Travel Etiquette: How to Behave at a Hotel
Our new etiquette series tackles those nagging questions that have always plagued you while traveling. This week, we take on manners at hotels. Expert Erik Torkells—author of the Smart Traveler’s Passport, former editor in chief of Budget Travel, and all-around travel guru—is back. here to tell us right from wrong.
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Many resorts throw the couple a wedding in exchange for the bookings from the wedding guests. (Photo: Krista Guenin)
My cousin invited me to a destination wedding at a resort I can’t afford. Can I stay somewhere cheaper nearby instead?
Erik: In theory, you’re free to stay wherever you like, right? Wrong. Many destination weddings are paid for by the guests. The resort throws the happy couple a wedding—and sometimes gives them a honeymoon, too—in exchange for persuading a certain number of guests to stay at the resort. So if you were to stay elsewhere, you’re not holding up your end of the bargain. Moreover, many resorts charge non-guests a day-use fee just to set foot on the property.
I’m afraid this is one of those situations where you have to suck it up and go or manufacture a good reason why you can’t. Not being able to afford it may not be a “good” reason—that entirely depends on the betrothed couple’s perspective—and a white lie, like an unavoidable work conflict, might be kinder than the truth. If the wedding is a while off, write down any details related to your lie, in case you have to remember them later. (Trust me on this.) And if you want my two cents, anyone attending a destination wedding should feel zero obligation to give the couple more than a token wedding gift: your presence is present enough.
Staying at the resort is an etiquette must and part of the deal of attending a destination wedding. (Photo: Krista Guenin)
People “save” lounge chairs at resorts by getting up early and leaving their property on them. Wrong or right?
Erik: Wrong—and we all know it. But it’s not going to stop anytime soon (and bravo to the resorts who post signs saying property will be removed if left unattended for a certain amount of time). We must simply hope that karma bites the selfish in the rear, and take comfort in our own more evolved standards.