an interview recently where she described Adriana as a con artist. Thoughts?
I could have told you that. It doesn’t surprise me. You have to watch and see why she says that. I don’t see it that way, but it all depends on your relationship. I wouldn't say that, but I guess she got that from Lea. Lea is the one who calls her the con artist.
And she called Marysol boring. What do you think of that?
Um, no. She doesn’t know Marysol the way I know Marysol, and you’ll be watching the real Marysol this season. And I think her storyline is stronger this season, even though she is recurring; she is friendly with me and Adriana, so she has a lot of scenes with us.
Your mother is a riot. Are we gonna see a lot of her?
I’m really privileged to have a mother who is my mother and my friend. She was always more like a friend than a mother. She’s a psychiatrist, she’s like a 30-year-old trapped in... I don’t want to say her age, because she'll kill me. Mentally, she is such a liberal, open-minded person: so much fun, always has something smart to say that makes a lot of sense. She really speaks the truth. And I think I got that from my mom. She spends time here now because of what I have been going through for the last two years. My mother is sort of being like the mediator in the way she can, which is psychologically.
She seems to have a good way with Peter. Is that helpful?
Yes, she is. If she didn’t have problems with her knees and back, she would be going with Peter to clubs because that is her mindset. It’s very easy for him to talk to her. He feels he can talk to her more than he can to me. People feel very comfortable speaking to her.
Does she give you too much advice? Do you ever go, "Mom, lay off, it’s my kid"?
No. You know what, I don't. I have never had that attitude with my mom… You don’t want your kids to make the same mistakes that you made, but some kids will listen and some don’t. Peter makes his own mistakes and learns from them to get where he is today. If I had listened to my mom, I wouldn't have made a lot of mistakes, but you learn from them and turn negative to positive. Life goes on. Being able to get up after you're down and move forward is what is important.
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Which of your friends have been there the most for you throughout your ordeals?
Marysol has been, and Anna and I were friendly before. I mean, I am still friendly with her, but I have known her from before the show the most. Lea has been very supportive, too. I like Lea a lot. She just has a weird way of showing that she cares for you. I think that is where she comes off as a tough person. She has a hard time showing her feelings and emotions. But I like her and I get her. She was very good with me and came to visit at the hospital and sent texts and prayers, so I will always appreciate that.
Is it hard to relive things when they hit the web? Peter’s arrest was in April, but it didn’t make headlines for a few months. Do you read the blogs?
First of all, I don’t have a Google alert on me or any of the girls. Nobody knows my life more than me. I do not read what other people write about me. I have never done it, not even in Season 1. I Googled myself once in my life. And you are always gonna see something you don’t like, so for me to stay sane, I don't have a thick skin, so I don't read anything. My husband does. And he is like, "Oh, information is power," but no. Nobody knows what my life is like but me. If anybody is gonna write about it, it's gonna be me. And like I said, that was a turning point. That happened shortly after the homeless incident. Fortunately the case was dismissed, and nothing came out of that, but it was a turning point in my relationship with him and in his whole life, which you'll see in the show. And my relationship with him has gotten him to where he is today, a much better place. But he is a work in progress.
How is he now?
Peter is turning 21, and like I said, all kids are different. These last two years have been very difficult. When you go through this, almost losing your brother, every kid handles it differently. And I left Miami. I had to leave my kid, my home, and Herman and Peter, and focus on Frankie, and it was the only way I could recuperate and recover. So I kind of left everything behind and focused on Frankie. My mother's like, "Your son Peter is suicidal. You need to get involved." And that's when everything started. He was acting out, hanging out with the wrong people. He was pretty much on his own, not knowing whether his brother was gonna make it or not. He was at a very dark, dark place in his life and not caring or valuing his own life or the life of others and made mistakes, but not about of being a bad person or a bad boy, but out of desperation or attention-seeking. I don’t even know. There is no reason for it, besides that he was very troubled. You’ll see how six months later he is in a better place: still a work in progress, recuperated. The Peter I raised and knew, he is. And it's not because I am his mother defending him. He is my son and I will never give up on him. I don’t give up on my children. That's why my children are where they are today. I will not give up on them.
Alexia snaps when talking about her son Frankie at last season's "RHOM" reunion:
So essentially, he lost his brother and his mother for six months. That’s a lot.
For real, it was like that. He wrote me, "If my brother doesn't make it, I’m killing myself." Nobody knew that. I had to deal with that pain. I didn’t even want him to see his brother because he would go in and see his brother and start crying. [Cries] He loves him and he can't deal with that, and you don’t know how painful that is. And I'm not making excuses, but if people would be a little more sensitive toward kids at that age... they're so weak. We see them as strong because they're young, but that’s why you see these terrible things happening: kids committing suicide, or dying of overdoses. We are very quick to judge and they have nobody to turn to or fall back on. And you know, everybody is gonna say things — send him away, kick him out — but to me, that's a grandstand. There’s no way I could have done that. I did it my old-fashioned way that my Cuban dad would have done it. And my mom and my husband, we have a happy ending. We have bad days and good days. That's part of life. It's funny, because when somebody makes a comment, I’m like, "Is she a mother?" Or maybe her kids are small, because you know, small kids, small problems. Big kids, big problems. And you know, each child is a work of art. They're all different.
There are a lot of people who really lay into your parenting skills in the comments and message boards.
Unfortunately, we're living in a world where there is so much hatred. If people would focus more on the positive, on giving love... that's why I don't read those blogs. The comments scare me. It really scares me. That is why there are so many hate crimes. People are so miserable inside and have so much hate in their lives and hearts, and that's what they transmit, and they're not even afraid to transmit it in writing to other people. It's just awful. That's why I don't read it. I can't. I want to stay sane.
To lighten things up, your favorite episode of the upcoming season is...?
I had a lot of fun this season with my family, and I had a lot of fun in Adriana's wedding and Joanna's wedding. Adriana’s was in Miami and Joanna's was in San Diego, but I had a lot of fun in Vegas for Joanna’s bachelorette. That was one of the most fun things. We had to drive back because we missed our flight. That was a lot of fun in the car. Lea was driving and was hilarious; you gotta watch.
If you could leave something on the cutting room floor, what would it be?
Oh God. Probably my talks with Peter, because I can't control them. It’s so authentic sometimes... I don’t know, I haven’t watched. Sometimes you forget what you say, because at the moment, you have all these feelings and you don’t realize what comes out of your mouth. But everything else, I am happy to share, especially my miracle with Frankie and his recovery. I wanted to send the message of not giving up.
And the insurance is cooperating?
Unfortunately, you have to involve an attorney and scare them, but they have responded. On top of everything, we did have insurance and means and resources for him to have therapy five times a week, and aqua therapy. We have done everything you could possibly do and the love and the nurturing. It’s a team of people that have been part of the recovery process. I’ve been blessed with such amazing people helping Frankie. I talk about it and I get shaken up.
So let’s go out on a light note. Who had the craziest wedding guest: Joanna or Adriana?
Oh, that's a good one. At Adriana's… can it be her? [Laughs] No, I am just kidding. You know, Adriana's wedding was such a production and there was a theme and we had to change... there was so much going on that sometimes I forgot I was at a wedding. There was more craziness at Adriana's than at Joanna's. I don't remember a crazy guest at either of the weddings. As for craziness, there was more craziness at Adriana's, because the whole thing was crazy!
Season 3 of "The Real Housewives of Miami" premieres Monday, 8/12 at 9 PM on Bravo.